I was reminded (how could I have overlooked it?) that today is International Day of Happiness by The Hot Goddess in What is Happiness? I suppose I’ve…… Read more “Happy Happiness Day!”
Category: Myths and Lies
Telling it like it is… is it brutal honesty or just being an a******? (Or is it about instigating drama and then stepping back to watch the show?)
I usually cringe when someone says something offensive, then shrugs it off saying they’re just saying it like it is. I don’t count myself as a prude…… Read more “Telling it like it is… is it brutal honesty or just being an a******? (Or is it about instigating drama and then stepping back to watch the show?)”
What the “Positivity” process doesn’t like to talk about
A thought to set the tone for today, based on a personalized email I received from http://www.TUT.com: The reason things always work out for the best, Tamara, is…… Read more “What the “Positivity” process doesn’t like to talk about”
Feeling bad memories slip away
On a recent night, I had a wonderful experience of allowing a few old bad memories to slip away. I had been going through some old photo…… Read more “Feeling bad memories slip away”
Gentle ways to start setting boundaries
Setting boundaries. Does that phrase give you cold chills down your back as you think about HOW you may possibly stand up to someone in your life…… Read more “Gentle ways to start setting boundaries”
The Art of Giving ourselves permission to move ahead with a dream
Sometimes we just get stuck, bogged down by doubts and perceived taboos. Photo and quote by Tamara Kulish. Click to see merch on Fine Art America When…… Read more “The Art of Giving ourselves permission to move ahead with a dream”
Could you be a “Co-dependent” and not know it?
Co-dependency was a refuge for me when I was married to an alcoholic and drug addict. I was set up to become a co-dependent person from the…… Read more “Could you be a “Co-dependent” and not know it?”
Does developing self-love and self-worth somehow create an invisible shield for defense from lies and bullying?
quote by Abdullah Shoaib “Does developing self-love and self-worth somehow create an invisible shield for defense from lies and bullying?” was an idea I have been mulling…… Read more “Does developing self-love and self-worth somehow create an invisible shield for defense from lies and bullying?”
What good is Intuition to us?
Intuition… we pretty much all have it, but we don’t always use it.
Intuition gets dismissed as a weak, feminine trait that can’t be trusted. If men follow their intuition, they call it “following their gut”, yet that is exactly what it is?
Enjoy the freedom of being yourself, accepting that being seen a fool is just a part of it!
In a world where the image of being pulled together and perfect set an impossibly high bar, sometimes giving ourselves the freedom to just own who we are, let our hair down and stop worrying about being accepted is such a breath of fresh air!
I can’t tell you how many YEARS I agonized about not meeting with other people’s approval, or worse, living in fear of their disapproval. As long as my energy was focused on THAT, it was as though that was exactly what I attracted into my life!
The disapprovers showed their colors to me time and again, when they showed me they really just wanted to control me and my life because they felt they could do a better job at it than I could.
Even if that were true, It was still my life to live!
The progressively shifting line of understanding what is healthy and helps growth
The line between what we think is healthy and unhealthy will shift as we go through life. We may like to think the understanding of what is…… Read more “The progressively shifting line of understanding what is healthy and helps growth”
Posts for Mental Health Day October 10
The things that had the BIGGEST impact on my own mental health were teaching myself to like myself, suspending judgment, practicing speaking kindly instead of cruelly to myself, and allowing this whole set of tools to rewire my brain!
I know it sounds very innocuous, but HOW we see ourselves and speak to ourselves is foundational to developing more tools, for how quickly or how slowly we heal and grow, how we see the possible solutions, and how we implement them long-term.
Do we need to “Floor our Gas Pedal” all the time? “Consciously Uncoupling” from the “Grind Culture”.
A huge part of successfully navigating the flow of new circumstances seeking to impose conditions on us is mentally disengaging from expectations!
Expectations, ours, and our perception of others are in themselves huge stressors. Expectations often aren’t real but are what we imagine other people want from us, and vice versa.
Expectations often are very unrealistic and pay no attention to what is actually going on or what could actually happen. Expectations are often exaggerations of wishes and desires, so they need to be cut down to size, to fit with reality.
Independence, or Interdependence?
This post has been inspired by Todd Fulginiti on Pointless Overthinking with his post Helping Others: Can You Dish It Out But Not Take It? Quote and…… Read more “Independence, or Interdependence?”
Teaching our kids about adult predators in an understandable manner
We don’t want to have difficult discussions with our kids which expose them to the darker side of life and people, but it’s necessary, for their safety…… Read more “Teaching our kids about adult predators in an understandable manner”