quote by Abdullah Shoaib “Does developing self-love and self-worth somehow create an invisible shield for defense from lies and bullying?” was an idea I have been mulling…… Read more “Does developing self-love and self-worth somehow create an invisible shield for defense from lies and bullying?”
Intuition… we pretty much all have it, but we don’t always use it.
Intuition gets dismissed as a weak, feminine trait that can’t be trusted. If men follow their intuition, they call it “following their gut”, yet that is exactly what it is?
TRIGGER WARNING: This post talks about anorexia and self-harm.
4) The only person who was going to step in to save me, turned out to actually be myself!
The road to recovery and the road to becoming healthy is fundamentally ours to walk, sometimes alone, sometimes with support, but ultimately, we need to do it for ourselves!
In a world where the image of being pulled together and perfect set an impossibly high bar, sometimes giving ourselves the freedom to just own who we are, let our hair down and stop worrying about being accepted is such a breath of fresh air!
I can’t tell you how many YEARS I agonized about not meeting with other people’s approval, or worse, living in fear of their disapproval. As long as my energy was focused on THAT, it was as though that was exactly what I attracted into my life!
The disapprovers showed their colors to me time and again, when they showed me they really just wanted to control me and my life because they felt they could do a better job at it than I could.
Even if that were true, It was still my life to live!
It’s been a long time since I wrote about my off-beat methods for writing, so I thought I’d share them here again with you. From time to…… Read more “Have you always wanted to write a book but don’t know how to get started?”
The line between what we think is healthy and unhealthy will shift as we go through life. We may like to think the understanding of what is…… Read more “The progressively shifting line of understanding what is healthy and of growth”
The things that had the BIGGEST impact on my own mental health were teaching myself to like myself, suspending judgment, practicing speaking kindly instead of cruelly to myself, and allowing this whole set of tools to rewire my brain!
I know it sounds very innocuous, but HOW we see ourselves and speak to ourselves is foundational to developing more tools, for how quickly or how slowly we heal and grow, how we see the possible solutions, and how we implement them long-term.
A huge part of successfully navigating the flow of new circumstances seeking to impose conditions on us is mentally disengaging from expectations!
Expectations, ours, and our perception of others are in themselves huge stressors. Expectations often aren’t real but are what we imagine other people want from us, and vice versa.
Expectations often are very unrealistic and pay no attention to what is actually going on or what could actually happen. Expectations are often exaggerations of wishes and desires, so they need to be cut down to size, to fit with reality.
We don’t want to have difficult discussions with our kids which expose them to the darker side of life and people, but it’s necessary, for their safety…… Read more “Teaching our kids about adult predators in an understandable manner”
I have many deep conversations with my 15-year-old grandson. This post was inspired by one of those conversations. He is a young man who is trying to figure out who he is, how the world works, and how to navigate the extreme Misandry (/mɪˈsændri/: hatred of, contempt for, or prejudice against men) he experiences from the girls in school who are also trying to figure out who they are. He is very troubled by how women are seeing men these days, the messages he receives from family, friends, school, and society on how to behave like a man, and what his own inner self is telling him.
Men are presented with 2 archetypes to choose from: the ALPHA male or the BETA male, yet how is a young man supposed to choose between those 2 if he doesn’t feel either one of them fits who he is? Are there in fact other archetypes men can identify with?
I was intrigued to hear the term “quiet quitting”, but when I heard it *cue slap to the forehead*, it just sounded like simply setting boundaries! There’s…… Read more “Quiet quitting, or just setting boundaries? How this new term may end up hurting employees.”
Quote by Dr. Wayne Dyer; Meme from Facebook Narcissism is the topic du jour. We’re programmed to beware of gaslighting and avoid the red flags of extreme selfishness and a craving for attention. But…… Read more “Are you an “Echoist”? What it is and how to overcome it.”
Once again I’m inspired by a fellow blogger to write a post. Katherin Garland writes about the need to release and purge people, energy, and memories from…… Read more “Purge by fire… could this help you?”
Jennifer Lambert? – last name unclear As a former Anorexic in my twenties, I spend almost 40 (!!) years disliking myself and mentally punishing myself for enjoying…… Read more “Growing older: giving myself permission to enjoy eating and to just be me”
Nothing is set in stone! “What have I got to lose?” Years ago I was very inspired by a friend who had been in a car accident and had spent some 20 years in a wheelchair, she had decided to test the principle and try to teach her legs to walk again.