“A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge”

Follow link: – Thomas Carlyle quote on Pooja on QUOTE OF THE DAY #72

This post has been percolating for a little while, and I decided that releasing Part 1 and Part 2 around the end of the old year and the beginning of the new is a wonderful way to infuse some fresh new thoughts to be able to get the year off to a good start.

The nice thing about the aspects of both part of these posts, is we can return to practicing the new behaviors and thoughts as soon as we become aware that we may have gotten off track!

No self-reproach!
No mean self-talk!
No beating yourself up!

Simply make a choice to do and think the new way!

Too often when we start a new habit, and it doesn’t work out straight away (as often happens actually) we start to speak harshly to ourselves over this “screw-up”. We speak so harshly to ourselves, and we discourage ourselves so deeply that we then struggle to find the strength to try again.

Which of these 2 approaches sounds like what you want to try?

Helping ourselves is an incredible act of rebellion!

Regarding the quote below: It also applies to how we speak to and treat ourselves, doesn’t it?

Our healing from past traumas starts with relearning how we speak to ourselves, for as long as we keep the old negative tapes playing and replaying in our minds, we keep perpetuating the damage our abusers or bullies inflicted on us!

It’s a radical act of rebellion to focus on our wellbeing when the toxic people thought we were broken!

Imagine being able to not only rebuilt yourself, but to come back better and stronger! This is something they would never expect!

What happens to us when we speak unkindly and harshly to ourselves?

Let’s look at what happens to our bodies when we speak unkindly and harshly to ourselves, in addition to the external negatives we hear, see and experience: all the negativity, whether from inside of us or from external, affects our bodies so we produce Cortisol and other harmful chemicals in our bodies.

The effect is immediate. Those chemicals affect different parts of our bodies:

• Our hearts start to beat faster, indeed to the point of elevating our blood pressure to even dangerous levels
• Our muscles clench and hold the stress from the negativity, sometimes for years
• Fatigue
• Frequent illnesses or infections
• Headaches
• Skin problems
• Issues with the digestive system, which then can trigger other illnesses
• Long term effects on the Immune system

Having a loving heart and loving ourselves is also a vital part of being healthy, for when we struggle with speaking kindly to ourselves, we create more cortisol and stress chemicals in our bodies that affect our immune systems, likewise speaking kindly to ourselves helps to ease the inner stress and this in turn has a fortifying effect on our systems!

Please consider the above ideas, as well as another one below which can help you to move gracefully through different issues.

“Wu Wei involves abandoning our preconceptions and ideals that we often try to impose (sometimes involuntarily) on situations and relationships that happen to us in life. Rather, this way-without-way invites us to respond spontaneously and effortlessly to every event, questioning our goals, our programs, and our self-centred will.”

Follow link: crisbiecoach on Wu Wei, the Art of Non-acting

I love being able to put a name to choosing to wait and see how something will turn out, it definitely goes against how we’ve been taught to handle our lives as Westerners. If we do it without having a term for it, we do risk getting criticized for not jumping in?

Yet in our fraught relationships within families and even on the national stage, learning to wait and not just jump headlong into the fray, mindlessly repeating angry phrases and perpetuating anger and stress within ourselves would be a much healthier and more mature approach to handling life!

Looking forward to hearing from each of you, as you set these principles into motion in your life and see for yourself the incredible changes it can have within your body, mind and spirit!

More:

• Always believe that wonderful things can happen!
• Things are being worked out for the best!
• I don’t think people realize how much strength it takes to pull yourself out of a dark place mentally. So if you’ve done that today, I’m proud of you.
• Your journey will be much lighter and easier if you don’t carry your past with you!
• Your past mistakes are meant to guide you not define you!
• Look for something positive in every day, even if some days you have to look a little harder.
• Temporary defeats aren’t permanent failures.
• Brain Rewiring
• Peace is the result of retraining your mind to process life as it is, rather than as you think it should be.
• Habit Power: We are what we repeat
• It’s easy to be a critic, but being a doer requires effort, risk and change.
• You have the power to heal your life, and you need to know that.
• Changing our thoughts and habits Part 1: how does it physically work in the brain?
• Accepting and Embracing the Depressed Side of Ourselves
• The Power of Positive Words!

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