“You must learn a new way to think before you can master a new way to be.” – Marianne Williamson

The season for making resolutions to radically change ourselves and our lives will soon be upon us!

I advise against making huge, all-encompassing vows to change! Not only do I advise not telling other people, but I advise against making yourself do them, even quietly to yourself!

Does this mean that I don’t support change or think we should set out to?

Not at all! I have a different philosophy about how we should best approach change!

I learned that the changes which helped me to overcome anxiety, depression, even anorexia at one point, were to change how I thought!

The most profound, and the MOST difficult change was in how I looked at myself, how I spoke to myself, and what I thought of myself.

The root of so many of our “undesirable” habits lies in how we feel in our innermost being.

We do so much harm to ourselves, in various ways, because we struggle to value ourselves and to see our worth as a result of the negative or abusive messages we’ve internalized.

People speak of our inner child being damaged or hurt. I believe that it is our inner spirit which has become damaged or stunted.

How do we heal or repair this damage?

It will take time. No one can do it for us, they can only support and help us as we help ourselves.

In my own healing journey, I set out to teach myself to like myself. I knew that all my self-sabotage was stemming from having absorbed and having come to believe that I was worthless, a loser and wouldn’t amount to much.

Please check out some of my posts where I speak about the specifics of how to change our thoughts!

More:

• Challenge: When a negative thought enters your mind, think three positive ones. Train yourself to flip the script!
• As you think so shall you be!
• Even after a setback or negative experience, we can create a “reset” button in our minds!
• Turning Poison into Medicine
• Your triggers are your teachers
• Change the tapes!
• Baby steps serve a purpose to allow us to keep moving forward!
• Baby steps start the whole change happening!
• Teach ourselves to feel positive in order to see more positive things in our lives!!
• Red Ocean or Blue Ocean? How do you think?
• Change how you see and see how you change.
• Make yourself strong!
• WARNING: This post may be triggering! Instead of getting defensive, say, “Thanks for letting me know your thoughts. I’ll consider them.”
• It’s never too late to teach ourselves!
• Don’t speak negatively about yourself!!
• Stop hating yourself for everything you aren’t. Start loving yourself for everything you are.
• Creating Mindful Distance of Thoughts… what’s that?

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Blessings!
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Tamara

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