The line between what we think is healthy and unhealthy will shift as we go through life. We may like to think the understanding of what is…… Read more “The progressively shifting line of understanding what is healthy and helps growth”
Tag: empowerment
Posts for Mental Health Day October 10
The things that had the BIGGEST impact on my own mental health were teaching myself to like myself, suspending judgment, practicing speaking kindly instead of cruelly to myself, and allowing this whole set of tools to rewire my brain!
I know it sounds very innocuous, but HOW we see ourselves and speak to ourselves is foundational to developing more tools, for how quickly or how slowly we heal and grow, how we see the possible solutions, and how we implement them long-term.
Do we need to “Floor our Gas Pedal” all the time? “Consciously Uncoupling” from the “Grind Culture”.
A huge part of successfully navigating the flow of new circumstances seeking to impose conditions on us is mentally disengaging from expectations!
Expectations, ours, and our perception of others are in themselves huge stressors. Expectations often aren’t real but are what we imagine other people want from us, and vice versa.
Expectations often are very unrealistic and pay no attention to what is actually going on or what could actually happen. Expectations are often exaggerations of wishes and desires, so they need to be cut down to size, to fit with reality.
Teaching our kids about adult predators in an understandable manner
We don’t want to have difficult discussions with our kids which expose them to the darker side of life and people, but it’s necessary, for their safety…… Read more “Teaching our kids about adult predators in an understandable manner”
Alpha male? Beta male? …maybe a Gamma male? Or what?
I have many deep conversations with my 15-year-old grandson. This post was inspired by one of those conversations. He is a young man who is trying to figure out who he is, how the world works, and how to navigate the extreme Misandry (/mɪˈsændri/: hatred of, contempt for, or prejudice against men) he experiences from the girls in school who are also trying to figure out who they are. He is very troubled by how women are seeing men these days, the messages he receives from family, friends, school, and society on how to behave like a man, and what his own inner self is telling him.
Men are presented with 2 archetypes to choose from: the ALPHA male or the BETA male, yet how is a young man supposed to choose between those 2 if he doesn’t feel either one of them fits who he is? Are there in fact other archetypes men can identify with?
Are you an “Echoist”? What it is and how to overcome it.
Quote by Dr. Wayne Dyer; Meme from Facebook Narcissism is the topic du jour. We’re programmed to beware of gaslighting and avoid the red flags of extreme selfishness and a craving for attention. But…… Read more “Are you an “Echoist”? What it is and how to overcome it.”
Purge by fire… could this help you?
Once again I’m inspired by a fellow blogger to write a post. Katherin Garland writes about the need to release and purge people, energy, and memories from…… Read more “Purge by fire… could this help you?”
Growing older: giving myself permission to enjoy eating and to just be me
Jennifer Lambert? – last name unclear As a former Anorexic in my twenties, I spend almost 40 (!!) years disliking myself and mentally punishing myself for enjoying…… Read more “Growing older: giving myself permission to enjoy eating and to just be me”
Nothing is set in stone! “What have I got to lose?”
Nothing is set in stone! “What have I got to lose?” Years ago I was very inspired by a friend who had been in a car accident and had spent some 20 years in a wheelchair, she had decided to test the principle and try to teach her legs to walk again.
There’s a fine line between positivity and denial
Edit: I found this funny/sad article about toxic workforce “positivity”, and I see how positivity has been weaponized against workers: https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/people-sharing-most-cult-job-034503536.html What is Toxic Positivity? I heard…… Read more “There’s a fine line between positivity and denial”
How meditative walks can help jumpstart creativity!
I’ve mentioned here before that one of the tools in my toolkit is to take meditative walks. These have been great for both my fitness and for…… Read more “How meditative walks can help jumpstart creativity!”
Why we’re so attracted to people who end up abusing us
It isn’t just women who end up in relationships with abusers, narcissists, and bullies. Men end up in these kinds of relationships too. Photo by Tamara Kulish,…… Read more “Why we’re so attracted to people who end up abusing us”
How social myths contribute to struggling mental health issues
There are so many untrue old myths floating around regarding how to manage life and money, that they get repeated by people who want to help, but…… Read more “How social myths contribute to struggling mental health issues”
Feeling restless so I unplugged this weekend!
Quote by Ralph Waldo EmersonMeme by – Unknown I’ve been feeling very restless this week. There’s been a lot of drama going around work for the past…… Read more “Feeling restless so I unplugged this weekend!”
I’m questioning how else I may be inadvertently offending someone…
This is a half-joking, half-serious post, but I’d appreciate your thoughts and input on this! Recently I ran into a situation where I had inadvertently offended someone…… Read more “I’m questioning how else I may be inadvertently offending someone…”
Tamara Kulish 