When our hearts are burdened we struggle to feel positive about anything. So starting with small things is then crucial to becoming able to get strong enough to turn the light switch on in our minds and hearts and to send the shadows fleeing.
Joy. It can be tiny moments, but add them together they can become a bucketful, a lake full and even feel as expansive as an ocean! Finding moments of joy and holding onto them is very important!
The “Loser”Myth: Where did it come from?
By the time we’ve become adults, the myth of the “Loser” has become so embedded in or minds and our spirits that we no longer question if it’s true or not! We accept the myth as if it were a fact!
Opting out of the “Loser” myth…
There’s so many possible choices in how we present ourselves to the world: private life vs. business world; professional vs. informal; very informative vs. brief etc, I’ve tried on a few different approaches in my short years as an author and blogger, starting from my first site to this new one.
In creating my website http://www.tamarakulish.com, I wanted to migrate over only my best articles from my old site, so as I went through previous ones, I rewrote most of them, adding more meat or making them more current. I also started making a list, and now have organized them by category.
Click the link to go to the Resources tab:
There’s now more than 50! Each link will take you directly to the article!
Making a big move or even any transition in life can feel daunting!
You’ve known that this change was coming. You’ve researched it. You’ve asked people for advice. You may even have tested it out a little!
Yet, once you jump in with both feet and land in that new place, whatever it may be for you, once there you may feel some little nagging feelings of uncertainty!
Peace of mind… so essential for good emotional, spiritual and physical health! We cultivate it by choosing positive thoughts!
Don’t try to “chase away” negative thoughts, rather choose positive messages and keep repeating those! Trust is those thoughts, feel good about them, and keep selecting them when things don’t appear to go well in life!
I used to be a worrier, trying to anticipate everything before it happened and trying to prepare myself for everything! I didn’t have peace of mind! My mind was trying too hard to control every outcome by thinking of every possible outcome.
Tired of being manipulated? Tired of being toyed with for selfish purposes?
How do our “masters”, that is the narcissists keep us on a “leash” and push our buttons to keep us coming back?
One word. Fear.
Fear of losing their love. Fear of not getting their approval. Fear of their anger. Fear of their retribution… that’s revenge, or as they put it, punishment.
I love all the positive steps Etta outlines in her blog post “Be Calm, Create Your Action Plan”!
I stopped making resolutions a few years ago since they’re just self defeating! Inevitably we break them and then the cycle of guilt and negative self talk just reinforces the negative tapes that are already playing!
Here’s my little story of how judging someone badly can deeply affect them! It’s not fun to read.
Over fifteen years ago when I had attended the second of two evangelical churches, I was personally reduced to the point of feeling so worthless to walk on this earth or to breathe the air that I was searching for a way to quietly leave this life.
Why?
It takes great courage to accept and even embrace the depressed part of ourselves!
Understandably Depression can rear its head when we go through tough times, but when it occurs during periods of time when “everything is going well” that makes it seem BAFFLING and so we REJECT it!
Please note: If you’ve been diagnosed with a mental illness, don’t take my words here as permission to remove yourself from your medication! This article isn’t speaking to clinical or chemical depression, but is talking about situational depression.
