This post was inspired by an answer I wrote to The Good, The Truth, The Beautiful
We all have that Inner Critic to one extent or another. Sometimes it speaks so loudly to us that it cripples us in pain or anguish, it can be very difficult to function in life without anxiety or depression!
I totally understand the difficulty of struggling to live while the Inner Critic rages on or hisses poison into our ears!
With deep gratitude I share with each of you my steps towards healing, and what I learned along the way. So far I’ve written 2 books and a few Guided Journals which contain the wisdom of the journey I followed.
Here’s a few things I learned, in a nutshell:
1) We are deeply loved by the universe, which has our back and is conspiring on our behalf to help us!
2) Damaged people hurt others, healthy people don’t. When our parents hurt us, they do so from their damaged areas. They may not even have started on their own healing, so hoping for a heartfelt apology from someone who may still be in deep denial, can be difficult to accept. Better to gently let them go mentally, to find the path to their own healing.
3) We don’t simply shut off the Inner Critic, instead, we practice speaking gently to ourselves when the Inner Critic surfaces. The Inner Critic is the accumulation of all the lies and hurt we have internalized over the years, either directly by what was said to us, or indirectly by how we were treated.
A few years ago I realized that I didn’t like myself, and that was what gave rise to my Inner Critic, so I set out to teach myself to like myself! I had to start very slowly, and with generalizations, because anything specifically positive didn’t sound right to me!
Every thought we have creates a Neural Pathway, and when we have a lot of the same types of thoughts, wide and deep roads get laid down in our brains! This is how habits are formed! To change those pathways we can’t simply go in and remove those Neural Pathways! We need to create brand new positive ones! Over time we build up new healthier roadways, while the old negative ones gradually fade away from misuse!
This process doesn’t feel natural for a while in the beginning, so please persevere! It does eventually take root, but it will take time, depending on how deep and wide your negative Neural Pathways are!
Remember, we have the power to change our thoughts!
I’m sharing one of my posts where I speak about this, and you will find more links at the bottom for more encouragement and support!
It was only when I started to teach myself to like myself that my inner world started to really change!
Teaching ourselves to like ourselves DOES take time and practice! I’ve shared a number of previous posts (below) where I speak about the process!
When we first start to try to teach ourselves something which is so foreign to us, it doesn’t feel natural or normal!
It feels terrible sometimes! I remember how revolted I felt sometimes when I said something nice to myself! I felt physically sick! I started sweating, and felt a panic attack coming on!
I remember how brutal it felt to say something nice to myself, and not grimace!
It does get better with practice!
Try saying something nice to yourself right now!
How did you feel?
Did it feel good? Were you comfortable saying it?
Or did you struggle, even grimace?
If you struggled saying something nice to yourself, may I suggest starting to set up a gentle practice to do so? Below you’ll find quite a bit of additional help, and in some of those posts are links to other posts!
Trust me, the you will thank yourself in the next few months for starting to do this!
Keep a journal to write your thoughts in, and if you get a Guided Journal or two, all the better!
You can do this! You are worth it!
Guided Journals help you work on a particular issue by answering questions to help see patterns and to find solutions:
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