As 2023 starts, you may be wondering where to start on your self-healing journey. Looking at what triggers us is an excellent place to start, for it shows us in a visceral way what is still left unhealed.
“Your triggers are your teachers. Whatever triggers you, reveals what still needs to be healed.”
I used to hear this and feel angry; couldn’t put my finger on why I was getting angry though.
Then I realized that I was interpreting the phrase as criticism of my not trying hard enough to heal.
I had been severely criticized and verbally abused in my younger years, so I became hyper-alert to any possible sort of criticism. I had become defensive. It was my survival mechanism that had kicked it.
When I realized what was going on, I was able to see the irony in the quote, that it alone was triggering me!
Sometimes simply looking at the entirety of the situation allows us to see what we weren’t able to see before.
The revelations don’t show us to be severely lacking or to be terrible people, simply ones who went into survival mode.
Healing means consciously moving from survival mode into healthy living mode.
This doesn’t come naturally to us.
What is extremely simple for those who grew up in loving homes, is exceedingly difficult for us.
Difficult, but not impossible!
I found it useful to journal and to create therapeutic artwork to help me see each trigger, to see it for what it was, to reassure myself that I was safe, in order to be able to do the inner work of moving forward.
In both my books, as well as many, many posts, I give out the information for moving through all those steps. Of course, my books will have more information than the posts, plus helpful exercises to do. I’ve also created Guided Journals to help with specific topics.
If you’ve been reading my posts and feel certain things speak to your own healing, let me encourage you to keep going!
You can do this!
Remember, take it as slowly as you need, for as long as you need.
Even with slow progress, there is growth. Going slowly allows us more time to assimilate each new piece of knowledge and to be able to put it into practice before starting the next step.
Anyone who pushes or goads you into growing faster than what you are currently capable of isn’t looking at what your needs are; they wish you to follow the timeline of their own expectations.
True lasting growth comes when we process everything at our own pace. Otherwise, it may fall aside when we feel under pressure or are too severely stressed, and we subconsciously go back to what feels more comfortable. By going slowly and putting each step into practice, we allow new neural pathways to be laid down in our brains, and with more use, they will become our new go-to’s.
Remember this: no matter how many times we may “fail” or “fall off the horse”, we can keep getting back up again. All isn’t lost, for the neural pathway(s) you laid down in that (or those) attempts are still there. When you do more attempts, you continue to lay down neural pathways, and with enough times you try, you will find your brain slowly cooperating more and more to ease your desired progress!
I believe in you! I care what your outcome is! You have the ability to do this, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now… keep going!
Lastly, keep in mind that as you heal and grow, you will then be able to help others who may be still in the same situation and who are struggling to find a way out.
I hope you’ll poke around my Archived Posts to find a wonderful trove of supportive and encouraging posts! Don’t forget to Like, Comment, and Follow my blog! If you want to become a Guest writer, please contact me and we’ll work out the details!
I’m sharing more posts that may be helpful for you:
- 10 Steps to Owning Our Happiness
- Setting “Boundaries with consequences”
- Making a change… “How do I take that first step?”
- Affirmation: Today is a new day! I can do this!
- As we practice being gentle and kind with ourselves, we actually help to speed the process of helping our lives become more positive!
- Always believe that wonderful things can happen!
- A healthy outside starts from the inside!
- Brain Rewiring
More good stuff:
- Teaching ourselves to like, even to love ourselves
- By changing our inner dialogue, we change EVERYTHING!
- Challenge: When a negative thought enters your mind, think three positive ones. Train yourself to flip the script!
- Red Ocean or Blue Ocean? How do you think?
- An answer to dealing with the Inner Critic!
- My top 10 most viewed posts, plus a few bonuses!
- A helpful trick to be able to overcome negatively Comparing Ourselves to others…
- Do you only accept yourself if you look a certain way?
- A new you! Is this possible?
- Start today, start tomorrow, just start!
- There is no enlightenment outside of daily life – Thich Nhat Hanh
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