I just finished reading ‘The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari’ by Robin Sharma. I had a couple of issues with the narration but what I want to talk about here is the issue with some of the content. Overall, I think the author had good intentions and wanted to convey as many ideas as possible. But I had an issue with the parts where there were mentions of how much it would take to transform your life.

Another thing is that even if you apply a habit perfectly for 21 days, human beings’ complexity often does not allow complete changes in a short time because other things come up when we change one thing. Personal development is a journey and often it takes years. Sometimes, even after years, we still have a lot of things to improve.

by Betul Erbasi on Speed of Personal Development

The struggle to change

I too struggle with books that promise my life will be completely transformed within a certain amount of time if I follow their guidelines. It took years to go through my transformation, and I was highly motivated.

I do best with baby steps, and a gradual dripping-in method, anything too drastic and I start to feel anxiety, even panic.

I did do research into changing habits, and I learned about Neural Pathways.

What are Neural Pathways?

Every thought we have, and every action we do creates a new Neural Pathway. When we repeat a thought or action over and over, the pathways become more and more ingrained, because they are basically laying one over the other over another, effectively creating roads and then highways. Our brains use these as wonderful helpers in life so we don’t constantly need to think every step through.

This is why older habits and thought patterns feel much more difficult to overcome because those neural highways become an automatic go-to.

When we start thinking new thoughts or doing new actions, the neural pathways are so thin and narrow in comparison to the old ones, but with repetition and perseverance, they become stronger and wider.

What happens to the old ones?

With disuse, over time they start to fade away, becoming less and less of a natural go-to for our brains. It does take mindful repetition of the new actions and thoughts to get to the stage where they feel natural enough to become a go-to.

Often we give up when we’re only partially through this process because the old neural pathways are still exerting a powerful pull.

People often criticize people who start, stop, start-stop, many times, feeling the person just isn’t trying hard enough, but in reality, every time we start and stop, we’re still laying down some new neural pathways. With enough attempts, many people do finally succeed, because the accumulation of the neural pathways has built up enough to provide the traction needed to keep going.

So the trick is, to keep going! Keep picking yourself up, and keep trying!

Eventually, we create enough neural pathways to keep on that pathway, meanwhile, the old ones have a chance to fade more and more!

MOre:

• Brain Rewiring
• Peace is the result of retraining your mind to process life as it is, rather than as you think it should be.
• Habit Power: We are what we repeat
• It’s easy to be a critic, but being a doer requires effort, risk and change.
• You have the power to heal your life, and you need to know that.
• Changing our thoughts and habits Part 2: how does it physically work in our body?
• Accepting and Embracing the Depressed Side of Ourselves
• The Power of Positive Words!
• Our best intentions often fall to the wayside…
• A helpful trick to be able to overcome negatively Comparing Ourselves to others…
• Your emotions: the quiet lazy River or the roller coaster?
• Teaching ourselves to like, even to love ourselves is the best gift we can give ourselves!
• As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
• Give yourself the love that you deserve and you will receive the love that you deserve

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