Are you ready to take your relationship to the next level? Do you want a healthier relationship but keep hitting some old baggage or road-blocks?

Here are 3 questions that can help to power away those blockages, but maybe break it down into 3 separate discussions if it proves to be difficult.

3 Brave but important questions to ask in a relationship:

1. What is something you have been telling me that’s important to you that I keep missing or overlooking?
2. What is something you need from me that I struggle to give you?
3. What’s something you feel I haven’t fully accepted about you?

These questions help to not only give us deeper insight into our relationship wit a significant other, but also help the other person to feel seen and heard.

What happens AFTER you each have written down (yes, this is advisable to take written notes) what the other person has disclosed to you?

Action. Action. And action until it becomes a new go-to habit!

We need to not merely listen and acknowledge what the other person has said, but we need to put their feedback into action by changing our behavior towards them when we see we have been allowing our own baggage to interfere with showing our significant other the love we have for them.

Action and sustained action is important, otherwise we’re just hallucinating that we’re doing something to help our relationship, but nothing ends up changing.

Sustained action, until it becomes a new habit, vs. doing it for a few days then reverting back to old ways.

Change is HARD.

You may find that this exercise rips off some old band-aids you’ve each kept over old wounds, and that doing so is quite painful.

This may be a great time to go for a few counselling sessions to help you through this time, and you may also find that a few sessions isn’t enough, that you in fact need more.

We all have baggage to one extent or another, so having baggage doesn’t make us any less worthy of love or respect. The person who thinks they don’t have any may just be living in denial!

We all want emotionally healthy relationships, but often we fool ourselves into thinking that it’s healthier than it is, because, well, denial is a strong thing, and the truth of who we are and how we’re actually living is difficult to face.

These questions are difficult to ask and the healthy responses may be difficult to put into action, but they’re doable when we’re motivated to learn and to grow in healthy ways.

Have you ever tried asking these questions of your significant other? Were they open to hearing your responses when it was your turn? Have you put the new information into action?

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