Co-dependency was a refuge for me when I was married to an alcoholic and drug addict. I was set up to become a co-dependent person from the…… Read more “Could you be a “Co-dependent” and not know it?”
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Our inner head space… doing the inner shadow work
Inspired by Jack Canfora’s post: “We Know What We Are, But Know Not What We May Be” where he brings up existential questions about life, our perceptions…… Read more “Our inner head space… doing the inner shadow work”
Everyday magic we experience
I believe in magic, serendipity and the love the universe has for each one of us. The movie “The Secret” inspired a whole movement of people intent…… Read more “Everyday magic we experience”
Does developing self-love and self-worth somehow create an invisible shield for defense from lies and bullying?
quote by Abdullah Shoaib “Does developing self-love and self-worth somehow create an invisible shield for defense from lies and bullying?” was an idea I have been mulling…… Read more “Does developing self-love and self-worth somehow create an invisible shield for defense from lies and bullying?”
What good is Intuition to us?
Intuition… we pretty much all have it, but we don’t always use it.
Intuition gets dismissed as a weak, feminine trait that can’t be trusted. If men follow their intuition, they call it “following their gut”, yet that is exactly what it is?
The skinny trend… going to any extreme is unhealthy… What anorexia taught me about recovery…
TRIGGER WARNING: This post talks about anorexia and self-harm.
4) The only person who was going to step in to save me, turned out to actually be myself!
The road to recovery and the road to becoming healthy is fundamentally ours to walk, sometimes alone, sometimes with support, but ultimately, we need to do it for ourselves!
Enjoy the freedom of being yourself, accepting that being seen a fool is just a part of it!
In a world where the image of being pulled together and perfect set an impossibly high bar, sometimes giving ourselves the freedom to just own who we are, let our hair down and stop worrying about being accepted is such a breath of fresh air!
I can’t tell you how many YEARS I agonized about not meeting with other people’s approval, or worse, living in fear of their disapproval. As long as my energy was focused on THAT, it was as though that was exactly what I attracted into my life!
The disapprovers showed their colors to me time and again, when they showed me they really just wanted to control me and my life because they felt they could do a better job at it than I could.
Even if that were true, It was still my life to live!
The progressively shifting line of understanding what is healthy and helps growth
The line between what we think is healthy and unhealthy will shift as we go through life. We may like to think the understanding of what is…… Read more “The progressively shifting line of understanding what is healthy and helps growth”
Posts for Mental Health Day October 10
The things that had the BIGGEST impact on my own mental health were teaching myself to like myself, suspending judgment, practicing speaking kindly instead of cruelly to myself, and allowing this whole set of tools to rewire my brain!
I know it sounds very innocuous, but HOW we see ourselves and speak to ourselves is foundational to developing more tools, for how quickly or how slowly we heal and grow, how we see the possible solutions, and how we implement them long-term.
Do we need to “Floor our Gas Pedal” all the time? “Consciously Uncoupling” from the “Grind Culture”.
A huge part of successfully navigating the flow of new circumstances seeking to impose conditions on us is mentally disengaging from expectations!
Expectations, ours, and our perception of others are in themselves huge stressors. Expectations often aren’t real but are what we imagine other people want from us, and vice versa.
Expectations often are very unrealistic and pay no attention to what is actually going on or what could actually happen. Expectations are often exaggerations of wishes and desires, so they need to be cut down to size, to fit with reality.
Alpha male? Beta male? …maybe a Gamma male? Or what?
I have many deep conversations with my 15-year-old grandson. This post was inspired by one of those conversations. He is a young man who is trying to figure out who he is, how the world works, and how to navigate the extreme Misandry (/mɪˈsændri/: hatred of, contempt for, or prejudice against men) he experiences from the girls in school who are also trying to figure out who they are. He is very troubled by how women are seeing men these days, the messages he receives from family, friends, school, and society on how to behave like a man, and what his own inner self is telling him.
Men are presented with 2 archetypes to choose from: the ALPHA male or the BETA male, yet how is a young man supposed to choose between those 2 if he doesn’t feel either one of them fits who he is? Are there in fact other archetypes men can identify with?
Are you an “Echoist”? What it is and how to overcome it.
Quote by Dr. Wayne Dyer; Meme from Facebook Narcissism is the topic du jour. We’re programmed to beware of gaslighting and avoid the red flags of extreme selfishness and a craving for attention. But…… Read more “Are you an “Echoist”? What it is and how to overcome it.”
Purge by fire… could this help you?
Once again I’m inspired by a fellow blogger to write a post. Katherin Garland writes about the need to release and purge people, energy, and memories from…… Read more “Purge by fire… could this help you?”
Growing older: giving myself permission to enjoy eating and to just be me
Jennifer Lambert? – last name unclear As a former Anorexic in my twenties, I spend almost 40 (!!) years disliking myself and mentally punishing myself for enjoying…… Read more “Growing older: giving myself permission to enjoy eating and to just be me”
The Universe sends us a trail of breadcrumbs to follow.
We need to pay attention to the trail of breadcrumbs that the universe sends us!
The universe doesn’t always send a large magnificent solution, that everyone would ooh and aah about, a sure sign of a miracle and of God’s love and benevolence.
The fact that he doesn’t often work that way isn’t a sign of our unworthiness!
Tamara Kulish 