Here’s a few links to some of my favorite articles I’ve posted, which are organized by category!
Creating Art and Writing
Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you had ABSOLUTELY NO ART SUPPLIES to work with?
Yes, me too!
Should you start your painting on a white canvas? …or is there an alternative… And I’m not referring to the black canvases you can buy!!
I found myself answering a fellow blogger who had purchased an easel and a large white canvas a year ago and is sitting staring her back and challenging her!
I had a very positive response to one of my posts: the gentleman commented saying he’d love to write, but can’t fit in the time.
Getting into the practice of writing can be a slow easing-in process…
Years ago I was a true skeptic when I heard about healing art, even though I was an artist myself!
As a Private art teacher I had seen the power of art as it transformed many people’s lives when people opened themselves to learning something new which brought them joy, yet I hadn’t directly experienced art as a tool for healing!
In hindsight it was obvious to me that I was denying the power art had in my own soul…
Creating to-do lists… a productivity tool or a waste of time?
Most highly productive people rely heavily in lists or a system of Post-it Notes to keep track of many, many items which need doing.
If you’re like me and tend to misplace notes or don’t like the chore of writing everything down by hand, you may be happy to hear a new trick!
I was just asked by a fellow author and blogger how I created the workbook and coloring book which accompanies the book “How to Heal Your Life on a Deep Heart Level”. What design software did I use? She was so blown away with my answer she asked me to write an article which she could share with her readers, so here it is!
LOL! Ah, plans! Yes, I’ve spoken with people who “know all about writing, and how to create an amazing plan”! They’ve done their best to condescend to me, tell me how it “should be done”… Yet they haven’t actually sat down and started writing their book! Sigh!
Fitness and Health
No money for a gym membership? Can’t get to the gym in time before it closes? Can’t afford a babysitter to look after the kids while you go look after yourself?
Walking may be the best answer! Walking is free, and can be done indoors or outdoors! It’s one of the best exercises and can be accommodated to various fitness levels by simply altering the speed, distance and the difficulty of the pathway.
When you hear “sleep your way to success”, it would be normal to think of the disparaging remarks that have been made about many women who purportedly exchanged sexual favors for promotions… Yet, this article isn’t about that!
It’s literally about SLEEP!
The 10-3-2-1-0 Productivity trick that sets you up for a great day!
Living a Full Life!
We’ve all known people who defer their happiness in the name of completing their goal, yet goals can shift imperceptibly, getting more elusive as time passes, leaving people stuck in a life habit of not enjoying their lives in the present time!
So, what are the steps we can follow to get to own our “Happiness”?
Peace of mind… so essential for good emotional, spiritual and physical health! We cultivate it by choosing positive thoughts!
Don’t try to “chase away” negative thoughts, rather choose positive messages and keep repeating those! Trust is those thoughts, feel good about them, and keep selecting them when things don’t appear to go well in life!
I used to be a worrier, trying to anticipate everything before it happened and trying to prepare myself for everything! I didn’t have peace of mind! My mind was trying too hard to control every outcome by thinking of every possible outcome.
I’d never thought of it before so deeply, how we all seek approval from others before we will start an activity or something new in our lives, yet how many of us feel we CAN’T do something, and so WON’T?
When we say we can’t do something, we do know on a conscious level that unless we take classes or find some way to learn, then we won’t have the necessary skills to do it. We can’t possibly know in advance if we truly have talent or not, without ever having tried it. It’s much like deciding we don’t like the taste of a new food before having eaten it.
When our hearts are burdened we struggle to feel positive about anything. So starting with small things is then crucial to becoming able to get strong enough to turn the light switch on in our minds and hearts and to send the shadows fleeing.
Joy. It can be tiny moments, but add them together they can become a bucketful, a lake full and even feel as expansive as an ocean! Finding moments of joy and holding onto them is very important!
Making a big move or even any transition in life can feel daunting!
You’ve known that this change was coming. You’ve researched it. You’ve asked people for advice. You may even have tested it out a little!
Yet, once you jump in with both feet and land in that new place, whatever it may be for you, once there you may feel some little nagging feelings of uncertainty!
Would you consider being a philanthropist? Who would you become?
These are interesting questions I’ve pondered many times when I buy a lottery ticket!
So is there any point to money and wealth? Does it do any good at all?
I’m seeing the desires of people around me, whether physically in my life, or virtually, through the Internet, the desires to change, to have their lives move forward, to be different.
There’s hesitation, almost trepidation of making the right choices, in choosing where they want their lives to go.
Here’s my little story of how judging someone badly can deeply affect them! It’s not fun to read.
Over fifteen years ago when I had attended the second of two evangelical churches, I was personally reduced to the point of feeling so worthless to walk on this earth or to breathe the air that I was searching for a way to quietly leave this life.
Living mindfully isn’t enough if we aren’t also adding the secret element of joy, for that’s what brings us satisfaction!
I’ve written about following our joy in life, but purposefully choosing to do things which bring us joy really is the secret sauce to living a fulfilled life!
At the beginning of January this year Netflix started a brand new program called Tidying with Marie Kondo, which I was curious enough about to watch!
Wow! Marie has the whole concept of joy down to an art! Her area of expertise (tidying) has allowed her to observe that when people simplify their belongings and choose what brings them joy, then organize and display them, that the emotional benefits greatly impact their lives and their relationships by redefining what and how they choose to live!
Learning to Love Ourselves…
This has got to be THE most difficult relationship of all! We’ve all heard of loving ourselves but when we turn the magnifying glass inwards, don’t we just cringe at the thought of saying “I love you” to ourselves?
“Luck is what happens when Opportunity meets Preparedness”! This is so true!
Sometimes we don’t even know what to prepare for, yet if we’re OPEN then we tend to see more opportunities.
Opportunities are all around us, every moment, every day, yet when our spirits have become ground down we plod along just trying to survive.
Years ago when I was interested in quite a few new activities, I had some people trying to helpfully tell me I needed to choose one, maybe two of the activities which interested me the most, and focus only on those.
Their reasoning was that I couldn’t possibly do more things well, and that I’d be dispersing my energies too thin.
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
How easy is it to feel badly when we compare ourselves to others following a similar path?
Is it HEALTHY when we find our mind doing this, and how can we harness it?
Are you a Red ocean thinker or a Blue ocean thinker?
Hmmm… a new thought! What does this mean?
You’ve heard that positive thinking affects more than your relationships, ability to achieve your goals, helps your work environment, among other benefits?
It’s becoming more and more obvious to health professionals that when we THINK positively and LIVE our lives in a positive way that our immune systems are strengthened and they say even cancer can be held at bay or eliminated!
A Moral Compass is more than doing the right thing because we’re afraid of getting caught if we break a rule or a law… It’s something that happens on a much deeper, soul level.
When we feel compelled to do the right thing, it’s because we feel it’s what needs to be done, even when people aren’t watching us to make sure if we do or don’t do something!
What did I expect would happen when I found the answers I was looking for? Did I think I would live in a state of constant enlightenment?
I’ve been sitting on this article idea for a little while since reading Alexi Rose’s very heartfelt article regarding Forgiveness and why she has deep misgivings with the word. I too had similar misgivings when I was struggling through my own healing, and so I’d like to share some of her thoughts, as well as what I’ve learned going through my own process.
We all want things to go as planned. It seems a like a huge disaster when something happens to throw us off track… if people are watching, we can feel humiliated, it’s as though we failed to deliver on the experience we had built up for ourselves (or perhaps for others) to expect.
In all our planning, and expecting certain results, we can become really thrown off by the unexpected, yet when we allow ourselves to spontaneously follow the flow, we may find ourselves surprised or even delighted!
We all make them. Some are tiny and insignificant while others are life-affecting.
It’s sometimes very tempting to find someone to blame it on, rather than accepting responsibility and the CONSEQUENCES ourselves.
Making Life Changes
It takes great courage to accept and even embrace the depressed part of ourselves!
Understandably Depression can rear its head when we go through tough times, but when it occurs during periods of time when “everything is going well” that makes it seem BAFFLING and so we REJECT it!
Please note: If you’ve been diagnosed with a mental illness, don’t take my words here as permission to remove yourself from your medication! This article isn’t speaking to clinical or chemical depression, but is talking about situational depression.
I love writing about personal development and positivity, so can you imagine how cool it was for me to find out about “The Power of Your Identity” by Rock Thomas, and to know I went to high school with him? Yes, really!
What are the chances that two people from the same graduating class would be inspired to write personal development books? Pretty farfetched?
The “Loser”Myth: Where did it come from?
By the time we’ve become adults, the myth of the “Loser” has become so embedded in or minds and our spirits that we no longer question if it’s true or not! We accept the myth as if it were a fact!
Opting out of the “Loser” myth…
There’s a nuance of difference between making Resolutions and Setting Goals for your life! (Useful for any time of the year!)
The very phrase “Making Resolutions” or “New Year’s Resolutions” seem to be loaded with GUILT for most of us who try (and then fail) to do what we set out to do. I believe it’s time to drop this expression from our vocabulary! …Oh and by all means don’t tell people what “resolutions” you’re planning for yourself, because apparently it works against us psychologically!
I’ve found personally that when I’m unhappy with myself/my life, that I need to step out of my depressed and negative mindset for a few moments, to be able to determine what I’m unhappy about (and saying “everything” won’t cut it!) to be able to figure out what my plan of action needs to be.
I’ve observed that in a multi-step plan, there are usually many smaller steps that I need to do in order to get to where I want to go, and that I need to be realistic in how long it will take me to get it done!
Our fears can take many forms. This article talks about what can hold us back from pursuing our dreams and going all the way with them!
Even the strongest, most powerful people have or have had their fears. How we deal with them is key to not being held back by them!
Forgiveness… the mother of a mass shooter learns a profound lesson from the parents of the children who died.
“Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other to die!” – Buddha
When holding onto anger can destroy us…
So why forgive?
I read a very thought provoking article on Flavorwire.com, which reviews the film based on the Stanford Prison Experiment, where a psychology professor set up a prison environment in the basement of the Psychology Department and where students were randomly assigned the roles of “prisoner” or “guard”.
The author of the article, Moze Halpern, chose to make comparisons between the film and what happens in society where we have roles either assigned to us or where we chose them.
Tired of being manipulated? Tired of being toyed with for selfish purposes?
How do our “masters”, that is the narcissists keep us on a “leash” and push our buttons to keep us coming back?
One word. Fear.
Fear of losing their love. Fear of not getting their approval. Fear of their anger. Fear of their retribution… that’s revenge, or as they put it, punishment.
Love and caring are necessary components in helping someone to kick a drug habit, but unfortunately, they aren’t all what’s needed!
I love all the positive steps Etta outlines in her blog post “Be Calm, Create Your Action Plan”!
I stopped making resolutions a few years ago since they’re just self defeating! Inevitably we break them and then the cycle of guilt and negative self talk just reinforces the negative tapes that are already playing!
So, you wish to start thinking about making some changes in your life! …but how?
Whether it’s a New Year’s resolution or a decision at any time of the year, to making something change in one’s life is kind useless without a plan or a road-map! It’s easy to get overwhelmed by all that needs to be done, and then to throw up our hands in the air in disgust, and tell our selves it’s no use!
Please don’t do that! We all have issues, and we all have things we’re working on, even the people who seem practically perfect on the outside!
What has your year been like? Are you preparing yourself to look at what resolutions you wish to put into place for the New Year?
What if I were to say that I don’t do resolutions anymore? Why not?
So how is a person going to change, grow and move forward in life if this approach doesn’t work so well?
Well, a few years ago I heard of a brand new approach, which spoke to my yearning soul. This new way seemed focused on positivity, and echoed the new lessons in positivity I was learning from other sources.
What is that approach and how has it made a difference in my life?
As part of the Infinite Possibilities workshop (I believe it’s now the Love Your Life 30 Days Project) I did through http://www.TUT.com, Mike Dooley talked about changing the negative tapes in our minds which play back old unwanted and negative messages to us. Here’s what he said:
Time, a precious commodity is something we normally feel an acute lack of in our normal day-to-day lives, yet for many in selected isolation or required quarantine, time is now in surplus.
What to do? How we look at this time can either be viewed as a curse or a gift.
Have you been hearing a lot about learning to be grateful for whatever life gives you… even if life is throwing you a lot of curve balls lately?
“Is it really up to me?” This is a question I avoided looking at for many years.
I craved for people to help me out of the situations I desperately wanted out of; I struggled and struggled to find my way out.
I felt powerless to change anything and felt all the different things I was trying weren’t working because I was somehow cursed, or that I was a terrible loser that the universe couldn’t or wouldn’t help me by giving me a life free of troubles…
When I created the Anger Journal I knew I was creating a tool which would be much more than a notebook to dump thoughts!
After all, why would a person buy an anger journal if a simple notebook could suffice?
As with all my books, I’m creating tools. Tools to help a person deal with the immediate moment, and also as a way of gaining valuable insights for growth!
By asking guided questions, it becomes more than a dumping ground!
Here’s a question many men and women have at various times: Will I meet someone special? Will I have love in my life? Will someone love me?
You may probably be thinking of these things, yet dread repeating past mistakes…
How many times has it happened that you’ve been taught to do something a certain way and someone then does it differently and you blurt out “You’re doing it wrong!”
How many times have you been sure of your facts and someone says something you’re sure is wrong and you’ve said “You’re wrong about that!” …only to be proven wrong later?
Just how DOES a person deal with this?
It’s been a while since I’ve delved into the wonderful book by James Van Praagh: “Adventures of the Soul”!
Please see Dr. Amit Goswami’s groundbreaking documentary “The Quantum Activist” available for viewing on YouTube and his website. He brings Quantum Physics into our everyday lives in a simplified way!
A little further into the book and James Praagh is speaking about Energy, more specifically Quantum Energy. What’s that? That was my question too!
Do all thoughts have the same power to create our futures?
If we have random weird thoughts, will those have the same strength as deep wishes?
Are we victims of our untamed thoughts or do we have power to change them?
I read with interest how emotions give energy to our thoughts and what’s the missing ingredient!
We’re at the beginning of the book still, where the author is discussing what consciousness is, and how to raise our levels each day.
This article was originally written and posted on another site following the events in Ferguson, Missouri.
***Please note, this article isn’t written to diminish the struggles of any group, to promote any group over another or even to pretend to have all the answers!
Unfortunately, we, collectively, haven’t seemed to make much progress towards seeing each other as individuals, rather than as a whole racial group.
…So you want to save the world?
Here’s a way to connect with people who are passionate about doing just that!
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