With Thanksgiving coming up for my American friends, and the Holiday season looming for all of us, we all need to be reminded to expect the unexpected, even though we may want a family gathering to roll without a hitch!
I decided to place the PS at the very top since I know that some of you might be starting to feel anxious.
PS: Here’s the advice I sent to my daughter who is hosting her boyfriend and his parents at her place:
- Start working on your nerves now for Thanksgiving!
- Remember: at least one thing will probably go wrong! Anything that goes wrong isn’t a tragedy and might even be funny! It’s not a reflection of you as a person!
- Start managing your expectations of the meal and of yourself now! Don’t let it build up!
We all want things to go as planned. It seems like a huge disaster when something happens to throw us off track… if people are watching, we can feel humiliated, it’s as though we failed to deliver on the experience we had built up for ourselves (or perhaps for others) to expect.
In all our planning, and expecting certain results, we can become really thrown off by the unexpected, yet when we allow ourselves to spontaneously follow the flow, we may find ourselves surprised or even delighted!
When I was a kid we went to the circus. I don’t remember much from the other acts, but when the elephant pooped in the ring, my brother and I cracked up, we thought it was the most hilarious thing! To this day, that’s what I remember the most!
The ringmaster was flustered because the delay threw off the timing of the show. The clean-up crew worked as fast as they could, but if you’ve ever seen this spectacle, then you know that the sheer quantity of it takes time to clean up!
Just when the crew finished, the elephant, as if on cue, pooped some more and on top of that peed too. Of course, all of us kids in the audience shouted with laughter until our sides hurt. Bathroom humor acted out live in front of us was priceless!
The clowns got in on the action, acting goofy, waving their hands in front of their noses to show it smelled, and of course getting in the way of the clean-up crew, which upset the ringmaster even more. This went on it seemed for a couple more times, the elephants being led more and more out of the ring to allow the new acts the space to perform.
(I don’t think it was all staged, because the waiting acts seemed to be pretty ticked off at having to wait on the large beasts, and probably a little jealous that the clowns got extra time to, well, clown around!)
An inopportune moment was turned into entertainment for all of us. Somehow this memory stuck with me all through the years, as much as for the funniness of the moment, as well as for how I saw people turn something around to become even better entertainment.
What does it take to do this in our own lives?
A child-like sense of humor? A willingness to let go of a set outcome? An ability to find fun in spontaneity? Letting go of complete control of other people? Flexibility? A sense of adventure?
It’s probably a combination of the above things in various amounts, plus a few other intangible things thrown in for good measure!
“There’s power in looking silly and not caring that you do.” – Amy Poehler
As we get older, it can become harder to wing it and to go with the flow when things seem to go awry.
Partially it’s because we do get set in our ways, and the rhythm of a schedule can be comforting. It’s also because as we get older, we expect ourselves to become better and better at doing something, so it can almost seem like a personal affront to our skills and abilities when our plans go amiss.
These expectations can become a basis for some pretty negative self-talk, leaving us dreading moments when it seems we’re being judged for our poor performance.
“Do what you feel in your heart to be right – for you’ll be criticized for it anyway.”Eleanor Roosevelt
As we know, there are haters everywhere! Some people live for finding fault in others… should this paralyze you? Please, no!
We can be our harshest critics, and this dread can suck out the joy, and even prevent us from feeling like wanting to move with the events!
When things go wrong, a smile, a laugh can break the roughness of the moment! Find something that’s working and build on that!
Sometimes when things go wrong, it can even lead to something better… not always, but if we’re not open to the flow, we’ll never know!
Remember the #elephants! 😉 Keep your sense of humor for that will help everyone else to move on past any gaffe or mistake which crops up!
- 10 Steps to Owning Our Happiness
- Challenge: When a negative thought enters your mind, think three positive ones. Train yourself to flip the script!
- Peace is the result of retraining your mind to process life as it is, rather than as you think it should be.
- It is always an inside work. It starts within us.
- Some days you eat salads and go to the gym, some days you eat cupcakes and refuse to put on pants. It’s called balance.
- Happiness starts with your thinking and what you tell yourself every day! Part 4
- Happiness doesn’t start with a relationship, a vacation, a job or money. Part 3
- Happiness starts with you. Not with your relationships, not with your job, not with your money, but with you!
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