A thought to set the tone for today, based on a personalized email I received from http://www.TUT.com: The reason things always work out for the best, Tamara, is…… Read more “What the “Positivity” process doesn’t like to talk about”
Category: Making Life Changes
Feeling bad memories slip away
On a recent night, I had a wonderful experience of allowing a few old bad memories to slip away. I had been going through some old photo…… Read more “Feeling bad memories slip away”
Gentle ways to start setting boundaries
Setting boundaries. Does that phrase give you cold chills down your back as you think about HOW you may possibly stand up to someone in your life…… Read more “Gentle ways to start setting boundaries”
Your triggers are your teachers
Quote and meme by ChildrenofLight As 2023 starts, you may be wondering where to start on your self-healing journey. Looking at what triggers us is an excellent…… Read more “Your triggers are your teachers”
Changing our thoughts and habits Part 2: how does it physically work in our body?
“A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge” Follow link: – Thomas Carlyle quote on Pooja on QUOTE OF THE DAY #72 This post has been…… Read more “Changing our thoughts and habits Part 2: how does it physically work in our body?”
Changing our thoughts and habits Part 1: how does it physically work in the brain?
I just finished reading ‘The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari’ by Robin Sharma. I had a couple of issues with the narration but what I want to…… Read more “Changing our thoughts and habits Part 1: how does it physically work in the brain?”
“Keep your energy in a bottle” – advice I received during chronic illness
Quote from lessonslearnedinlife.com I’ve had this post simmering for a while, but with the busyness of the holidays upon us, we all could use this reminder! Years…… Read more ““Keep your energy in a bottle” – advice I received during chronic illness”
Could you be a “Co-dependent” and not know it?
Co-dependency was a refuge for me when I was married to an alcoholic and drug addict. I was set up to become a co-dependent person from the…… Read more “Could you be a “Co-dependent” and not know it?”
Our inner head space… doing the inner shadow work
Inspired by Jack Canfora’s post: “We Know What We Are, But Know Not What We May Be” where he brings up existential questions about life, our perceptions…… Read more “Our inner head space… doing the inner shadow work”
Living the circle of life… giving and receiving in gratitude
I owe so many debts of gratitude that I can never repay some people – they are dead or live too far away. Photo and quote by…… Read more “Living the circle of life… giving and receiving in gratitude”
Does developing self-love and self-worth somehow create an invisible shield for defense from lies and bullying?
quote by Abdullah Shoaib “Does developing self-love and self-worth somehow create an invisible shield for defense from lies and bullying?” was an idea I have been mulling…… Read more “Does developing self-love and self-worth somehow create an invisible shield for defense from lies and bullying?”
The skinny trend… going to any extreme is unhealthy… What anorexia taught me about recovery…
TRIGGER WARNING: This post talks about anorexia and self-harm.
4) The only person who was going to step in to save me, turned out to actually be myself!
The road to recovery and the road to becoming healthy is fundamentally ours to walk, sometimes alone, sometimes with support, but ultimately, we need to do it for ourselves!
Enjoy the freedom of being yourself, accepting that being seen a fool is just a part of it!
In a world where the image of being pulled together and perfect set an impossibly high bar, sometimes giving ourselves the freedom to just own who we are, let our hair down and stop worrying about being accepted is such a breath of fresh air!
I can’t tell you how many YEARS I agonized about not meeting with other people’s approval, or worse, living in fear of their disapproval. As long as my energy was focused on THAT, it was as though that was exactly what I attracted into my life!
The disapprovers showed their colors to me time and again, when they showed me they really just wanted to control me and my life because they felt they could do a better job at it than I could.
Even if that were true, It was still my life to live!
The progressively shifting line of understanding what is healthy and helps growth
The line between what we think is healthy and unhealthy will shift as we go through life. We may like to think the understanding of what is…… Read more “The progressively shifting line of understanding what is healthy and helps growth”
Posts for Mental Health Day October 10
The things that had the BIGGEST impact on my own mental health were teaching myself to like myself, suspending judgment, practicing speaking kindly instead of cruelly to myself, and allowing this whole set of tools to rewire my brain!
I know it sounds very innocuous, but HOW we see ourselves and speak to ourselves is foundational to developing more tools, for how quickly or how slowly we heal and grow, how we see the possible solutions, and how we implement them long-term.
Tamara Kulish 