The line between what we think is healthy and unhealthy will shift as we go through life. We may like to think the understanding of what is…… Read more “The progressively shifting line of understanding what is healthy and helps growth”
Category: Relationships
Posts for Mental Health Day October 10
The things that had the BIGGEST impact on my own mental health were teaching myself to like myself, suspending judgment, practicing speaking kindly instead of cruelly to myself, and allowing this whole set of tools to rewire my brain!
I know it sounds very innocuous, but HOW we see ourselves and speak to ourselves is foundational to developing more tools, for how quickly or how slowly we heal and grow, how we see the possible solutions, and how we implement them long-term.
Do we need to “Floor our Gas Pedal” all the time? “Consciously Uncoupling” from the “Grind Culture”.
A huge part of successfully navigating the flow of new circumstances seeking to impose conditions on us is mentally disengaging from expectations!
Expectations, ours, and our perception of others are in themselves huge stressors. Expectations often aren’t real but are what we imagine other people want from us, and vice versa.
Expectations often are very unrealistic and pay no attention to what is actually going on or what could actually happen. Expectations are often exaggerations of wishes and desires, so they need to be cut down to size, to fit with reality.
Independence, or Interdependence?
This post has been inspired by Todd Fulginiti on Pointless Overthinking with his post Helping Others: Can You Dish It Out But Not Take It? Quote and…… Read more “Independence, or Interdependence?”
Teaching our kids about adult predators in an understandable manner
We don’t want to have difficult discussions with our kids which expose them to the darker side of life and people, but it’s necessary, for their safety…… Read more “Teaching our kids about adult predators in an understandable manner”
Alpha male? Beta male? …maybe a Gamma male? Or what?
I have many deep conversations with my 15-year-old grandson. This post was inspired by one of those conversations. He is a young man who is trying to figure out who he is, how the world works, and how to navigate the extreme Misandry (/mɪˈsændri/: hatred of, contempt for, or prejudice against men) he experiences from the girls in school who are also trying to figure out who they are. He is very troubled by how women are seeing men these days, the messages he receives from family, friends, school, and society on how to behave like a man, and what his own inner self is telling him.
Men are presented with 2 archetypes to choose from: the ALPHA male or the BETA male, yet how is a young man supposed to choose between those 2 if he doesn’t feel either one of them fits who he is? Are there in fact other archetypes men can identify with?
Are you an “Echoist”? What it is and how to overcome it.
Quote by Dr. Wayne Dyer; Meme from Facebook Narcissism is the topic du jour. We’re programmed to beware of gaslighting and avoid the red flags of extreme selfishness and a craving for attention. But…… Read more “Are you an “Echoist”? What it is and how to overcome it.”
Purge by fire… could this help you?
Once again I’m inspired by a fellow blogger to write a post. Katherin Garland writes about the need to release and purge people, energy, and memories from…… Read more “Purge by fire… could this help you?”
Growing older: giving myself permission to enjoy eating and to just be me
Jennifer Lambert? – last name unclear As a former Anorexic in my twenties, I spend almost 40 (!!) years disliking myself and mentally punishing myself for enjoying…… Read more “Growing older: giving myself permission to enjoy eating and to just be me”
The Universe sends us a trail of breadcrumbs to follow.
We need to pay attention to the trail of breadcrumbs that the universe sends us!
The universe doesn’t always send a large magnificent solution, that everyone would ooh and aah about, a sure sign of a miracle and of God’s love and benevolence.
The fact that he doesn’t often work that way isn’t a sign of our unworthiness!
Why we’re so attracted to people who end up abusing us
It isn’t just women who end up in relationships with abusers, narcissists, and bullies. Men end up in these kinds of relationships too. Photo by Tamara Kulish,…… Read more “Why we’re so attracted to people who end up abusing us”
We’re all a work in progress
Perfectionism is highly prized in the current fake world of social media, creating much added mental anguish for those of us who are highly self-critical. Separating ourselves…… Read more “We’re all a work in progress”
Our best intentions often fall to the wayside…
Quote from Indian Hills Community Center sign We all know what changes we want to make in our lives and in ourselves, sometimes we’re actually successful at…… Read more “Our best intentions often fall to the wayside…”
Reality-show syndrome has changed how we interact and what we find acceptable behavior in others
Reality-show syndrome has changed how we interact and what we find to be acceptable behavior in others. Show-boating and creating drama used to be looked down on…… Read more “Reality-show syndrome has changed how we interact and what we find acceptable behavior in others”
Start today, start tomorrow, just start!
I read this somewhere on Facebook I think, and really wanted to share this wonderful concept: Start today, start tomorrow, just start! What do I love most…… Read more “Start today, start tomorrow, just start!”
Tamara Kulish 