The line between what we think is healthy and unhealthy will shift as we go through life. We may like to think the understanding of what is…… Read more “The progressively shifting line of understanding what is healthy and helps growth”
Category: A Relationship with Ourself
Posts for Mental Health Day October 10
The things that had the BIGGEST impact on my own mental health were teaching myself to like myself, suspending judgment, practicing speaking kindly instead of cruelly to myself, and allowing this whole set of tools to rewire my brain!
I know it sounds very innocuous, but HOW we see ourselves and speak to ourselves is foundational to developing more tools, for how quickly or how slowly we heal and grow, how we see the possible solutions, and how we implement them long-term.
Do we need to “Floor our Gas Pedal” all the time? “Consciously Uncoupling” from the “Grind Culture”.
A huge part of successfully navigating the flow of new circumstances seeking to impose conditions on us is mentally disengaging from expectations!
Expectations, ours, and our perception of others are in themselves huge stressors. Expectations often aren’t real but are what we imagine other people want from us, and vice versa.
Expectations often are very unrealistic and pay no attention to what is actually going on or what could actually happen. Expectations are often exaggerations of wishes and desires, so they need to be cut down to size, to fit with reality.
Alpha male? Beta male? …maybe a Gamma male? Or what?
I have many deep conversations with my 15-year-old grandson. This post was inspired by one of those conversations. He is a young man who is trying to figure out who he is, how the world works, and how to navigate the extreme Misandry (/mɪˈsændri/: hatred of, contempt for, or prejudice against men) he experiences from the girls in school who are also trying to figure out who they are. He is very troubled by how women are seeing men these days, the messages he receives from family, friends, school, and society on how to behave like a man, and what his own inner self is telling him.
Men are presented with 2 archetypes to choose from: the ALPHA male or the BETA male, yet how is a young man supposed to choose between those 2 if he doesn’t feel either one of them fits who he is? Are there in fact other archetypes men can identify with?
Are you an “Echoist”? What it is and how to overcome it.
Quote by Dr. Wayne Dyer; Meme from Facebook Narcissism is the topic du jour. We’re programmed to beware of gaslighting and avoid the red flags of extreme selfishness and a craving for attention. But…… Read more “Are you an “Echoist”? What it is and how to overcome it.”
Growing older: giving myself permission to enjoy eating and to just be me
Jennifer Lambert? – last name unclear As a former Anorexic in my twenties, I spend almost 40 (!!) years disliking myself and mentally punishing myself for enjoying…… Read more “Growing older: giving myself permission to enjoy eating and to just be me”
We’re all a work in progress
Perfectionism is highly prized in the current fake world of social media, creating much added mental anguish for those of us who are highly self-critical. Separating ourselves…… Read more “We’re all a work in progress”
Our best intentions often fall to the wayside…
Quote from Indian Hills Community Center sign We all know what changes we want to make in our lives and in ourselves, sometimes we’re actually successful at…… Read more “Our best intentions often fall to the wayside…”
Reality-show syndrome has changed how we interact and what we find acceptable behavior in others
Reality-show syndrome has changed how we interact and what we find to be acceptable behavior in others. Show-boating and creating drama used to be looked down on…… Read more “Reality-show syndrome has changed how we interact and what we find acceptable behavior in others”
Start today, start tomorrow, just start!
I read this somewhere on Facebook I think, and really wanted to share this wonderful concept: Start today, start tomorrow, just start! What do I love most…… Read more “Start today, start tomorrow, just start!”
The ‘Difficult Person Test’ – something we needed but were afraid to ask for!
I was laughing when I first read the title of the article “The ‘Difficult Person Test’ Measures 7 Key Traits—Here’s What To Know” (written by Natalie Arroyo…… Read more “The ‘Difficult Person Test’ – something we needed but were afraid to ask for!”
Internet shaming is more than repressed anger; there’s everyday Sadism underlying it.
I don’t know about you, but I find it disheartening to see people being attacked online for perceived faults. I was questioning why this happens and wondered:…… Read more “Internet shaming is more than repressed anger; there’s everyday Sadism underlying it.”
For most of my life, I denied I share a birthday with a rodent!
Recently I was laughingly telling my hairdresser that for most of my life I had been in denial about sharing my birthday with a rodent, specifically the…… Read more “For most of my life, I denied I share a birthday with a rodent!”
Do you only accept yourself if you look a certain way?
I’m delighted to share my article which got published on Navigating the Change: A Guide for the Menopausal Journey, created by K E Garland! It is delightful…… Read more “Do you only accept yourself if you look a certain way?”
A new you! Is this possible?
I would like each of you to read this image and to follow the directions when you reach the bottom of the image! Then read the rest…… Read more “A new you! Is this possible?”
Tamara Kulish 