I was reminded (how could I have overlooked it?) that today is International Day of Happiness by The Hot Goddess in What is Happiness? I suppose I’ve…… Read more “Happy Happiness Day!”
Category: Mental Health Affirmations
What the “Positivity” process doesn’t like to talk about
A thought to set the tone for today, based on a personalized email I received from http://www.TUT.com: The reason things always work out for the best, Tamara, is…… Read more “What the “Positivity” process doesn’t like to talk about”
Feeling bad memories slip away
On a recent night, I had a wonderful experience of allowing a few old bad memories to slip away. I had been going through some old photo…… Read more “Feeling bad memories slip away”
Gentle ways to start setting boundaries
Setting boundaries. Does that phrase give you cold chills down your back as you think about HOW you may possibly stand up to someone in your life…… Read more “Gentle ways to start setting boundaries”
Changing our thoughts and habits Part 2: how does it physically work in our body?
“A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge” Follow link: – Thomas Carlyle quote on Pooja on QUOTE OF THE DAY #72 This post has been…… Read more “Changing our thoughts and habits Part 2: how does it physically work in our body?”
Changing our thoughts and habits Part 1: how does it physically work in the brain?
I just finished reading ‘The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari’ by Robin Sharma. I had a couple of issues with the narration but what I want to…… Read more “Changing our thoughts and habits Part 1: how does it physically work in the brain?”
“Keep your energy in a bottle” – advice I received during chronic illness
Quote from lessonslearnedinlife.com I’ve had this post simmering for a while, but with the busyness of the holidays upon us, we all could use this reminder! Years…… Read more ““Keep your energy in a bottle” – advice I received during chronic illness”
Our inner head space… doing the inner shadow work
Inspired by Jack Canfora’s post: “We Know What We Are, But Know Not What We May Be” where he brings up existential questions about life, our perceptions…… Read more “Our inner head space… doing the inner shadow work”
Living the circle of life… giving and receiving in gratitude
I owe so many debts of gratitude that I can never repay some people – they are dead or live too far away. Photo and quote by…… Read more “Living the circle of life… giving and receiving in gratitude”
Does developing self-love and self-worth somehow create an invisible shield for defense from lies and bullying?
quote by Abdullah Shoaib “Does developing self-love and self-worth somehow create an invisible shield for defense from lies and bullying?” was an idea I have been mulling…… Read more “Does developing self-love and self-worth somehow create an invisible shield for defense from lies and bullying?”
Enjoy the freedom of being yourself, accepting that being seen a fool is just a part of it!
In a world where the image of being pulled together and perfect set an impossibly high bar, sometimes giving ourselves the freedom to just own who we are, let our hair down and stop worrying about being accepted is such a breath of fresh air!
I can’t tell you how many YEARS I agonized about not meeting with other people’s approval, or worse, living in fear of their disapproval. As long as my energy was focused on THAT, it was as though that was exactly what I attracted into my life!
The disapprovers showed their colors to me time and again, when they showed me they really just wanted to control me and my life because they felt they could do a better job at it than I could.
Even if that were true, It was still my life to live!
Posts for Mental Health Day October 10
The things that had the BIGGEST impact on my own mental health were teaching myself to like myself, suspending judgment, practicing speaking kindly instead of cruelly to myself, and allowing this whole set of tools to rewire my brain!
I know it sounds very innocuous, but HOW we see ourselves and speak to ourselves is foundational to developing more tools, for how quickly or how slowly we heal and grow, how we see the possible solutions, and how we implement them long-term.
Independence, or Interdependence?
This post has been inspired by Todd Fulginiti on Pointless Overthinking with his post Helping Others: Can You Dish It Out But Not Take It? Quote and…… Read more “Independence, or Interdependence?”
Alpha male? Beta male? …maybe a Gamma male? Or what?
I have many deep conversations with my 15-year-old grandson. This post was inspired by one of those conversations. He is a young man who is trying to figure out who he is, how the world works, and how to navigate the extreme Misandry (/mɪˈsændri/: hatred of, contempt for, or prejudice against men) he experiences from the girls in school who are also trying to figure out who they are. He is very troubled by how women are seeing men these days, the messages he receives from family, friends, school, and society on how to behave like a man, and what his own inner self is telling him.
Men are presented with 2 archetypes to choose from: the ALPHA male or the BETA male, yet how is a young man supposed to choose between those 2 if he doesn’t feel either one of them fits who he is? Are there in fact other archetypes men can identify with?
Growing older: giving myself permission to enjoy eating and to just be me
Jennifer Lambert? – last name unclear As a former Anorexic in my twenties, I spend almost 40 (!!) years disliking myself and mentally punishing myself for enjoying…… Read more “Growing older: giving myself permission to enjoy eating and to just be me”
Tamara Kulish 