Or what happens to our own moral compass when we cheer on someone else who has lost theirs.

If you’re like me, you’re not just perplexed but dismayed at how quickly we collectively seem to have devolved into a society that relishes heaping verbal abuse on others we judge who “deserve” it or who “need to be put in their place”, which loosely corresponds to being other than where we are and what we think.

There has been a huge uptick in racism, homophobia, sexism, and generally hating on anyone who appears to stand in the way of what someone desires. The anger we see being vented out in airplanes, in stores, in hospitals or any place where there may be rules for respecting others seem to have become exponentially worse.

This negative, disruptive behavior was sold as “speaking one’s mind” and not holding back by being “politically correct”, and by the looks of it, too many people felt their personal lives and sense of expression had been stifled for too many years that they needed to just let loose all the rage and hate they had been storing up inside.

When it becomes like a kind of widespread “movement” of sorts, people will feel a kindred sense of connection to others also dropping the old niceties and feel strengthened to be part of something that feels like a cathartic release of old pains.

When people have been deeply hurt whether through domestic violence or other abuse where they may not have had any opportunity for validation or healing, and where they may have had to put on a fake face in front of others, the opportunity to release their rage through a now seemingly accepted and permissible way would create an over-ride to allow previously taboo behavior to now be seen as acceptable.

Even if we aren’t being a Karen or a Ken and treating people terribly, we can still be cheering them on by sharing memes that support this way of thinking and helping to create a sense of normalcy around treating people badly. Sharing and clicking on the memes or the headlines to read more will add to the algorithms that help create that false sense.

This is creating a loss of compassion and empathy, except for those who have made the same decisions and see life exactly the same way as us.

This is deepening the divide between “us and them”, deepening the sense of “othering”. The deeper the sense grows, the more people feel justified in behaving badly towards others, and our personal and our collective moral compasses slowly erode and can no longer guide us to be able to be kind, compassionate or caring to one another. (This goes against what Jesus taught us; His words are supposed to guide us into being better, more loving people.)

That kind of release isn’t a release at all, rather it is like the wolf that feeds on the anger and the rage grows.

If you have ever given into your anger, you know that it doesn’t necessarily get released, instead our brains get thrown into the chaos of the Amygdala being put into gear and which results in adrenalin being pumped into our systems.

There is something that happens to us when we see people acting like a**holes and we cheer it on and applaud it; we slowly veer away from wanting to be kind or respectful, and instead start to embrace the anger, the rage and that creates a need to want to vent out on others, whether in real life or to go online and become an “anonymous” troll.

If you are one of the people who do not choose to release your rage and anger onto others, know that I support your efforts to be kind to others, even if you struggle with deep hurts or deep anger.

We may not be able to change the gestalt of the moment, we can only work on ourselves, to choose what we focus our energies and our thoughts on. We can tidy up our social media use so we aren’t sharing stuff that just perpetuates and normalises these things, and we can choose to share better things.

Just because a large group of people have embraced letting their rage out onto others doesn’t mean it is really okay!

We each need to rediscover our moral compass if we have momentarily let them go in the need to be part of this movement, and we need to support and encourage others to do this if we haven’t let it go.

Healing from the things that originally traumatized us is an important piece of this, for when we don’t there can be a subconscious need to have everyone feel as terribly as we do. When we do that hard work of healing and face the inner shadows, we learn to become more compassionate with ourselves, which in turn helps us to have more compassion for others.

I believe in you and support you on your journey! You are not alone!

More good thoughts:

• Love is NOT all you need!
• The dandelion does not stop growing because it is told it is a weed!
• Be the flawed, QUIRKY, unique, beautiful and MAGICAL person that you are!
• “What if it really were up to me? Could I do it?”
• We’re all a work in progress
• Making a change… “How do I take that first step?”
• Time to Change the Negative Tapes!
• Start today, start tomorrow, just start!
• Do you only accept yourself if you look a certain way?
• A new you! Is this possible?
• On Comparing Ourselves to others…
• Fall in love with taking care of yourself
• Self-worth comes from one thing – thinking that you are worthy
• Remind yourself that you cannot fail at being yourself
• God, grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to change the one I can, and the wisdom to know… it’s me.
• By being yourself you put something beautiful into the world that was not there before!
• If you focus too hard on the problem, the solution can often evade you.
• Be the one who lights the darkness for others… with a good deed or kind word!
• Types of self-care and how to incorporate them into your life
• Be kind to past versions of yourself that didn’t know the things you now know.
• Small signs you’re liked more than you realize
• Here’s a life lesson in being effortlessly comfortable and “cool”.
• Changing how we see ourselves; moving from dislike when we yearn to be able to go forward into something more positive

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