“Be the flawed, QUIRKY, unique, beautiful & MAGICAL person that you are!”
Only you can be you! This is who you were born to be!
You were not meant to conform to someone else’s idea, you were born to just be you!
This can take great courage to step out of the role others wish us to live. It takes great courage to say no to the life others would have us live, but which makes us terribly unhappy.
I know! I stepped away.
I was severely criticized well before I did so, because I never really was able to conform to their wishes, no matter how hard I tried.
I realized that as hard as they tried to break me down, to “correct” me, that I really didn’t have what it took to please them. I had been brainwashed into thinking that was what I should desire.
After I left, I realized I was free to leave anytime I had wished to, but had become a prisoner in my mind.
Thankfully the universe sent someone into my life to help me leave, and who helped me see a different side of God, of the universe and of people.
I am grateful to have found freedom to be myself!
I am grateful to have healed from the breaks in my psyche those years imposed, and to live a life whole and healed!
I am grateful to have an opportunity to share the amazing message to each of you, so you can feel the freedom of being yourself!
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- As we practice being gentle and kind with ourselves, we actually help to speed the process of helping our lives become more positive!
- Always believe that wonderful things can happen!
- A healthy outside starts from the inside!
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Our mind does create the tallest prison for us. I remember being in turmoil because I just didn’t know how and what to be when I am not conforming. If I could I would keep conforming, at times I wished I could. But it became impossible. It didn’t matter how wrong they made me feel, I had to find another way. So I so understand the courage to keep going. I am so grateful that I am now able to keep going towards more and freedom with much more stability. I greatly appreciate your writing my friend.
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I appreciate you sharing your situation too my friend! I think there are more people than we realize who have these same issues!
It’s very difficult to see a way out when we feel trapped by our circumstances and by our minds. Blessings!
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Yes there are too many trapped, knowingly and unknowingly. Finding our tribe is so precious, as it can get so very lonely.
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Absolutely! We each need to take the step out of our comfort zone and go where we need to go for our inner mental and spiritual health!
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I went through years of trying to conform, being told that who I really was inside didn’t matter to them, then as a result of that chasing after approval.
When I finally realized that I wasn’t ever going to get it, because they saw I didn’t fit into their mold, and they just didn’t respect me for trying to pretzel myself into their vision of me.
I felt betrayed you them for not accepting me as I was, but I later learned I just needed to accept myself and give myself permission to just be myself.
Once I did that I felt relief and released from those inner unmet expectations I held out for them!
This was such a huge, difficult shift to make because part of me kept clinging onto the hope of getting approval! Once I realized that it wasn’t coming, then I could let go of those expectations!
Once I learned to love myself as I am, a work in progress, I felt freed of those old needs, because they were based on me not fully accepting myself and CLAIMING my life!
From what I’ve seen in you, this has been your path too!! Bravo!
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Yes I am still on that path. I am past the feeling of betrayal, still working through the clouds of needing that last sliver of approval, to love and be loved with reciprocity, taking the time to feel and heal, learning and relearning the language of selflove more and more deeply, only beginning to understand how to claim my life. The only way is through, and I am walking it. What a joy to have you to wave at and be mirrored on the way 🙏🏼💛
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🌸☺️ keep going! That’s the only thing to do! There’s going to be ups and downs. Keep walking through the downs!
I don’t think we ever completely lose our need for acceptance or approval but the intensity does reduce when we take away the control other people have over us by feeling our own inner value!
I spent years craving it so badly, and the other people who were withholding it, they knew it.
Once I removed myself from those situations, I saw how toxic they really were to my inner peace. Once I removed myself from those relationships I became freer to just enjoy myself and then I was able to connect with other people who do see my value.
Do I wish I could have finally succeeded with the people I let go? Yes. Absolutely. Yet my current thoughts when I think of them is feeling at peace with my choices.
We all have choices to make with respect to relationships, and I believe we need to honor our inner spirits. If we don’t do that, we won’t have the inner ability to create healthy and happy relationships!
Sending hugs and prayers for all your choices! Blessings!
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Very true all you say, I recognize everything you share 🙏🏼💛
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