quote by Abdullah Shoaib “Does developing self-love and self-worth somehow create an invisible shield for defense from lies and bullying?” was an idea I have been mulling…… Read more “Does developing self-love and self-worth somehow create an invisible shield for defense from lies and bullying?”
Author: Tamara Kulish from https://tamarakulish.com/
Welcome! Like many of you, I've been through many difficult life experiences which in the first two thirds of my life led me to becoming overwhelmed, depressed for long periods and even to the point where I no longer felt I should be walking the earth anymore! So what happened that I could release myself?
My inner transformation was a long and arduous process, as I wanted to make changes within me on a deeply-felt heart level. The publisher of my first book (an illustrated children's book, now out of print), suggested I write down some of my philosophical thoughts and put them into a book. This astonished me that anyone would notice the changes I had worked so hard to accomplish within myself, but since he was my publisher, I felt I got a Universal green light!
My books, articles and art are the direct results from having come out the other side of that tunnel and are the lessons I've learned as well as the very tools I used on my own healing journey! My goal is to help others on their healing paths in gently supportive ways!
Peace, Tamara
https://tamarakulish.com/
What good is Intuition to us?
Intuition… we pretty much all have it, but we don’t always use it.
Intuition gets dismissed as a weak, feminine trait that can’t be trusted. If men follow their intuition, they call it “following their gut”, yet that is exactly what it is?
The skinny trend… going to any extreme is unhealthy… What anorexia taught me about recovery…
TRIGGER WARNING: This post talks about anorexia and self-harm.
4) The only person who was going to step in to save me, turned out to actually be myself!
The road to recovery and the road to becoming healthy is fundamentally ours to walk, sometimes alone, sometimes with support, but ultimately, we need to do it for ourselves!
Enjoy the freedom of being yourself, accepting that being seen a fool is just a part of it!
In a world where the image of being pulled together and perfect set an impossibly high bar, sometimes giving ourselves the freedom to just own who we are, let our hair down and stop worrying about being accepted is such a breath of fresh air!
I can’t tell you how many YEARS I agonized about not meeting with other people’s approval, or worse, living in fear of their disapproval. As long as my energy was focused on THAT, it was as though that was exactly what I attracted into my life!
The disapprovers showed their colors to me time and again, when they showed me they really just wanted to control me and my life because they felt they could do a better job at it than I could.
Even if that were true, It was still my life to live!
Have you always wanted to write a book but don’t know how to get started?
It’s been a long time since I wrote about my off-beat methods for writing, so I thought I’d share them here again with you. From time to…… Read more “Have you always wanted to write a book but don’t know how to get started?”
The progressively shifting line of understanding what is healthy and of growth
The line between what we think is healthy and unhealthy will shift as we go through life. We may like to think the understanding of what is…… Read more “The progressively shifting line of understanding what is healthy and of growth”
Today’s funny!
Here’s today’s joke! An old man on a moped, looking about 100 years old, pulls up next to him.The old man looks over at the sleek shiny…… Read more “Today’s funny!”
Posts for Mental Health Day October 10
The things that had the BIGGEST impact on my own mental health were teaching myself to like myself, suspending judgment, practicing speaking kindly instead of cruelly to myself, and allowing this whole set of tools to rewire my brain!
I know it sounds very innocuous, but HOW we see ourselves and speak to ourselves is foundational to developing more tools, for how quickly or how slowly we heal and grow, how we see the possible solutions, and how we implement them long-term.
Do we need to “Floor our Gas Pedal” all the time? “Consciously Uncoupling” from the “Grind Culture”.
A huge part of successfully navigating the flow of new circumstances seeking to impose conditions on us is mentally disengaging from expectations!
Expectations, ours, and our perception of others are in themselves huge stressors. Expectations often aren’t real but are what we imagine other people want from us, and vice versa.
Expectations often are very unrealistic and pay no attention to what is actually going on or what could actually happen. Expectations are often exaggerations of wishes and desires, so they need to be cut down to size, to fit with reality.
Please help me!
Please help me! I’ve been trying to grow my list of followers and am very close to the 400-person mark.
Would you do me a big favor and sign up to follow me if you haven’t already? It would mean a great deal to me to be able to break this milestone!
Thanks in advance! I deeply appreciate all my followers and all the people who visit each day!
To help your day be more pleasant, I put together a collection of encouraging images for you!
Independence, or Interdependence?
This post has been inspired by Todd Fulginiti on Pointless Overthinking with his post Helping Others: Can You Dish It Out But Not Take It? Quote and…… Read more “Independence, or Interdependence?”
Teaching our kids about adult predators in an understandable manner
We don’t want to have difficult discussions with our kids which expose them to the darker side of life and people, but it’s necessary, for their safety…… Read more “Teaching our kids about adult predators in an understandable manner”
Alpha male? Beta male? …maybe a Gamma male? Or what?
I have many deep conversations with my 15-year-old grandson. This post was inspired by one of those conversations. He is a young man who is trying to figure out who he is, how the world works, and how to navigate the extreme Misandry (/mɪˈsændri/: hatred of, contempt for, or prejudice against men) he experiences from the girls in school who are also trying to figure out who they are. He is very troubled by how women are seeing men these days, the messages he receives from family, friends, school, and society on how to behave like a man, and what his own inner self is telling him.
Men are presented with 2 archetypes to choose from: the ALPHA male or the BETA male, yet how is a young man supposed to choose between those 2 if he doesn’t feel either one of them fits who he is? Are there in fact other archetypes men can identify with?
Quiet quitting, or just setting boundaries? How this new term may end up hurting employees.
I was intrigued to hear the term “quiet quitting”, but when I heard it *cue slap to the forehead*, it just sounded like simply setting boundaries! There’s…… Read more “Quiet quitting, or just setting boundaries? How this new term may end up hurting employees.”
Are you an “Echoist”? What it is and how to overcome it.
Quote by Dr. Wayne Dyer; Meme from Facebook Narcissism is the topic du jour. We’re programmed to beware of gaslighting and avoid the red flags of extreme selfishness and a craving for attention. But…… Read more “Are you an “Echoist”? What it is and how to overcome it.”
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