“You’re not selfish for wanting the same energy and love you give.”
Being a giver comes very naturally to many of us, and for some being an extreme giver has become a badge of honor, showing supreme dedication.
There’s nothing wrong with giving, but when it becomes part of a person’s identity, to the exclusion of accepting for oneself, we call that being a martyr.
There are many who live a martyr’s life, deriving strong feeling of self worth from it.
When our sense of self esteem is low we seek external ways to build ourselves up.
It’s possible to build our inner self up, to heal from the damage which had disintegrated our sense of self worth.
By working on our healing we allow ourselves to live a healthier, more balanced life.
A good way to start is to speak gentle affirmations.
More thoughts:
You must learn a new way to think before you can master a new way to be.
Do small things with great love.
Build someone up. Remind them they’re worthy.
Never wish them pain. Wish them healing. That’s what they need.
When we seek to discover the best in others, we somehow bring out the best in ourselves.
Bless everyone you meet today!
Be an encourager. Telling people they have wonderful wings won’t take away your ability to fly.
Your work is not to drag the world kicking and screaming into a new awareness!
You become what you surround yourself with. Energies are contagious. Choose carefully. Your environment will become you.
It all begins with one single step!
I learned how to organize from Sesame Street!
Gentle ways to start setting boundaries
The Art of Giving ourselves permission to move ahead with a dream
Are you consciously opting out of the “Loser” myth?
Find your soul tribe, Stay positive and Love yourself!
People around whom you have to “walk on eggshells” are not your people.
Do what you can with what you have!
How do you know if you’re in the right place?
“I am a worthwhile person, just who I am.
People will like me even if I don’t bend over backwards for them!”
“I am not selfish for wanting to receive what I give out.”
“It’s okay to love myself. I am worthwhile.”
You are awesome! You are worthwhile!
You are able to make a healthy transition to live a balanced life!
♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥
Blessings!
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Tamara
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You speak to me and of me so clearly :))) So many years I found my worth only through giving. ANd it was unpleasant to withdraw from it and live for myself. It was worth the growth. I still feel unskilled at asking for help.
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Me too! This weekend I needed to rely heavily on my daughter and she and the kids rallied around me. I told her how grateful I was to have them and to have their support. Her reply was simple: “of course, we’re family. That’s what family does!” I got the warm fuzzies inside!
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Aww and now I felt the warm fuzzies :))) So happy for you and your daughter is so amazing!
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Love this, Tamara! I can relate. Having been a giver always, I used to find it hard to ask back what I gave in relationships. But not anymore and it did feel selfish in the beginning but atleast I don’t feel invalid.
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Good for you! That’s a difficult one! I did that too. Changing was difficult for me as I had to came face to face with the damage I had inside of me from my past and face it. It was tough to see that I wasn’t just shortchanging myself by being the martyr, I was shortchanging my marriage!
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