So, you wish to start thinking about making some changes in your life! …but how?
Whether it’s a New Year’s resolution or a decision at any time of the year, to making something change in one’s life is kind useless without a plan or a road-map! It’s easy to get overwhelmed by all that needs to be done, and then to throw up our hands in the air in disgust, and tell our selves it’s no use!
Please don’t do that! We all have issues, and we all have things we’re working on, even the people who seem practically perfect on the outside!
Comparing our self to anyone else isn’t fair either, since we can never know what another person’s struggles are, and since we’re all different on the inside, our time-table will be different too!
Here’s more on the subject with a little excerpt from the book
“How to Heal Your Life on a Deep Heart Level“:
Making Lemonade out of Life’s Lemons
Making lemonade out of life’s lemons and becoming a lemonade maker is partly a state of mind and partly learning some new tools.
It takes re-training of our minds, our perceptions, our emotions and our spirit to make this all happen. When we realize it is up to us, that no one else can do the work for us, then the work that it takes can seem like a lot and we can become overwhelmed.
It is do-able if we tackle it in smaller increments, and then the successes we achieve will help us to move forward. Never try to rush this progress, for even when it feels like nothing is happening, much to our surprise, the dormancy of winter changes, when a new Spring shows her face from behind a corner, and the lessons quietly learned in this time period push new juices through our veins.
When I say we need to do the work for ourselves, in no way do I mean that we are going to do this all by ourselves. There is a fine distinction between the two.
We all need help and support, which comes in various forms, both through reading and by talking to and learning from other people. Help can come from many varied and sometimes surprising sources, and I have found that the Universe can sometimes bring someone into my life to tell me something I need to hear in that moment, if I’m open to looking past some sources that might initially seem out of the square box.
However the end of each day, we all need to pick and choose the lessons that we feel are the most appropriate for ourselves, to then absorb and learn, to be able to internalize our healing. No one can do this work for us, while we sit back and allow it to happen; we need to participate very actively in our own process, which can be a slow, kind of ‘dripping in”, a percolation, and requiring repeated applications.
But, how do we get THERE from HERE, when the “Think Positive” adage seems to feel and sound hollow?
There are actually many facets to becoming a Lemonade Maker, each one allowing us to approach from a point we feel comfortable, and to gradually look and perhaps to incorporate them all in our own time. This means really that there isn’t a strict set of directions to follow, but rather, if we start with where we are at, with something that feels good, with something do-able, then we are making our start on this path.
Finding a First Step
Finding something meaningful to remind our self that good things will happen is a very good starting point.
Taking that first step is important, and some of us who struggle with negative issues inside of ourselves or with depression, sometimes need to take that first step again and again, because our learning curve isn’t always smooth and upward! We need to keep the eye on the prize and keep putting one foot in front of the other. You can do this! It’s do-able.
“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear,
but the triumph over it.” – Nelson Mandela
“Everything you do right now ripples outward and affects everyone.
Your posture can shine your heart or transmit anxiety.
Your breath can radiate love or muddy the room in depression.
Your glance can awaken joy. Your words can inspire freedom.
Your every act can open hearts and minds.” – David Deida
“It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop.” – Confucius
There’s so many different ways you can take your first step, you can start from any point in the book really that speaks to you, and where you feel most comfortable now. I know, I know, that goes against so much of what we hear – but if you can have one or two relatively easy transformations under your belt, won’t it give you courage and confidence to continue on to the harder ones?
I divided the book into what I feel are major portions we need to deal with: Beginning Steps, Body, Mind and Spirit. While I put everything into what seemed like a logical order for me, you aren’t me, and let’s face it, life isn’t logical!
Feel free to start anywhere that feels right to you, and proceed from there. Start small, or start big… it’s all up to you and what you feel ready to do!
I’m not sure that it matters where we start, as long as we do!
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