Kudos not Kicks each year!

I love all the positive steps Etta outlines in her article (click to see it) “Be Calm, Create Your Action Plan“!

I stopped making resolutions a few years ago since they’re just self defeating! Inevitably we break them and then the cycle of guilt and negative self talk just reinforces the negative tapes that are already playing!

Here’s the main points:

  1. Be Courageous.
  2. Reflect and Evaluate.
  3. Alter Your Mindset.
  4. Replace. Don’t Eliminate.

I switched to writing a retrospective of the past year where I write down all my accomplishments and goals large and small which I met (in spite of certain barriers or obstacles)!

See the article: A Neat Trick for Setting Goals

This has the purpose of helping me focus on positive things about myself! It’s so much nicer to receive kudos than kicks!

Once I do my thoughtful retrospective of myself, I use those accomplishments to set some new goals!

Now the new goals don’t seem so daunting, because I’ve just pointed out to myself ALL the things I did RIGHT this past year!

You’d be surprised how all those little accomplishments add up and show a larger, more positive picture of ourselves!

I used to suffer terribly with my negative self talk… To the point that I felt continually worthless. When we feel worthless we do so much to sabotage our success because ultimately we don’t feel we deserve it!! Thus the cycles continue!

I made a commitment a few years ago to heal my spirit from the crushing losses and abuses I went through, not to allow those things to identify my inner soul! The criticisms I had received were all internalized and then magnified.

Many years ago I had started putting the points Etta talks about into action, so when I saw her article it resonated with me!

Little by little I’ve chipped away at those internal blockages to my happiness and inner love!

I’ve also subscribed to daily positive messages in my email inbox from www.tut.com!

Please be sure to tell me and everyone about your accomplishments this year!!


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By changing our inner dialogue, we change EVERYTHING!

Challenge: When a negative thought enters your mind, think three positive ones. Train yourself to flip the script!

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Making a change… “How do I take that first step?”

An answer to dealing with the Inner Critic!

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