by Tamara Kulish from https://tamarakulish.com/

Why do narcissistic people keep targeting us? Answers and tips below!

I came across the videos Brandon makes to help people understand the narcissists who keep floating into their lives. I highly encourage people to follow his videos for more information if you find them helpful.

I used to think I was a target because I was damaged from my past experience with an abusive narcissistic mother, but in reality, she just taught me to tolerate that behavior and to see many parts of it as normal. I knew the physical and the verbal abuse wasn’t normal, but I had no understanding of boundaries, nor the many little things that comprised healthy relationships.

The churches I was in explicitly said to “turn the other cheek” when my mother poured out her toxic behavior onto me, but it was only after the church members experienced it for themselves did they back away from her.

I still absorbed the inner lesson and it took me years to process all that training which taught me to put up with being treated terribly by people and to stick around, and that seeking their approval would never come.

People who are kind, gentle, and open tend to be great targets. We give people the benefit of the doubt, we give chances, we are givers, we are helpers. We aren’t necessarily suspicious by nature. We are their target market.

Here’s some videos that give insight insight into their processes and how to see it, then how to step away.

Why do narcissistic people keep targeting us?

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❤️‍🩹Narcissists don’t need much time to choose their next target. All they need is a way in. Within moments, they’re scanning for vulnerability, kindness, and the one quality they can’t resist: empathy.
1️⃣ You lead with warmth You smile, meet their eyes, and offer openness. To a narcissist, that feels like an invitation to take control. ❤️‍🩹 Your kindness is a gift. Just remember, not everyone is worthy of it.
2️⃣ You open up too fast You share personal details quickly because you crave connection. They’re not connecting, they’re collecting ammunition. ❤️‍🩹 Let trust build slowly. Make them earn your story.
3️⃣ You disguise your pain with humour You make light of your struggles, calling yourself “too much” or “too sensitive.” To a narcissist, it signals you’re used to being dismissed. ❤️‍🩹 Your feelings are valid. The wrong people just can’t handle them.
4️⃣ You minimise your needs You say “It’s fine” when it’s not. Narcissists thrive on this, knowing they can hurt you without pushback. ❤️‍🩹 Speak your truth. The right people will want to hear it.
5️⃣ You give endless chances Even when red flags wave, you hold onto hope they’ll change. That hope is what keeps you in place. ❤️‍🩹 You are easy to love, but not everyone is safe to love.
6️⃣ You avoid conflict for the sake of peace Your silence feels safer than confrontation. Narcissists count on that silence to keep their power. ❤️‍🩹 Boundaries are not fights. They are self-respect in action.
7️⃣ You mistake intensity for love They create instant closeness, leaving you thinking, “This must be real.” Love doesn’t rush. Control does. ❤️‍🩹 Real love won’t leave you in constant anxiety.
8️⃣ You have a light that draws people in Your compassion, depth, and energy are magnetic. Sadly, predators seek that light too. ❤️‍🩹 Keep shining, but protect where your light lands.
Brandon’s Final Thought: If you keep asking yourself, “Why do narcissists keep finding me?”, this is why. It’s not because you’re damaged. It’s because you have a rare heart. Now it’s time to guard it.
#narcissist#empath#narcissistic#narcissists#psychology
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6 forms of love bombing:

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💣💔Love bombing can be hard to spot. It often looks like kindness, passion, or the “deepest connection you’ve ever felt.” But healthy love doesn’t overwhelm you, it supports you steadily. If these feel familiar, be cautious.
1️⃣ Deep Declarations Too Fast They claim you’re their soulmate within days or weeks. It feels magical, but real love takes time to prove itself. ❤️‍🩹How to heal: Slow down. When someone rushes intimacy, pace the connection and let trust grow naturally.
2️⃣ Lavish or Excessive Gifts It feels generous at first, but soon the gifts come with unspoken strings. You may even feel guilty for not giving back in the same way. ❤️‍🩹How to heal: Love is about connection, not material proof. If it feels like pressure, speak up.
3️⃣ Nonstop Attention They text constantly, expect immediate replies, and want to know where you are at all times. It looks like passion, but it’s control in disguise. ❤️‍🩹How to heal: Protect your space. Healthy relationships allow breathing room.
4️⃣ Future Fantasies Too Soon They talk about marriage, forever, and big plans before you truly know each other. It feels romantic, but it’s designed to hook you quickly. ❤️‍🩹How to heal: Stay grounded. Watch for consistent actions, not just promises.
5️⃣ Dramatic Apologies When they mess up, they go big, crying, grand gestures, or claiming they can’t live without you. ❤️‍🩹How to heal: Lasting change comes from behaviour, not theatrics.
6️⃣ Crisis Every Time You Pull Away Whenever you step back, they suddenly have a crisis that only you can fix. It’s a guilt tactic to keep you close. ❤️‍🩹How to heal: You’re not responsible for rescuing someone from themselves.
❤️‍🩹Brandon’s Final Thought: Real love doesn’t pressure, overwhelm, or put you on an emotional rollercoaster. If it feels like too much, too soon, it’s manipulation, not love.
#lovebombing#narcissist#narcissism#healingjourney#emotionalabuse
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5 things that send a narcissistic person running for cover:

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❤️‍🩹Narcissists don’t crumble when you confront them They crumble when they realise you no longer need them And the worst part for them is that you never have to raise your voice
Here are 5 ways you quietly break a narcissist’s hold on you:
1️⃣ Your silence Example: You stop explaining, stop defending, stop reacting ❤️‍🩹Why it works: Attention is their oxygen. Silence cuts off their supply
2️⃣ Your indifference Example: Their attempts to provoke you no longer get a reaction ❤️‍🩹Why it works: Being irrelevant to you is the one role they cannot stand
3️⃣ Your glow-up Example: You’re happy, healthy, and it has nothing to do with them ❤️‍🩹Why it works: Seeing you thrive is a reminder of the control they lost
4️⃣ Your boundaries Example: You say no without guilt. You walk away without explaining ❤️‍🩹Why it works: Boundaries prove their power was always an illusion
5️⃣ Your peace Example: No arguments. No retaliation. Just calm ❤️‍🩹Why it works: A narcissist can’t survive without the chaos they created
❤️‍🩹Brandon’s Final Thought: They want your energy, your reactions, your pain. But when you stop giving them access, all they’re left with is themselves, and that’s the one thing they can’t control
#narcissisticabuse#narcissist#narcissisticabusesurvivor#emotionalhealing
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Why narcissistic men seek out younger women:

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🥵You’re not drawn to her because she’s extraordinary You’re drawn to her because she’s easier for you to influence And women notice it, we all notice it.
Here’s what that kind of attraction really says about you:
1️⃣ You want control, not closeness You’re not looking for an equal partner, you want someone who hasn’t learned how to say no yet
2️⃣ You avoid women your own age Because they’ve met men like you before and they’re no longer impressed
3️⃣ You confuse inexperience with admiration She looks at you like you’re special because she doesn’t know better, not because you’ve earned it
4️⃣ You chase power, not love Being the older man gives you an automatic advantage and you depend on that imbalance
5️⃣ You fear women who are your equals Mature women ask questions, hold boundaries, and spot red flags. You can’t handle that
6️⃣ You think being with her boosts your status But everyone sees through it. It doesn’t make you attractive. It makes you look desperate
7️⃣ You believe her youth raises your value But all it does is highlight how shallow you are. You’re not winning. You’re hiding
8️⃣ You call it charm, but it’s control You’re not magnetic. You’re calculated. And the younger she is, the easier it works
9️⃣ You seek validation over intimacy You don’t want to be known. You want to be worshipped. And she hasn’t learned the difference yet
❤️‍🩹 Women aren’t overreacting when they feel uneasy seeing this dynamic. They’re perceptive. They’ve experienced it. And they’re finished excusing it
Brandon’s final thought: If she’s barely legal and that excites you, you’re not high value. You’re high risk.
#narcissisticabuse#predatorymen#emotionalabuseawareness#truthhurts#healingforwomen
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5 signs you’re with a man who will let you burn out before he lifts a finger:

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A healthy man adds to your life, he doesn’t make you carry the whole thing for him. But some men slowly train you to pick up their responsibilities while giving you nothing back. If these sound familiar, it’s time to take a hard look at who you’re with.
1️⃣ You’re the one making life happen From booking holidays to paying bills to solving problems, if you stop, everything stops.
❤️‍🩹Why it matters: That’s not a partnership. That’s unpaid labour dressed up as love.
2️⃣ His maturity disappears when he’s challenged He sulks, shuts down, or turns it into a fight instead of listening. ❤️‍🩹Why it matters: Real men can handle conflict without making you the bad guy.
3️⃣ He expects you to be his emotional stabiliser Bad day at work? You fix it. Argument with a friend? You fix it. He never learns to regulate himself. ❤️‍🩹Why it matters: You’re his partner, not his emotional babysitter.
4️⃣ He coasts while you chase goals You’re building, improving, and moving forward, he’s just comfortable. ❤️‍🩹Why it matters: A relationship should pull you both higher, not slow you down.
5️⃣ You feel drained instead of desired You give time, energy, and effort, but it’s never returned in the way you need. ❤️‍🩹Why it matters: Love that empties you isn’t love worth keeping.
❤️‍🩹Brandon’s Final Thought: If you’re carrying the man you’re with, he’s not your partner, he’s your dependent. And you deserve someone who carries life with you, not someone who makes you do it alone.
#toxicrelationships#feminineenergy#masculineframe#healingjourney#selfworth#relationshipadvice
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Things narcissistic people do to you so you’ll never leave them:

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😳If I were on a mission to wear down my wife so that she’d never leave me, here’s what I’d do… And it would work, because I’d make her question herself long before she ever questioned me.
1️⃣ I’d Slowly Cut Her Off from Others I wouldn’t forbid her from seeing anyone, I’d just make her feel bad every time she did. ❤️‍🩹 So she’d choose to stay home, thinking it was her own decision.
2️⃣ I’d Chip Away at Her Self-Belief I’d make “jokes” that sting, roll my eyes at her thoughts, and call her too sensitive. ❤️‍🩹 So she’d start to believe she wasn’t capable of standing alone.
3️⃣ I’d Give Just Enough Affection to Keep Her Hooked A rare compliment here, a sweet moment there, just enough to keep her guessing. ❤️‍🩹 So she’d hold on to the memory of the person I pretended to be.
4️⃣ I’d Take Control of the Finances I’d manage every account, question her purchases, and remind her who makes the money. ❤️‍🩹 So she’d feel stuck and financially at my mercy.
5️⃣ I’d Make Her the Villain in Every Story I’d twist what she said, dismiss her feelings, and rewrite events to suit me. ❤️‍🩹 So she’d pour her energy into fixing damage I caused.
6️⃣ I’d Exhaust Her Until She Stopped Fighting I’d pick fights when she was calm, and go silent when she needed answers. ❤️‍🩹 So she’d give up asking for anything at all.
7️⃣ I’d Pretend I Was Carrying More than I Was I’d tell her she was lucky to have me, while she carried all the emotional weight. ❤️‍🩹 So she’d feel guilty just for wanting more.
8️⃣ And I’d Keep Her on Constant Alert One wrong word, and I’d make her regret it. ❤️‍🩹 So she’d hide her truth to protect my pride.
❤️‍🩹 Brandon’s Final Thought: Narcissists rarely destroy you in one blow, they erode you piece by piece until you forget who you were before them.
#narcissistabuse#toxicrelationships#narcissists#narcissistic#narcissism#narcissist#traumabond
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How to move on (How to hurt a narcissist):

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They don’t experience pain the way you do. But they do feel insult. Especially when the grip they had on you begins to fade. Here’s how to wound a narcissist, not with violence or revenge, but with strength they can never take from you:
1️⃣ Stop trying to explain yourself They thrive on your need to be understood. Example: You tell them why you’re upset, and they spin it until you’re the villain. ❤️‍🩹Boundaries and silence say far more than any defence ever could.
2️⃣ Heal into someone they no longer recognise They want you trapped in the hurt they caused. Example: You once pleaded for them to change. Now, you’re no contact and protecting your peace. ❤️‍🩹They can’t touch the version of you that’s outgrown them.
3️⃣ Smile again Few things unsettle a narcissist more than your joy without them. Example: You share a happy photo, and they view it repeatedly but never react. ❤️‍🩹Your happiness is your protest.
4️⃣ Speak your truth They survive by rewriting reality. Example: You tell your story, and people begin to see the truth about both of you. ❤️‍🩹The truth is their greatest weakness.
5️⃣ Don’t take the bait They’ll poke at you just to feel important again. Example: After weeks of silence, they send “Hope you’re well.” You let it sit unanswered. ❤️‍🩹Peace is your power, and they hate not being the centre of it.
6️⃣ Live a life they’re not part of Their deepest fear is being irrelevant. Example: You’re creating a future so full that their name never even comes up. ❤️‍🩹Healing is the sharpest cut they’ll ever feel.
❤️‍🩹Brandon’s final thought: You don’t need to get even. You just need to keep becoming the person they never believed you had the courage to be.
#narcissist#narcissism#narcissisticabusesurvivor
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7 things a narcissist does after a breakup:

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Breakups with narcissists don’t just break your heart. They leave your mind spinning. While you’re in pieces, they’re putting on a show. Here’s what narcissists do after a breakup that healthy people never will:
1️⃣ They swap you for someone new immediately It’s not about love, it’s about avoiding their own emptiness. ❤️‍🩹 Healthy people sit with their feelings. Narcissists run from them.
2️⃣ They pretend it meant nothing No sadness, only a forced smile. ❤️‍🩹 It was never love, it was about control, and they’ve just lost it.
3️⃣ They change the narrative Suddenly you’re “the problem” or “unstable.” ❤️‍🩹 Healthy people own their mistakes. Narcissists rewrite the script.
4️⃣ They monitor you from the shadows Watch your stories, ask mutual friends, linger without speaking. ❤️‍🩹 They don’t long for you, they long for access to you.
5️⃣ They showcase a new partner online Not a romance, a weapon. ❤️‍🩹 Healthy people protect peace. Narcissists aim to provoke.
6️⃣ They drop in with sudden affection A random “thinking of you” message. ❤️‍🩹 This isn’t closure. It’s another attempt to pull strings.
7️⃣ They keep a foot in the door Never truly gone, just waiting for a chance to return. ❤️‍🩹 A healthy person lets go. A narcissist circles back.
❤️‍🩹Brandon’s Final Thought: If their behavior after the breakup was more confusing than the relationship itself, it wasn’t love, it was manipulation. Your silence now? That’s your freedom.
#narcissisticabuse#traumabond#breakuphealing#toxicrelationships#healingjourney#emotionalabuse
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Here’s Cher saying out loud all the thoughts that you may have wanted to say to your narcissistic partner!

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5 parenting traits that turn a child into a narcissist:

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When a young boy isn’t taught healthy ways to manage his emotions, he can grow into a man who chases control, validation, and power in all the wrong places. This is what shapes him, and how to break the cycle.
1️⃣ Praising Without Teaching Responsibility Telling him he’s special without expecting accountability breeds entitlement. He comes to expect admiration without effort. Instead, praise his hard work, kindness, and perseverance, not just results.
2️⃣ Dismissing His Feelings If he’s told to “man up” rather than being helped through his emotions, he learns to bury them. Later, he may lack empathy and struggle to connect deeply. Show him that real strength is understanding and expressing emotions.
3️⃣ Making Him the Centre of the Universe If a child is treated as the most important person in the family, he starts to believe everything should revolve around him. This encourages selfishness. Teach balance by showing him others’ needs matter too.
4️⃣ Shaming Instead of Guiding Calling him “bad” instead of correcting behaviour harms his self-esteem. As an adult, he may mask insecurity with arrogance. Use discipline that teaches responsibility rather than shame.
5️⃣ Rewarding Emotional Manipulation If he learns that tantrums or guilt-trips get results, he’ll keep using them. As a man, this can turn into controlling behaviour. Encourage honesty and accountability instead of rewarding manipulation.
#creatinganarcissist#narcissism#childhoodtrauma#therapy#psychology
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During my second marriage my husband threatened to kill himself if I left him. Things had gotten so bad that I was finally willing to walk away, so he uttered that threat to keep me beside him. To his surprise and anger, I called the mental health hotline in our area and was able to get an appointment for him to see a counsellor. The counsellor decided that it would benefit both of us if he saw both of us, but thankfully we had separate appointment times. My husband decided after a few visits that the work was too difficult, so he told the counsellor to “just fix me” and that everything would be okay once more. Since the sessions were paid under his insurance, we couldn’t continue, so in our final session which was done by Zoom because I was already 1,000 miles away to help my daughter when her youngest was re-diagnosed with cancer, the counsellor told me that I needed to research “Narcissism” to better understand my husband and what I had lived through.

That research helped me to heal and it also showed me the path, the mission I was to follow, to share the lessons I learned so others like me could grow and heal. That path led me to write 2 books (Developing Happiness When You Can’t Find It and How to Heal Your Life on a Deep Heart Level ), and the process of writing helped me to clarify those lessons which ended up spilling over into over 700 WordPress posts, most of which I’ve shared links on 3 pages: Mental Health and Rewiring the Brain || Healing and Developing Ourselves || Positive thoughts and Affirmations

Narcissists end up hurting a lot of people but they seem oblivious to the damage they do. Very few are able to see themselves honestly and reach a point where they want to change and then put the work into it.

I’m not a psychologist or psychiatrist, so I don’t try to diagnose or treat anyone, and I think that instead of trying to “help” them to see the error of their ways, we should just move on from those relationships, because our mental health is worth a lot more than the apology we will never get. It isn’t our job to get others to change, but it is our job to change ourselves by healing and growing.

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34 thoughts on “Why do narcissistic people keep targeting us? Answers and tips below!”

  2. Thank you for sharing your experiences as well as the information about narcissism. I’m only starting to learn more about narcissism this year and realise that I have been dealing with narcissistic abuse for a long time now because of a narcissistic family member. It’s been tough setting boundaries because as you know narcissists don’t like it when you’re not ready to drop everything and do as they say. But with the help of my therapist and parents, I’ve gotten better. It helps to read the experiences of others because sometimes we end up feeling the villain because of all the gaslighting and knowing others experienced something similar and we’re not the ones that are problematic makes a difference.

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    1. I used to marvel at how all the narcissists in my life seemed to have the same playbook, and I suppose that’s because their brains are wired to treat people that way. Those of us who have struggled under narcissists, have experienced pretty much the same things, so no, you’re definitely not alone. You have had eerily similar experiences with so many others.

      Chin up girl, you’re on your way to developing the strength to set healthy boundaries and to be able to keep them in place without crumbling under emotional pressure when they press on your triggers, which they will.

      Keep a mindful distance from them. It’s better for your mental health. They’ll try to rope you in by pretending to be everything you need, only to pull the rug out from under your feet. They know exactly what your buttons and your triggers are, and they will enjoy pressing them. They need those hits of power over you.

      By keeping a mindful distance emotionally, by disengaging your hopes and expectations of a healthy close relationship, you are simply accepting what they aren’t capable of providing, so protecting your mental health is a necessity where they’re concerned!

      Start giving yourself the love and affirmations you think you need from them!

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      1. Yeah, it seems regardless of other factors narcissists have almost the exact same traits. Thankfully, the world knows more about them now and we know we’re not alone or just imagining things.

        I try my best to keep my distance but it’s hard when it’s a family member you can’t fully avoid. Recently, when I was at my lowest I ended up being triggered and reacted only to be guilt tripped after with the silent treatment.

        That’s a good idea, I’ll do that thanks!

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        1. It’s definitely more difficult when it’s a family member. I’d advise to keep the interactions superficial, don’t reveal anything personal or your inner thoughts. Then memorize some of the phrases to be able to use them as necessary. Politely expressing your boundaries so you’re not painted as rude, but if they choose to twist your words and make you into the bad guy, don’t get defensive. If they choose to see you as the bad guy because you set boundaries, roll with it. You know you’re not, so don’t play into their mind games. Let go of your need for positive words from them, they’re not going to give them, period. They see your need and turn it against you.

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          1. Yeah, I’ve been trying my best to do that but I won’t lie it’s been a struggle especially when I’m seen as the bad guy for having basic boundaries. Absolutely, that’s one thing I need to work on. As a people pleaser I tend to need validation but I need to accept I’ll never get it from them and honestly don’t need it.

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  3. This is all so very interesting. I don’t know that I’ve ever known a narcissist–or did without knowing it. I’ll stay on the alert. I was certainly blessed in my relationship and am very grateful, not taking it for granted!

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    1. Wow, you dodged a major bullet if you don’t think you’ve known a narcissist! Definitely do not take it for granted!

      Having been raised by one myself, I had to learn about it so I could see that what seemed like “normal” relationship behavior, definitely wasn’t.

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  4. What a great resource. I’ll need to bookmark this to revisit. There are some people in our lives that fit the bill that, unfortunately, can be hard to cut out permanently. So, a toolkit to manage those relationship is the next best thing.

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    1. Yes! I love this! A toolkit is definitely how I try to present information I find and share. I’m so happy that it spoke to you and can be of benefit.It’s definitely sometimes difficult to remove ourselves from narcissists in our lives. Knowing better strategies is certainly a sanity saver!

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      1. Yes, this is amazing. We are living with my MIL, a textbook narcissist and it can be so hard. So much of what you’ve shared over the years has been truly life-changing for my quality of life, so thank you for continuing to share!!

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        1. I’m happy to hear that What I’ve shared has been helpful to you over the years! Learning to deal with narcissists in a better way is certainly very challenging! You and Zeus seem to be doing better!

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    1. Thanks so much Wynne. I merely copied the points he had placed in the comments, I felt they were so powerful and could help some people. I highly encourage people to follow his videos for more information.

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    1. Thanks so much Michele! I copied what he had put in the comments. I felt it would be a wonderful resource for people, plus he has ma y more, so people can subscribe to him.

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    1. Keep being you! Awareness of their plays is an important part of the process, we aren’t imagining their behavior, it’s real. You striking back is you not accepting their lines and lies. Sorry for the overwhelm of the lists!

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  9. Big journey that one Tamara. I watched a friend for many years being so damaged that she reached a place where she thought it was all her fault, losing her mind, and slowly could barely function. To a point where he totally isolated her and just had a slave to his beck and call.

    Then he tried to kill her…twice…before it snapped her out of her danger and she threw him out. And threatened him with an AVO (Apprehended Violence Order). Knocked him completely over, he thought he had her so wrapped up she wouldn’t dare. And you are right, it was in being ignored that seemed to hurt him the most. He attempted little bits of contact here and there thinking it would let him back in, but she was strong and kept him at bay.

    Her mom and dad, her brother, her husband all narcissists. And she is only now coming out of her shell after so many years under that control.

    Great post kind lady. Sorry, can’t view the video’s but the post I think covered it very well regardless. It was done very thoroughly. Thank you for the share 🤗❤️🙏

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    1. Thank for sharing this story Mark, it’s powerful. She was trai ed into accepting those ki as of people in her life, and taking the step back and distancing herself was the best thing possible. Kudos to her!

      Yes, I added his lists, as I wasn’t sure if everyone would be able to access the videos. I wanted people to get the full benefit of the poi ts he makes.

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      1. You did well kind lady, it covered it completely so others could see just how dangerous those circumstances can be. In that there is no such thing as ‘too much’ as it has to be seen for what it really is. And not being one sided in this, I also observed that ‘he’ was brought up by a totally rejecting father and a mother who ‘used’ people all around her, friends, lovers, whoever. As in deliberately created a relationship to just get what she could out of it. I find it is no wonder he grew up as he did, he knew no other way 🤗❤️🙏

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        1. Yes, we’re often the products of our home environments, and then either continue the same patterns or we choose to change. Changing is the scary part because it is so unknown, but as we know, once we face the fear and just start making the changes, we become different people.

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