I learned that the biggest thing pulling me down into that dark rabbit hole of depression was my non-existent sense of self worth, and my internalized belief that I deserved all the bad things happening in my life.

When I decided that I wanted to heal and not keep sliding down into that place, I realized I needed to teach myself how to like myself, because if I liked myself and felt I was worthy, then I wouldn’t beat myself up so badly every time I felt I had messed up!

That was a very difficult task because I was somewhat of an expert at tearing myself down!

The first thing I did, and trust me when you try it too it will feel very strange and unnatural, was to practice not saying nasty things to myself. Instead, I was to speak gently, encouragingly to myself, like I spoke to my daughter when she was a little girl learning something new!

Wow, did that feel really stupid and weird!

I persevered in spite of how I felt because I had been learning about Neural Pathways and how to create new ones!

I wasn’t pleased that all my thoughts and actions towards myself had created a virtual highway of Neural Pathways where beating myself up was my automatic go-to!

I really wanted to change that!

In order to change my Neural Pathways I knew I need to purposefully think new thoughts enough times to start creating new pathways which would become roads, and hopefully, someday I’d even be able to retrain my brain to have extremely strong Neural Pathway highways as my new go-to’s.

This plan takes guts, patience, and perseverance to keep at it!

If you’re thinking of trying this out for yourself, please remind yourself that it’s okay to start small!

Baby steps are perfectly okay, and may be much more manageable than trying to do it all at once!

Baby steps get us started and help to build confidence!

You are a worthy individual!

I’m proud of you for trying, and for trying again and again!

It took me many, many tries before I started to get the hang of it!

That’s pretty normal actually! Keep trying!

You are worthwhile to invest your time and effort into!

Here are some encouraging posts to help you on this journey:

• Where do you start when you don’t know where to start?
• Generational curses: are they breakable?
• 13 Signs of Serious Anger Issues (you may not think yours are all that bad!)
• Why venting anger just makes us angrier, and ways to deal with it.
• Angry judgementalism is tearing us all apart!
• Internet shaming is more than repressed anger; there’s everyday Sadism underlying it.
• “Telling it like it is”, it’s hurting us all…
• What is the purpose of an Anger Journal, and why you need one!
• Give yourself the love that you deserve and you will receive the love that you deserve
• Changing how we speak to ourselves
• It’s never too late to teach ourselves!
• Don’t speak negatively about yourself!!
• Stop hating yourself for everything you aren’t. Start loving yourself for everything you are.
• Creating Mindful Distance of Thoughts… what’s that?
• The power of words
• Resilience is knowing that YOU are the only one that has the power and the responsibility to pick yourself up
• I do not allow others to influence my thinking unless it is positive or uplifting.
• Every thought we think is creating our future
• Allowing 2 truths to coexist isn’t nuts!
• Please watch your step: Your future starts here!
• Right now there are…
• Affirmation: Today is a new day! I can do this!

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Blessings!
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