“”Happiness doesn’t start with a relationship, a vacation, a job, or with money.
It starts with your thinking and what you tell yourself everyday!” – Unknown

Our consumerist lifestyles are fueled by thinking we need ABC, XYZ and every other goodie promoted by influencers, the media, our friends and a lot of them for good measure.

If we seem to have less that others, we’ve been trained to feel a sense of lack.

There are many who profiteer from this artificial sense of lack. They pay expensive marketing companies and influencers to keep this process going.

Economists have taught our CEO’S that constant increases in profits are essential to the health of a business.

We have all bought into this on one level or another, whether we’re selling or buying!

Behind the scenes, people are unhappier than ever, experiencing more mental health stresses, and struggling to cope with not being able to keep up with expectations.

I have found that what I say to myself has a direct impact on how I feel about my life.

When I was younger I had received a lot of criticism and verbal abuse which I had internalized.

As a result, I became very adept at saying harsh things to myself.

My negative self-talk could get me spiraling down the proverbial rabbit -hole, where I’d become a sobbing mess, depressed, anxious, and unable to see the positive in my life.

“It starts with your thinking and what you tell yourself everyday.”

I found the way out of that was to work hard on rewiring my thoughts. I had to catch myself when I was about to something nasty to myself.

That was very difficult, because I had become so adept at it I could do it without even thinking about it!

My self doubt was so ingrained that I self-sabotaged when things looked as though they were about to pick up. Afterwards I got to beat myself up some more, because I had proved to myself that my negative thoughts were right!

Our thoughts are more powerful than we realize!

The power of our thoughts is grossly underestimated, even dismissed as being unimportant.

I found it useful to write through these moments when I was struggling with negative thoughts. I created the Guided Journals as tools for you to use to not only download your thoughts, but the questions are there to help you see your thoughts and patterns objectively.

Objectivity is your friend in the process to rewire your thoughts!

When we’re too close to the negative thoughts, it’s difficult to separate reality from lies, so we tend to believe the lies because we’ve become conditioned to.

Using a Guided Journal (Anger Journal and the Anxiety Journal) helps in this process to give some objectivity, for when we separate ourselves from the intensity of the emotions, we are able to see solutions where previously we saw none!

We all need to work on training our brains to see things more positively, especially after what we’ve all gone through collectively!

If you’re ready to dig deeper into the issues which got you thinking so negatively about yourself, I recommend working through Developing Happiness When You Can’t Find It.

More happiness posts:

• 10 Steps to Owning Our Happiness
• Happiness starts with you. Not with your relationships, not with your job, not with your money, but with you!
• Happiness starts with you. Not with your relationships, not with your job, but with you. Part 2.
• Happiness starts with your thinking and what you tell yourself every day! Part 4
• 5 Things to quit RIGHT NOW!
• Being happy is a very personal thing and it really has nothing to do with anyone else.
• Find Joy in your Journey!
• 7 Rules of Life
• One day you wake up and realize you are truly happy from deep within your soul.
• 7 things to keep in mind
• 5 Daily Reminders: Say these to yourself in front of a mirror!
• 5 great how-to’s!
• How to set joyful goals
• “Letting go” – to be able to follow your Joy, and the incredible focus it brings to life!!

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