Purge by fire… could this help you?

Once again I’m inspired by a fellow blogger to write a post. Katherin Garland writes about the need to release and purge people, energy, and memories from our lives.

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As hard as I struggled to really release and purge old hurts from my heart, I would always slowly pull them back in as I nursed grievances, feeling that victimhood was well-earned, and not realizing how much it was clipping my wings.

Until I actually released those old pains, I was stuck in a repetitive loop that kept capsizing the boat I was trying to sail. I really had no idea how much I was hurting my mental health by holding onto the negativity, both in my memories and with how I subsequently spoke to myself.

Meanwhile changing my mindset without first learning a more positive way of handling my thoughts was unsuccessful because I had no understanding of how to do it. (I speak about how to do it in: Making a change… “How do I take that first step?”, A new you! Is this possible?, Teaching ourselves to like, even to love ourselves, and By changing our inner dialogue, we change EVERYTHING!)

I’ve done journaling, artmaking, and a combination of the two while I worked on my inner healing, but it really was a purge by fire that had an incredibly deep impact on my spirit. I’ll explain more about that below.

Katherin explains not only the benefits but gives some great advice. I hope you’ll visit her article and her site to get additional great advice!

“I’ve written before about the importance of releasing people, situations, and experiences, but I don’t think I’ve ever explained how I do this. What follows is my own process based on a compilation of suggestions from books and podcasts. Here are three basic ways I release people and experiences: journalingcutting energetic cords, and purging. JOURNALING, CUTTING ENERGETIC CORDS and PURGING”

Katherin Garland writes about the need to release and purge people from our lives. https://kwoted.wordpress.com/2022/08/15/monday-notes-how-to-release-people-and-experiences/

Personally, I have used art combined with writing to unburden my spirit from old wounds, as well as a way to deal with the difficult life circumstances I was in.

My most intense healing came from a piece that went through a few stages. I had created a moody Jackson Pollock-style piece with deep blues, and vibrant primary colors, which then served as a substrate to which I glued words and paragraphs of my angry thoughts I had written on various art papers I had laying around on my work-table.

When my second husband saw it laying on my table he was deeply disturbed by the extremely negative and aggressive appearance of it; unfortunately, that triggered yet another fight between us, and I ended up ripping the piece up, shouting at him “Are you happy now?” The more heated the fight got, the more I ripped the artwork up, crying and devastated that I had felt “driven” to destroy a powerful piece simply because he wasn’t able to see that I was doing my best to purge the old anger and pain from my heart.

He suggested I take the pieces up to the mountain and burn them in a BBQ pit. Even though his suggestion made sense, I became angry with him for being so critical of my work and my process. I was sure he was motivated to just get the artwork out of the house in any way that he could, but I decided to give the process a chance.

I packed up those pieces, plus a bunch of other random art supplies, not knowing exactly what I was going to do, but allowed my hands to make the choices for me. I went up to the mountain, lit some sage in a shell to try to calm down and start my process.

I was still emotionally attached to the original piece, so I didn’t have the heart to burn everything entirely, so I separated all the small pieces into piles. The obviously angry and negative pieces I put in one pile, while I made other piles for the pieces which seemed less angry, and even one which seemed positive. I put all the negative pieces into a paper bag for burning. The tedious process was somehow very calming and helped me to feel in control of my emotions and what was happening within me.

For some reason, my hands had grabbed some colored charcoal papers I had previously imprinted leaf patterns on, and I decided to glue the positive pieces onto these.

What I discovered about that process was that I could give myself permission to release the negative and just keep the positive pieces and experiences in my life.

The analogy hit me so hard that I started crying in relief. I burned the bag of negativity, speaking my thoughts and prayers while the flames burned, I pictured all my thoughts going heavenward to the Angels and to God in the rising smoke. I asked them to help me, to take the emotional burdens I had been carrying in my heart for years, and help me to feel okay about moving forward.

The purge through fire was very powerful. Being able to descend from the mountain with fresh pieces of artwork helped me see that when we release the negative, we create something new inside of ourselves, which is very precious because it was so hard-won.

Years later I read the book “Adventures of the Soul” by James Van Praagh, and learned about energy and Quantum Physics. The actions I had taken previously made more sense and I saw how powerful our thoughts are!

I truly support the purge by fire process, and if we burn sage, (or lavender, or sweetgrass) we turn it into a personal ceremony of great significance and healing.

A COUPLE MORE THOUGHTS from Katherin Garland

  • Releasing people is not about cutting people off; it’s about moving on. Prior to releasing, I always attempt to hold a conversation to express concerns, so we can move forward together. When that doesn’t occur, then I have to move on independently. 
  • Always release people and experiences with love and gratitude, because in my opinion, there’s a reason why you engaged with those people or had specific experiences. We all help each other in one way or another.
  • Everyone doesn’t need to complete these processes. Some of us have the ability to go with the flow, move on, or accept an it-is-what-it-is mindset. What I’ve described here is helpful for those of us who don’t function in that way.
Katherin Garland writes about the need to release and purge people from our lives. https://kwoted.wordpress.com/2022/08/15/monday-notes-how-to-release-people-and-experienc

I believe this little “ceremony” was crucial not only to my healing but to be able to move forward to write my 2 books about the lessons I learned along this journey and how they can help you on yours. If you don’t have time to read, they’re both available in audiobooks, with narrators who were selected for their soothing and gentle voices.

When I came down from the mountain I felt changed but the magic of that day kept working in my heart long after.

I hope you will try this powerful technique for yourself and be able to move forward with your own inner journey.

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24 thoughts on “Purge by fire… could this help you?

  1. Tamara, thank you so much for sharing/linking to my thoughts. I appreciate it, and I’m happy to know we could, yet again, connect in this way. It almost proves what I was saying about energy.

    On a sidenote, there’s no “e” at the end of my name. People have added one ever since I born lol

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    1. I’m always delighted to be on the same wavelength! I apologize for not spelling your name correctly, I’ll try to be mindful of it. I appreciate your support and kind words!

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        1. My pleasure! If I forget in the future, I apologize in advance… just let me know! I’m happy to oblige! Hope your day is wonderful!

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    1. I’m so happy to hear that you’re working through this process! I’m sure that you will feel much better, and feel so much lighter! I carried my hurts for too long, mistakenly feeling that I’d somehow betray my past sufferings if I let them go. I was afraid that if I did I’d forget the past and just do it all over again, but learning to set healthy boundaries in my life was a life-saver. Kudos to you for doing this for yourself!

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  2. Wonderful post as always. I think letting go of old hurts is so vital because even old hurts will continue to keep hurting us until we move on. I am trying really hard to let go of older stuff I have been holding onto and writing along with therapy has been incredibly helpful. I still have so much work to do but I can tell I’m getting better and it’s the most wonderful feeling to feel okay after so long.

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    1. Thanks so much, Pooja! I didn’t realize how powerful it truly was until I did it! I applaud your efforts, and definitely wish you much success as you do this work! I had been working on revealing the old layers, but it does take a lot of time, not only in the work to do it but also in the inner processing time our spirits need to be able to make the transition.

      I had heard the expression “I’m sick and tired of being sick and tired!” That was something I identified with, and which kept me motivated because doing this kind of inner work is exhausting and draining. I learned I wasn’t a failure if I couldn’t do it all in one go, as some self-help gurus were trying to make us believe years ago. It’s a process, and different for everyone.

      Blessings to your journey!

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      1. Thanks so much! I so get that expression too and yes some of these online “guru’s” really push toxic positivity. The truth is it’s difficult and different for everyone. Letting go or even processing old trauma is so difficult.

        Thank you and same to you!

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  3. Wow, thanks for sharing your journey. It actually makes so much sense – what you did with the artwork. Although it can be hard to see the positives of an interaction when you are just holding onto anger. I also agree with Katherine’s way of doing it. Over the past year, I’ve developed this system where if I need to let go of someone (usually a potential romantic partner that it didn’t work out with) – instead of holding on to the grief or anger – I send them a message letting them know how our interaction made me feel and then find it so easy to move on. I’ve found that this method has let me move on from situations that in the past I would have held on to for way too long.
    Love this post and all the wisdom you share. 🙂

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    1. Thanks so very much for your insights, your experiences are so vital! I love how you communicate with the people first instead of just ghosting them, it becomes an opportunity for growth for both sides.

      I didn’t set out with any clear idea about what I needed to do, I was too upset to do that, so I just followed my intuition for what I needed to do. It was only after that I saw the power of it,because I felt different.

      I love Katherine’s methods too, and have been incorporating them in my life over the past few years. Even if the other person doesn’t care for an opportunity to grow and change, I still offer it, because that’s what I need to be able to move forward. I’m sure you also follow the same reasoning!

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    1. I didn’t know or realize that before, but having gone through it myself I now wholeheartedly recommend it for others. The power lies in sincere commitment to our thoughts, prayers and actions, with no action being wrong if it intuitively feels like a person needs to do it. I simply followed my intuition through the whole process and allowed myself to deeply feel everything. I found it to be wonderfully cathartic! Thanks so much for your supportive input, it is deeply appreciated!

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        1. Thanks so much, Michelle! I agree, trusting our intuition and following it definitely leads to life unfolding in a very natural and organic way. It even leads to many pleasant surprises, as I have found!

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    1. Yes, thanks, I’m now in a very peaceful state. I did that purge a few years ago and the effects were amazingly long reaching!

      The books are available in paperback, audio book as well as ebook versions on Amazon. I always post the links at the end of each post. I also created guided Journaling workbooks for specific issues. Thanks for asking!

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            1. Yes, the tactile feel of pages is very satisfying! I hope you’ll be able to obtain a paperback copy!

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