quote by Abdullah Shoaib “Does developing self-love and self-worth somehow create an invisible shield for defense from lies and bullying?” was an idea I have been mulling…… Read more “Does developing self-love and self-worth somehow create an invisible shield for defense from lies and bullying?”
In a world where the image of being pulled together and perfect set an impossibly high bar, sometimes giving ourselves the freedom to just own who we are, let our hair down and stop worrying about being accepted is such a breath of fresh air!
I can’t tell you how many YEARS I agonized about not meeting with other people’s approval, or worse, living in fear of their disapproval. As long as my energy was focused on THAT, it was as though that was exactly what I attracted into my life!
The disapprovers showed their colors to me time and again, when they showed me they really just wanted to control me and my life because they felt they could do a better job at it than I could.
Even if that were true, It was still my life to live!
The things that had the BIGGEST impact on my own mental health were teaching myself to like myself, suspending judgment, practicing speaking kindly instead of cruelly to myself, and allowing this whole set of tools to rewire my brain!
I know it sounds very innocuous, but HOW we see ourselves and speak to ourselves is foundational to developing more tools, for how quickly or how slowly we heal and grow, how we see the possible solutions, and how we implement them long-term.
This post has been inspired by Todd Fulginiti on Pointless Overthinking with his post Helping Others: Can You Dish It Out But Not Take It? Quote and…… Read more “Independence, or Interdependence?”
I have many deep conversations with my 15-year-old grandson. This post was inspired by one of those conversations. He is a young man who is trying to figure out who he is, how the world works, and how to navigate the extreme Misandry (/mɪˈsændri/: hatred of, contempt for, or prejudice against men) he experiences from the girls in school who are also trying to figure out who they are. He is very troubled by how women are seeing men these days, the messages he receives from family, friends, school, and society on how to behave like a man, and what his own inner self is telling him.
Men are presented with 2 archetypes to choose from: the ALPHA male or the BETA male, yet how is a young man supposed to choose between those 2 if he doesn’t feel either one of them fits who he is? Are there in fact other archetypes men can identify with?
Jennifer Lambert? – last name unclear As a former Anorexic in my twenties, I spend almost 40 (!!) years disliking myself and mentally punishing myself for enjoying…… Read more “Growing older: giving myself permission to enjoy eating and to just be me”
We need to pay attention to the trail of breadcrumbs that the universe sends us!
The universe doesn’t always send a large magnificent solution, that everyone would ooh and aah about, a sure sign of a miracle and of God’s love and benevolence.
The fact that he doesn’t often work that way isn’t a sign of our unworthiness!
It isn’t just women who end up in relationships with abusers, narcissists, and bullies. Men end up in these kinds of relationships too. Photo by Tamara Kulish,…… Read more “Why we’re so attracted to people who end up abusing us”
Media manipulates us, primarily to get us to click on their articles, to create buzz, and to help make particular topics trend higher in the algorithms, which…… Read more “How to recognize that you are being manipulated by media”
I was laughing when I first read the title of the article “The ‘Difficult Person Test’ Measures 7 Key Traits—Here’s What To Know” (written by Natalie Arroyo…… Read more “The ‘Difficult Person Test’ – something we needed but were afraid to ask for!”
I don’t know about you, but I find it disheartening to see people being attacked online for perceived faults. I was questioning why this happens and wondered:…… Read more “Internet shaming is more than repressed anger; there’s everyday Sadism underlying it.”
Taken from On Comparing Ourselves to others… Available on Fine Art AmericaPhoto by Tamara Kulish do we feel badly when we compare ourselves to others following a…… Read more “A helpful trick to be able to overcome negatively Comparing Ourselves to others…”
My emotions can occasionally go on the roller coaster rails, usually when I’m not happy. Usually when I’m stressed and feeling trapped. Otherwise, when my life is…… Read more “Your emotions: the quiet lazy River or the roller coaster?”
“Teaching ourselves to like, even to love ourselves is the best gift we can give ourselves!”Tamara Kulish Photo and quote by Tamara Kulish Available on Fine Art…… Read more “Teaching ourselves to like, even to love ourselves is the best gift we can give ourselves!”
As we practice being gentle and kind with ourselves, we actually help to speed the process of helping our lives become more positive!Tamara Kulish Like many of…… Read more “As we practice being gentle and kind with ourselves, we actually help to speed the process of helping our lives become more positive!”