“The more you extend kindness to yourself, the more it will become your automatic response to others.” – Wayne Dyer
Kindness… is this a word you associate with how you speak with yourself?
Or do you speak unkindly to yourself, because it’s what your past has trained you to do?
I used to say horrible things to myself. Things I’d never, ever say to another person, but somehow I thought I deserved to hear those words.
Those unkind, mean things were a reflection of what I felt I deserved, based on how I had been treated by my primary abuser. I could never be or do anything well enough to deserve praise, but I received all her scorn, anger and derision.
I later learned she was a very damaged person who had no idea how to process her emotions so she vented on me and others.
Had she learned to speak kindly to herself, maybe she would have helped herself to heal from her own life traumas. Of course, I can’t speak for her, I can only speak for myself, and how learning to speak kindly to myself helped me to heal and to change my life.
I truly believe in the power of speaking positively to ourselves. It’s life changing!
If you’re not comfortable with saying kind things to yourself, as I wasn’t in the beginning, start small.
Start by NOT saying hurtful things to yourself!
Start by giving yourself mini pep talks, by being encouraging to yourself.
Start small and slowly build from there!
I’m sharing more post which may be helpful for you:
- 10 Steps to Owning Our Happiness
- Setting “Boundaries with consequences”
- Making a change… “How do I take that first step?”
- Affirmation: Today is a new day! I can do this!
- As we practice being gentle and kind with ourselves, we actually help to speed the process of helping our lives become more positive!
- Always believe that wonderful things can happen!
- A healthy outside starts from the inside!
- Brain Rewiring
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By changing our inner dialogue, we change EVERYTHING!
Red Ocean or Blue Ocean? How do you think?
An answer to dealing with the Inner Critic!
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