We usually listen to be able to answer not to really hear what the other person is saying, so we end up missing large pieces of what’s being said as our brains do gymnastic to figure out our answer.

“Discussions are always better than arguments, because an argument is to find out who is right and a discussion is to find out what is right.”

Deep listening involves suspending our need to come up with a witty comeback or argument point, and instead just listen to what’s being said. Deep listening allows us to take in the tone of voice, the body language and any other non-verbal cues to get an understanding of the person’s frame of mind.

Deep listening also involves asking questions to learn more and to dig deeper, instead of figuring out an oppositional answer.

This holiday season, let’s try doing some deep listening and we may learn something we didn’t know, namely the other person’s point of view and get a feel of what’s going on in their lives.

I cannot promise you that there won’t be arguments or opposition, but if you’re listening to understand, hopefully there will be better communication developed. People feel when they’re really being listened to, and some people are in need of being heard.

Do you need to show that you’re right because you feel strongly about something, or are you able to hear different points of view? After all, there are often many different ways of looking at the same thing, likewise there are many possible solutions. Take for example the Pythagorean Theorem, it was considered unsolvable for 2,000 years, the 2 High Schoolers Who Found ‘Impossible’ Proof of Pythagorean Theorem Discover 9 More Solutions to it!

Just because something has been assumed to be XYZ for generations, doesn’t mean that there aren’t other answers that are viable or better.

Let’s work on some deep listening this holiday season, when we get together with the people we love and don’t love to be around!

Wishing you and yours a wonderful holiday season! May you deepen your relationships and forge new solutions to possibly some old problems!

Here are some more thoughts to get you prepared for the holidays:

• Generational curses: are they breakable?
• Those who say it cannot be done should not interrupt those who are doing it!
• Revenge: is it necessary or not?
• 13 Signs of Serious Anger Issues (you may not think yours are all that bad!)
• Why venting anger just makes us angrier, and ways to deal with it.
• Angry judgementalism is tearing us all apart!
• “Telling it like it is”, it’s hurting us all…
• 16 Phrases People Use When They’re Angry Inside but Don’t Want to Show It, (and how to move beyond.)
• How to trigger your Narcissist (not that you should), and what you can do to live a sane and healthy life
• What is the purpose of an Anger Journal, and why you need one!
• Everyday is a new beginning. Take a deep breath, smile, and START AGAIN.
• The power of stepping away!
• Your emotions: the quiet lazy River or the roller coaster?
• How to predict if a relationship will be difficult
• People generally see what they look for, and hear what they listen for.
• Misunderstandings in communication styles can lead to deep divides and fighting, Part 1
• Misunderstandings in communication styles, Part 2, the physical aspect
• Why we’re so attracted to people who end up abusing us
• Reality-show syndrome has changed how we interact and what we find acceptable behavior in others
• What is Toxic Femininity? Is it similar to Toxic Masculinity?
• Pray the universe gives difficult people what they need and not what they deserve!
• Give yourself the love that you deserve and you will receive the love that you deserve
• What’s the opposite of “Hurt people hurt others”?
• If you focus too hard on the problem, the solution can often evade you.
• Love is not what you say. Love is what you do.
• Setting “Boundaries with consequences”

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