“You must learn a new way to think before you can master a new way to be.” – Marianne Williamson
The season for making resolutions to radically change ourselves and our lives will soon be upon us!
I advise against making huge, all-encompassing vows to change! Not only do I advise not telling other people, but I advise against making yourself do them, even quietly to yourself!
Does this mean that I don’t support change or think we should set out to?
Not at all! I have a different philosophy about how we should best approach change!
I learned that the changes which helped me to overcome anxiety, depression, even anorexia at one point, were to change how I thought!
The most profound, and the MOST difficult change was in how I looked at myself, how I spoke to myself, and what I thought of myself.
The root of so many of our “undesirable” habits lies in how we feel in our innermost being.
We do so much harm to ourselves, in various ways, because we struggle to value ourselves and to see our worth as a result of the negative or abusive messages we’ve internalized.
People speak of our inner child being damaged or hurt. I believe that it is our inner spirit which has become damaged or stunted.
How do we heal or repair this damage?
It will take time. No one can do it for us, they can only support and help us as we help ourselves.
In my own healing journey, I set out to teach myself to like myself. I knew that all my self-sabotage was stemming from having absorbed and having come to believe that I was worthless, a loser and wouldn’t amount to much.
Please check out some of my posts where I speak about the specifics of how to change our thoughts!
I’m sharing more post which may be helpful for you:
- 10 Steps to Owning Our Happiness
- Setting “Boundaries with consequences”
- Making a change… “How do I take that first step?”
- Affirmation: Today is a new day! I can do this!
- As we practice being gentle and kind with ourselves, we actually help to speed the process of helping our lives become more positive!
- Always believe that wonderful things can happen!
- A healthy outside starts from the inside!
- Brain Rewiring
More good stuff:
Teaching ourselves to like, even to love ourselves
By changing our inner dialogue, we change EVERYTHING!
Red Ocean or Blue Ocean? How do you think?
An answer to dealing with the Inner Critic!
My top 10 most viewed posts, plus a few bonuses!
A helpful trick to be able to overcome negatively Comparing Ourselves to others…
Do you only accept yourself if you look a certain way?
Please go to my Archived Posts page to find more wonderful posts to check out!
Blessings to you if you are thinking of starting something new in your life!
May you receive the help you need, to help you in wondrous ways!
Blessings!
Thank you for sharing this post and for following me!
Tamara
https://tamarakulish.com/ Archived Posts: https://tamarakulish.com/archived-posts/
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Guided Journals help you work on a particular issue by answering questions to help see patterns and to find solutions:
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