Have you ever wanted to create something  but we’re ridiculed for dreaming aloud about it?

Years ago when I was a teenager I had told my mother that I wanted to be an author. She laughed. She told me I had “pie-in-the-sky” ideas and I needed to come back down to earth. After I wrote my first book I knew it was possible. After my second book I knew it wasn’t a fluke. When I told her I had published my first book she said she was proud of me, said she knew I could do it but was trying to spare me the heartache if it hadn’t happened.

Sometimes we have people around us who laugh at our dreams, but usually they’re projecting their own fears and insecurities onto us. Rarely do family members actually have meanness in their hearts towards us, and if they do, my observations have shown me that they’re often bitter about their own losses and spread it around easily to everyone around them. Kind of a “If I can’t be happy with my life, then you won’t be either.”

If this has happened to you, I hope you will be able to separate yourself from them, realize they’re projecting things onto you that don’t belong to you. I encourage you to try following your dream.

It’s true that not everyone’s dream becomes reality, but I think it’s worse to try to live with a dream that withered inside, for then the heart always hurts. Often with a failure comes wisdom of how to do it better next time. Just as it’s true that not every dream becomes reality, we’re also capable of creating new dreams. We learn from our mistakes and retool ourselves. I’ve had to remake myself a few times in life, and learned and grew from each iteration.

Here’s the story behind a now famous landmark about how it almost never got made, how th creator was ridiculed by the elite and famous in her profession, yet after it was built those same people saw the genius of her inspiration.

As usual, I’ve included some links at the end to help support you.

Text taken from a Facebook post by Enlightening Facts:

In the fall of 1980, a Yale architecture professor mentioned a national competition to his seminar students almost in passing. A memorial for Vietnam veterans. Open to anyone. Entries judged anonymously — just numbers, no names.

Maya Lin was twenty-one years old and studying for finals. She thought it might make a useful portfolio piece.

She had spent time abroad observing how different cultures approached death and remembrance, and she had noticed something. Some cultures placed their cemeteries inside daily life rather than hiding them at the edge of it. Death was not treated as something shameful or separate. It was simply honest.

She thought about what a memorial for fifty-eight thousand people who had died in a war that had divided the country might actually need to be. Not a statement about heroism. Not a political argument. Not a symbol of glory. Just an honest accounting of individual human loss — each name, each person, each life that had ended.

She sketched two polished black granite walls forming a wide V, set into a gentle slope so that visitors walking toward the center would descend below ground level, surrounded by the accumulating weight of names. The walls would be reflective. Visitors would see their own faces in the stone alongside the names of the dead. The names would be listed chronologically — not alphabetically, not by rank, but by when each person fell, so that the soldiers who died on the same day would appear together, the way they had been together when it happened.

Then you would walk back up and return to the present.

Her professor gave her a B.

She submitted it anyway — entry 1026, among 1,421 anonymous submissions from decorated architects, established design firms, and professionals who had spent careers building monuments.

The jury chose hers unanimously.

When they opened the envelope to learn who had created it, they found the name of a twenty-one-year-old senior who had never designed anything that was actually built.

For approximately forty-eight hours, Maya felt pure joy.

Then America learned who she was.

The backlash arrived immediately and with force. Prominent veterans groups called the design a degrading ditch, a black scar of shame, an insult. They had expected something traditional — white marble reaching skyward, heroic bronze soldiers, flags and eagles and the reassuring vocabulary of patriotic monuments. They had not expected a dark wall set into the ground, designed by a college student who had not been alive when the war began.

Then they learned she was Asian-American.

The attacks turned uglier. How dare a person of Asian descent design a memorial for Americans who had died fighting in Asia — never mind that she had been born in Ohio, never mind that she was as American as anyone in the room denouncing her. She was young and female and Asian, and that was enough.

Decorated military officers testified before Congress demanding the design be scrapped. Major donors threatened to withdraw their funding. The Secretary of the Interior refused to issue construction permits. Death threats arrived. Hate mail accumulated.

Maya was barely out of college, sitting in congressional hearing rooms while powerful men who had never met her questioned her patriotism, her qualifications, and her right to participate in American civic life.

She attended each hostile meeting and explained her vision calmly and without yielding.

The black granite would reflect visitors’ faces alongside the names of the dead — connecting the living with those who were gone. The chronological listing meant each soldier appeared next to the people who died the same day, recreating the bonds that combat had formed. Descending below ground was not degrading. It was intimate. A space for personal grief rather than public instruction. The simplicity was not disrespect. It was honesty. Fifty-eight thousand names, speaking for themselves, without politicians or generals deciding in advance how people should feel about them.

The attacks continued regardless.

After months of sustained fighting, officials proposed a compromise — build Maya’s wall as she had designed it, but add a traditional figurative statue and a flagpole nearby to satisfy the critics. She agreed reluctantly. The wall itself was what mattered.

Construction began in 1982.

On November 13, 1982, the Vietnam Veterans Memorial opened. Veterans approached cautiously. Many had opposed the design publicly. Some came expecting to feel insulted.

Then they found the names.

They traced letters in the polished black stone with their fingertips. They found friends who had died fifteen years earlier and stood there without moving. They wept. They left flowers at specific panels. They made pencil rubbings to take home. They brought their children and showed them which names mattered and why.

Within days, veterans who had testified against the memorial returned and stood before it in silence. The wall they had called a black scar became sacred ground.

Critics who had demanded Maya’s design be destroyed brought their families to visit. Veterans organizations that had fought its construction began holding ceremonies there annually. The items left at the base of the wall — letters, photographs, combat boots, wedding rings, drawings made by children — revealed what Maya had understood from the beginning and what her critics had not: this was not about politics or glory. It was about fifty-eight thousand individual human beings who had died, and the people who loved them needed a place to grieve honestly, without being told in advance what their grief was supposed to look like.

The National Park Service now collects and preserves every object left at the wall. More than one hundred thousand items arrive each year. All of them catalogued. All of them saved.

Today, more than five million people visit the Vietnam Veterans Memorial annually — more than the Lincoln Memorial, more than the Washington Monument, more than any other monument in Washington. The design that nearly did not get built became the most visited memorial in America. The student whose professor gave her a B changed how the country understood what a memorial could be.

Before Maya Lin, monuments were about glory — heroic figures, patriotic symbols, institutional messages about honor and sacrifice. After her wall, memorials could be about truth. About individual human cost. About grief acknowledged rather than grief managed.

She was told she was too young to understand, too inexperienced to be taken seriously, and that her background disqualified her from honoring American dead. Powerful men went to Congress to stop her.

She built it anyway. And when veterans stood before those polished black walls and saw their own faces reflected alongside the names of the dead, they understood what she had known at twenty-one.

Honesty honors the dead more than propaganda ever could.

For those who have ever been told that their perspective is not valid, that their experience does not qualify them, that the people in the room with more credentials and more volume are simply right — Maya Lin’s B and her congressional hearings and her five million annual visitors offer a particular and durable answer.

What have you been told you were too young, too inexperienced, or too outside the expected category to understand — and what did you actually know?

I hope this gave you some hope for your own dreams and plans!

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