I usually cringe when someone says something offensive, then shrugs it off saying they’re just saying it like it is. I don’t count myself as a prude…… Read more “Telling it like it is… is it brutal honesty or just being an a******? (Or is it about instigating drama and then stepping back to watch the show?)”
Category: Relationships with Others
Which is more important: being KIND or being NICE?
Being kind is often correlated with being nice, but is that true? What is the difference between the two? Being nice is when you are polite to…… Read more “Which is more important: being KIND or being NICE?”
Living the circle of life… giving and receiving in gratitude
I owe so many debts of gratitude that I can never repay some people – they are dead or live too far away. Photo and quote by…… Read more “Living the circle of life… giving and receiving in gratitude”
Posts for Mental Health Day October 10
The things that had the BIGGEST impact on my own mental health were teaching myself to like myself, suspending judgment, practicing speaking kindly instead of cruelly to myself, and allowing this whole set of tools to rewire my brain!
I know it sounds very innocuous, but HOW we see ourselves and speak to ourselves is foundational to developing more tools, for how quickly or how slowly we heal and grow, how we see the possible solutions, and how we implement them long-term.
Do we need to “Floor our Gas Pedal” all the time? “Consciously Uncoupling” from the “Grind Culture”.
A huge part of successfully navigating the flow of new circumstances seeking to impose conditions on us is mentally disengaging from expectations!
Expectations, ours, and our perception of others are in themselves huge stressors. Expectations often aren’t real but are what we imagine other people want from us, and vice versa.
Expectations often are very unrealistic and pay no attention to what is actually going on or what could actually happen. Expectations are often exaggerations of wishes and desires, so they need to be cut down to size, to fit with reality.
Independence, or Interdependence?
This post has been inspired by Todd Fulginiti on Pointless Overthinking with his post Helping Others: Can You Dish It Out But Not Take It? Quote and…… Read more “Independence, or Interdependence?”
Why we’re so attracted to people who end up abusing us
It isn’t just women who end up in relationships with abusers, narcissists, and bullies. Men end up in these kinds of relationships too. Photo by Tamara Kulish,…… Read more “Why we’re so attracted to people who end up abusing us”
Reality-show syndrome has changed how we interact and what we find acceptable behavior in others
Reality-show syndrome has changed how we interact and what we find to be acceptable behavior in others. Show-boating and creating drama used to be looked down on…… Read more “Reality-show syndrome has changed how we interact and what we find acceptable behavior in others”
The ‘Difficult Person Test’ – something we needed but were afraid to ask for!
I was laughing when I first read the title of the article “The ‘Difficult Person Test’ Measures 7 Key Traits—Here’s What To Know” (written by Natalie Arroyo…… Read more “The ‘Difficult Person Test’ – something we needed but were afraid to ask for!”
Internet shaming is more than repressed anger; there’s everyday Sadism underlying it.
I don’t know about you, but I find it disheartening to see people being attacked online for perceived faults. I was questioning why this happens and wondered:…… Read more “Internet shaming is more than repressed anger; there’s everyday Sadism underlying it.”
How to stop being Manipulated!
Tired of being manipulated? Tired of being toyed with for selfish purposes?
How do our “masters”, that is the narcissists keep us on a “leash” and push our buttons to keep us coming back?
One word. Fear.
Fear of losing their love. Fear of not getting their approval. Fear of their anger. Fear of their retribution… that’s revenge, or as they put it, punishment.