“People generally see what they look for, and hear what they listen for.” – Harper Lee, To Kill a Mockingbird

Try as we might to change someone’s mind, unless they’re open to hearing or seeing something new our chances of successfully having them listen is small!

Is it worth any efforts on our part to try?

If we’re respectful, not trying to convince them at all costs, it is possible, for people will rarely listen when they feel backed into a corner or if they’re on their defensive!

When we believe passionately about something, it can be difficult to manage our own emotions to stay calm and respectful, there is the real danger of becoming too pushy.

Our own job is to keep ourselves calm before trying to convince another, or the conversation can quickly turn into an argument.

If it becomes a little heated, remember to take a step back! We need to ask ourselves what we’re really trying to do, are we trying to teach another point of view or are we trying to prove we’re right and they’re wrong?

It serves no purpose to try to push through a point without taking into account that many people need time to mull things over in their head before they make a decision, so you may well convince someone, but could lose the whole issue by pushing too hard!

If we hope to convince someone else, we also need to be open to hearing their side, so both sides can learn more and become better able to find the best solutions! It’s always possible that we ourselves have been misinformed, so keeping open and listening is important.

Here’s some more thoughts:

• 13 Signs of Serious Anger Issues (you may not think yours are all that bad!)
• Why venting anger just makes us angrier, and ways to deal with it.
• Angry judgementalism is tearing us all apart!
• Internet shaming is more than repressed anger; there’s everyday Sadism underlying it.
• “Telling it like it is”, it’s hurting us all…
• Peace is the result of retraining your mind to process life as it is, rather than as you think it should be.
• Habit Power: We are what we repeat
• It’s easy to be a critic, but being a doer requires effort, risk and change.
• You have the power to heal your life, and you need to know that.
• Changing our thoughts and habits Part 1: how does it physically work in the brain?
• Changing our thoughts and habits Part 2: how does it physically work in our body?
• Love is NOT all you need!
• The dandelion does not stop growing because it is told it is a weed!
• Be the flawed, QUIRKY, unique, beautiful and MAGICAL person that you are!
• “What if it really were up to me? Could I do it?”
• We’re all a work in progress
• Making a change… “How do I take that first step?”
• Time to Change the Negative Tapes!

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