“The more you extend kindness to yourself, the more it will become your automatic response to others.” – Wayne Dyer

Kindness… is this a word you associate with how you speak with yourself?

Or do you speak unkindly to yourself, because it’s what your past has trained you to do?

I used to say horrible things to myself. Things I’d never, ever say to another person, but somehow I thought I deserved to hear those words.

Those unkind, mean things were a reflection of what I felt I deserved, based on how I had been treated by my primary abuser. I could never be or do anything well enough to deserve praise, but I received all her scorn, anger and derision.

I later learned she was a very damaged person who had no idea how to process her emotions so she vented on me and others.

Had she learned to speak kindly to herself, maybe she would have helped herself to heal from her own life traumas. Of course, I can’t speak for her, I can only speak for myself, and how learning to speak kindly to myself helped me to heal and to change my life.

I truly believe in the power of speaking positively to ourselves. It’s life changing!

If you’re not comfortable with saying kind things to yourself, as I wasn’t in the beginning, start small.

Start by NOT saying hurtful things to yourself!

Start by giving yourself mini pep talks, by being encouraging to yourself.

Start small and slowly build from there!

More goodness:

• Gratitude attracts more reasons to be grateful!
• A mind at peace, a mind centered and not focused on harming others, is stronger than any physical force in the universe.
• When we create harmony in our minds and hearts, we will find it in our lives. The inner creates the outer. Always.
• Bringing Peace Of Mind into our lives…
• Changing your belief system with positive thoughts can change your world…
• Happiness isn’t a destination or a Utopia, but it can be a gentle undercurrent to your life!
• The next level of your life will demand a different version of you!
• A head full of fears has no place to dream!
• Be mindful, extremely selective and intentional about people you allow into your life.
• Let yourself be drawn by what you really love; it will not lead you astray!

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Blessings!
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