I write a lot about taking baby steps when making changes in our lives, because they are the most doable and sustainable.
Baby steps don’t tend to overwhelm us, they don’t tend to trigger panic attacks the way attempting bigger steps do, and emotionally they give us the most hope because we know we can do 1 baby step, and then prepare ourselves to do another.
The baby steps in the beginning of a journey, Tamara, always seem inadequate compared to the brilliance of the dream that inspired them. This is natural. If the dream wasn’t so far “out there” and dazzling, it wouldn’t be worth dreaming!
Just don’t be led to think that the physical ground you cover with your baby steps is all that they accomplish. Because for every mortal step you take, another cog in a giant wheel behind the curtains of time and space advances, and with it 10,000 new possibilities.
Better than Star Trek,
The Universe
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Baby steps, often discounted, are far more powerful than we realize, because they build confidence and hope when it has been wiped out, and when we are starting from scratch.
Baby steps allow us to look back at our trauma, and slowly be able to heal from it, every time we experience a reaction.
It takes time to go through this long process, and if we start practicing being kind to ourselves while we go through this process, we also slowly benefit from changing our inner dialogue from speaking harshly to ourselves for every perceived mess-up, and instead practice giving ourselves grace.
Giving ourselves grace may be a completely new concept to us, when we ourselves may not have experienced it.
If we never experienced it, starting to offer it to ourselves is best done in small doses, for it can quickly feel so overwhelming that we run right back into yelling and cussing at ourselves.
It takes a LOT of perseverance to heal. It really does. Hundreds of times of picking ourselves up from where we get knocked down or where we knock ourselves down.
When we start to make progress, often we self-sabotage, mess up, because we still haven’t reached a point of feeling we deserve or have earned the good things.
The cycle is something we internalized, but it is also something we ourselves can slowly change.
It takes guts and perseverance to keep picking ourselves up to try to change, but each time we do it, we lay down another brand new Neural Pathway in our brains. It’s going to take a lot of new Neural Pathways to slowly built the new roads our mind will take, and over time we will slowly let those old thoughts and patterns slip away.
Wherever we find ourselves, we can always start again! Every day is a fresh new opportunity.
Every day has 24 hours to start anew, each meal is a fresh start for healthier eating, each night is an opportunity to rest our minds and bodies, each morning offers us new opportunities that may not have been there yesterday, for each moment our minds and bodies want to renew, refresh, relearn and heal.
No matter what you are struggling with right now, take baby steps.
There is no need to try to do it all at once! It is not only okay to take things slowly, but baby steps tend to work better!
Did you mess up and speak harshly to yourself again? It’s going to be okay. You can start over right now and practice saying something kind and supportive to yourself.
This week, try to say something supportive to yourself every hour! For this week, tell that negative inner voice to sit down, you’ve got this!
Practice for 1 week. You can come back and let me know how it went if you want!
Next week try it again! You can come back and let me know how you’re doing each week if you want to.
I believe in you! You are stronger than you believe you are and far more capable than you know!
Here are some more helpful posts:
- Affirmation: I am open and ready for exciting new times in my life.
- Sometimes the best things happen unexpectedly!
- You get world peace through inner peace.
- Affirmation: Every cell in my body vibrates with energy and health. Loving myself heals my life.
- Affirmation: I am in the right place at the right time, doing the right thing.
- The razor blade is sharp but can’t cut a tree. The axe is strong but can’t cut hair.
- Habit Power: We are what we repeat
- It’s easy to be a critic, but being a doer requires effort, risk and change.
- You have the power to heal your life, and you need to know that.
- Changing our thoughts and habits Part 1: how does it physically work in the brain?
- Changing our thoughts and habits Part 2: how does it physically work in our body?
- Accepting and Embracing the Depressed Side of Ourselves
- The Power of Positive Words!
- Change the tapes!
- Baby steps serve a purpose to allow us to keep moving forward!
- Baby steps start the whole change happening!
- Teach ourselves to feel positive in order to see more positive things in our lives!!
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Yeah, fully agreed. Well said. It does indeed take a lot of perseverance.
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You’re so right Raveen, persistence is a key player to make the inner changes, especially if a habit has been long-term where a lot of neural pathways were laid down and reinforced. It will take persistence to lay down new neural pathways to start to gain presence and strength, while the old ones slowly fade.
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I began thinking about baby steps last year. A WIP, for sure. Your post gave me more to ponder about this topic, as you do. Powerful quotes, too! 🙏🏻
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This is very good! Whatever you are pondering on working through, above all, practice being kind to yourself as you process the past and progress through your journey. Blessings to you!
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Those are some nourishing words! Much gratitude for you. 🙏🏻 And to you!
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Thank you Michele! I appreciate your lovely words, they make me smile! Keep doing and being amazing!
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Welcome, Tamara. 🌻 Kind of you to say. 🙏🏻
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All true! *smile!
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Great advice/reminders, Tamara. Love what the universe said, esp the “better than Star Trek” bit. Way to add a little humor to an otherwise heavy topic. 🙂
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Thank you, Tamara! You’re right – it is a loooong process, but we will get their. When I was taking violin lessons, my teacher always said that if a passage was too hard, break it down! Even if you only get two notes at a time. Add the next note or two,and before you know it, you’ve learned the whole passage! Baby steps!
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What a great analogy Rita! This is great proof of concept!
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Right?! I love receiving those messages. I signed up for them when I was very raw and vulnerable, and even though I feel I have come a very long way, they still make me smile and help me. The writer of those notes has a great sense of humor!
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That’s excellent, Tamara. 🙂
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A big thank you from the heart, Tamara ❤ The title of your post expresses where I am on my long journey to deep self-healing. Giving myself grace does not come easy and, as you recommend, must be done with baby steps. Blessings to you on your own journey 🙂
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Yes, I have come to see that no matter where we are on our healing path that baby steps and giving ourselves grace does us so much more good than the other ways! These are indeed huge lessons to be learning and fitting into our day to day lives, so doing it slowly helps it become more permanent! Blessings to you and!
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Baby steps and grace. So good and needed, Tamara!
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Absolutely Wynne! This is the secret sauce to making huge and lasting changes!
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Wonderful post! I need to praise myself and celebrate the “baby steps” more often. I relate to what the universe told you, I get stuck waiting on those big dream moments, but those are built slowly in time not in one step. And then on the flip side every little mistep or step back, I feel like a ton of bricks. But those are to be expected!
As always thanks for sharing your wisdom and encouragement. ❤️ I definitely needed to read this post today. I’ve been having a lot of social anxiety lately, and I’m planning on spending the afternoon with a friend. I need to accept that my “baby steps” towards relationships with others are enough, I don’t need to press myself to do more or spend more social time than I feel comfortable with today. The little steps are enough.
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Yes, please listen to what your spirit and your body are telling you. No matter how small the steps, they still lead us in the direction we need to go. As for those backslides? Giving yourself grace is imperative! How many times do babies literally pick themselves up from the ground when they fall, and try again? Innumerable times! Do they speak harshly to themselves and beat themselves up when they fall? Well no, that’s a learned response that we assimilate as we get older. Babies intrinsically know that what they are doing id natural and normal. Likewise, when we seek to change and to grow, we need to remind ourselves that it’s part of our process. We aren’t losers or bad people of we don’t grasp something immediately. It will take time and repeated efforts. When we speak encouragingly to ourselves, we change the very essence of how our bodies interact with the world! We create positive chemistry in our bodies instead of producing more Cortisol.
Blessings to you on your journey! You can do it!
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Wow, I love that analogy of a baby learning to walk. It really does make sense to the process of growth and change in adulthood too. Thank you!!
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We’re all a work in progress! I’m a grandma and I am still learning! Giving ourselves grace and suspending judgment are important parts of this process!
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