“Happiness starts with you. Not with your relationships, not with your job, not with your money, but with you!” – Unknown
Excerpt from the book “Developing Happiness When You Can’t Find It“:
The Myth of effortless Happiness
“Think like a man of action, and act like a man
of thought.” – Henri L. Bergson
“The myth of happiness being effortless, and a by-product of having everything one could desire has become so hard-wired into our collective minds that we expect it!
When it doesn’t automatically just happen, people feel like they’re the exception to the rule, they’re the only one to fail when others have seemingly achieved it.
This is a myth!
Just knowing that the happiness myth has been fabricated and knowing that many people have gotten rich off of it, doesn’t mean that being truly happy is out of our reach!
It just means that what we’ve been told about it isn’t true!
Is inner happiness possible?
“If opportunity doesn’t knock, build a door.”
– Milton Berle
Apart from the myth of things outside of ourselves leading to happiness, we’ve also been told that we will find happiness inside of ourselves.
What happens when we set out to find that inner happiness, but it isn’t to be found, or we only feel it for fleeting moments?
Many people get trapped into a seemingly endless cycle of being unhappy, then putting on an outward show of being happy, because they don’t want to be seen as having failed at something that’s ‘supposed’ to happen effortlessly, as a by-product of buying/owning all the right stuff, or just being able to find it inside, so people suffer in silence!
Is it possible for even the most unhappy to feel happy?
Yes, I believe inner happiness is possible, and attainable. It will just take a different approach and inner work to reach it, to develop it!
You see, the most unhappy people have inner barriers which prevent them from feeling and believing that happiness is even possible for them!
It’s a result from the damage their spirit has endured and accumulated from losses, hardships, traumas, and painful life events.
I’ll speak about the steps we need to do in order to clear out those old damaging messages which have strangled many people’s spirits!
We each have the capacity to do it, even if it doesn’t feel that way at this moment!
When happiness is developed, or cultivated inside of us, we find it’s authentic, real and re-attainable after we have a bad day or event! Developing happiness entails stepping off the well-worn path and into new territory… let’s look at the first steps!”
“Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t.” – Steve Maraboli
I’m sharing more posts which may be helpful for you:
- 10 Steps to Owning Our Happiness
- Setting “Boundaries with consequences”
- Making a change… “How do I take that first step?”
- Affirmation: Today is a new day! I can do this!
- As we practice being gentle and kind with ourselves, we actually help to speed the process of helping our lives become more positive!
- Always believe that wonderful things can happen!
- A healthy outside starts from the inside!
- Brain Rewiring
More good stuff:
Teaching ourselves to like, even to love ourselves
By changing our inner dialogue, we change EVERYTHING!
Challenge: When a negative thought enters your mind, think three positive ones. Train yourself to flip the script!
Red Ocean or Blue Ocean? How do you think?
An answer to dealing with the Inner Critic!
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A helpful trick to be able to overcome negatively Comparing Ourselves to others…
Do you only accept yourself if you look a certain way?
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3 thoughts on “Happiness starts with you. Not with your relationships, not with your job, not with your money, but with you! Part 1”
Indeed it is alarming how this myth has become a perceived truth that all of these outer realities bring us happiness. I wonder at the irony how whole generation is raised on this myth. What incredible world it would be if we were taught to value our inner resources and enjoy the gifts of the world from there. I truly admire the tremendous amount of work you have put in to your work & books to influence others. It is so much against the grain often to do this work and live it too.
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Thank you so much! I appreciate your insight and support!
I wish I had known these truths earlier in my life, but at least now I can share the information with others!
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