When you just don’t know what to do but really want to help:
When someone you know is going through a rough time, doing something practical for them not only is super helpful but tells them you really understand and are there for them!
Simply offering a suggestion to call is actually a way to get out of actually doing anything helpful and the other person receiving the words knows this from experience how well-meaning people don’t follow through.
They know if you’re too busy to help now, you’ll be too busy if they should ever pick up the phone and take a risk of calling you later!!
On top of what they’re going through they don’t want to feel the sting of rejection. They let you walk away with your illusions intact, knowing they’ll never call someone who opted to give the illusion of being helpful but who can’t see what’s before them!
As the saying goes: Actions are louder than words!
There’s so many little ways to lend a hand which are far more uplifting than saying “Call me if you need anything!”
Asking “how can I help you“ is better because it shows real intent to help.
You’d be surprised how even seemingly small actions can go deep into a person’s spirit and be uplifting!
If there’s genuinely a bigger need, ask if you can get others involved with the necessary solution, and involve the person in the planning so they feel like a participant! They may not have the energy or the ability to physically help but still need to feel included!
Holiday times are typically times when needs can be even greater!
Please share some of your ideas and experiences so we can all get our hearts connected with what we can do to help!
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