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The skinny trend… going to any extreme is unhealthy… What anorexia taught me about recovery…

TRIGGER WARNING: This post talks about anorexia and self-harm.

4) The only person who was going to step in to save me, turned out to actually be myself!

The road to recovery and the road to becoming healthy is fundamentally ours to walk, sometimes alone, sometimes with support, but ultimately, we need to do it for ourselves!

Enjoy the freedom of being yourself, accepting that being seen a fool is just a part of it!

In a world where the image of being pulled together and perfect set an impossibly high bar, sometimes giving ourselves the freedom to just own who we are, let our hair down and stop worrying about being accepted is such a breath of fresh air!

I can’t tell you how many YEARS I agonized about not meeting with other people’s approval, or worse, living in fear of their disapproval. As long as my energy was focused on THAT, it was as though that was exactly what I attracted into my life!

The disapprovers showed their colors to me time and again, when they showed me they really just wanted to control me and my life because they felt they could do a better job at it than I could.

Even if that were true, It was still my life to live!

Posts for Mental Health Day October 10

The things that had the BIGGEST impact on my own mental health were teaching myself to like myself, suspending judgment, practicing speaking kindly instead of cruelly to myself, and allowing this whole set of tools to rewire my brain!

I know it sounds very innocuous, but HOW we see ourselves and speak to ourselves is foundational to developing more tools, for how quickly or how slowly we heal and grow, how we see the possible solutions, and how we implement them long-term.

Do we need to “Floor our Gas Pedal” all the time? “Consciously Uncoupling” from the “Grind Culture”.

A huge part of successfully navigating the flow of new circumstances seeking to impose conditions on us is mentally disengaging from expectations!

Expectations, ours, and our perception of others are in themselves huge stressors. Expectations often aren’t real but are what we imagine other people want from us, and vice versa.

Expectations often are very unrealistic and pay no attention to what is actually going on or what could actually happen. Expectations are often exaggerations of wishes and desires, so they need to be cut down to size, to fit with reality.

Please help me!

Please help me! I’ve been trying to grow my list of followers and am very close to the 400-person mark.

Would you do me a big favor and sign up to follow me if you haven’t already? It would mean a great deal to me to be able to break this milestone!

Thanks in advance! I deeply appreciate all my followers and all the people who visit each day!

To help your day be more pleasant, I put together a collection of encouraging images for you!

Alpha male? Beta male? …maybe a Gamma male? Or what?

I have many deep conversations with my 15-year-old grandson. This post was inspired by one of those conversations. He is a young man who is trying to figure out who he is, how the world works, and how to navigate the extreme Misandry (/mɪˈsændri/: hatred of, contempt for, or prejudice against men) he experiences from the girls in school who are also trying to figure out who they are. He is very troubled by how women are seeing men these days, the messages he receives from family, friends, school, and society on how to behave like a man, and what his own inner self is telling him.

Men are presented with 2 archetypes to choose from: the ALPHA male or the BETA male, yet how is a young man supposed to choose between those 2 if he doesn’t feel either one of them fits who he is? Are there in fact other archetypes men can identify with?