You’ll never know how many parts of you are living in other people! The encouragement you gave. The kindness you showed. The confidence you helped build. We leave pieces of ourselves behind more often than we realize.

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It’s easy to think sometimes that we don’t have any impact in other’s lives if we aren’t a big mover and shaker, but often it’s the quiet moments, the small actions that tell others we care for them and help them to find their own moral compass.

I spent years detoxing from my mother’s negative drama. There wasn’t a person she didn’t pick fights with, correct, put down or try to destroy. She wired my nervous system for so many years, and it took me a long time to not seek out people who drummed up drama for their excitement.

My father left us when I was 8 and my brother was 3 1/2 years younger, so we didn’t have his gentle calming presence every day in our lives. Dad was a gentle soul who passed away close to 40 years ago. He went through terrible trauma in his early years but never acted out against people the way my mother did. He was an insightful man who took pleasure helping the Ukrainian community in Montreal and inspired many people. While Dad moved out when I was a kid, I ended up moving in with him when my mother once again became violent towards me and I couldn’t take it anymore. Dad was there. The more I learn and grow on my path, the more I appreciate the gentle and quiet lessons he imparted.

There are many, many quiet, kind people in our world, quietly and gently living their lives and often unbeknownst to them they also have a steadying influence on the world around them.

My daughter and I recently were watching the orignal Little House on the Prairie, and Charles Ingalls, Pa, represents a quiet, gentle masculinity that my father lived. The alpha male manosphere so popular with many men today sees gentle, peaceful men as beta males, but it’s often the gentle men who get things done and are there solidly for their families.

As much as social media loves to create a pseudo world where bigger is better, flashier is more desired, success is measured in monetary and social cred terms, it’s the quiet gentle people who hold our hearts together and who help us in our lives.

Kindness is the new cool! Being a solid rock, the salt of the earth, an encourager is what this world needs!

• A mind at peace, a mind centered and not focused on harming others, is stronger than any physical force in the universe.
• Are you choosing peace, with yourself and with others?
• Bringing Peace Of Mind into our lives…
• Enjoy the freedom of being yourself, accepting that being seen a fool is just a part of it!
• Feeling bad memories slip away
• Purge by fire… could this help you?
• Telling it like it is… is it brutal honesty or just being an a******? (Or is it about instigating drama and then stepping back to watch the show?)
• There’s a fine line between positivity and denial
• What the “Positivity” process doesn’t like to talk about
• When we create harmony in our minds and hearts, we will find it in our lives. The inner creates the outer. Always.
• BE PATIENT when it seems thing are not going right
• Integrity… is it lost? Some signs that someone has integrity
• Never wish them pain. Wish them healing. That’s what they need.
• What you are walking through at this moment may just be the story that helps get someone else through…
• When we seek to discover the best in others, we somehow bring out the best in ourselves.
• Your work is not to drag the world kicking and screaming into a new awareness!
• You become what you surround yourself with. Energies are contagious. Choose carefully. Your environment will become you.

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