Years ago when I was interested in quite a few new activities, I had some people trying to helpfully tell me I needed to choose one, maybe two of the activities which interested me the most, and focus only on those.
Their reasoning was that I couldn’t possibly do more things well, and that I’d be dispersing my energies too thin.
This article was originally written and posted on another site following the events in Ferguson, Missouri.
***Please note, this article isn’t written to diminish the struggles of any group, to promote any group over another or even to pretend to have all the answers!
Unfortunately, we, collectively, haven’t seemed to make much progress towards seeing each other as individuals, rather than as a whole racial group.
Years ago I was a true skeptic when I heard about healing art, even though I was an artist myself!
As a Private art teacher I had seen the power of art as it transformed many people’s lives when people opened themselves to learning something new which brought them joy, yet I hadn’t directly experienced art as a tool for healing!
In hindsight it was obvious to me that I was denying the power art had in my own soul…
Love and caring are necessary components in helping someone to kick a drug habit, but unfortunately, they aren’t all what’s needed!
We’ve all known people who defer their happiness in the name of completing their goal, yet goals can shift imperceptibly, getting more elusive as time passes, leaving people stuck in a life habit of not enjoying their lives in the present time!
So, what are the steps we can follow to get to own our “Happiness”?
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
How easy is it to feel badly when we compare ourselves to others following a similar path?
Is it HEALTHY when we find our mind doing this, and how can we harness it?
We all want things to go as planned. It seems a like a huge disaster when something happens to throw us off track… if people are watching, we can feel humiliated, it’s as though we failed to deliver on the experience we had built up for ourselves (or perhaps for others) to expect.
In all our planning, and expecting certain results, we can become really thrown off by the unexpected, yet when we allow ourselves to spontaneously follow the flow, we may find ourselves surprised or even delighted!
What did I expect would happen when I found the answers I was looking for? Did I think I would live in a state of constant enlightenment?
Our fears can take many forms. This article talks about what can hold us back from pursuing our dreams and going all the way with them!
Even the strongest, most powerful people have or have had their fears. How we deal with them is key to not being held back by them!
I had a very positive response to one of my posts: the gentleman commented saying he’d love to write, but can’t fit in the time.
Getting into the practice of writing can be a slow easing-in process…
Have you been hearing a lot about learning to be grateful for whatever life gives you… even if life is throwing you a lot of curve balls lately?
Are you a Red ocean thinker or a Blue ocean thinker?
Hmmm… a new thought! What does this mean?
I’m seeing the desires of people around me, whether physically in my life, or virtually, through the Internet, the desires to change, to have their lives move forward, to be different.
There’s hesitation, almost trepidation of making the right choices, in choosing where they want their lives to go.
I’ve found personally that when I’m unhappy with myself/my life, that I need to step out of my depressed and negative mindset for a few moments, to be able to determine what I’m unhappy about (and saying “everything” won’t cut it!) to be able to figure out what my plan of action needs to be.
I’ve observed that in a multi-step plan, there are usually many smaller steps that I need to do in order to get to where I want to go, and that I need to be realistic in how long it will take me to get it done!
So, you wish to start thinking about making some changes in your life! …but how?
Whether it’s a New Year’s resolution or a decision at any time of the year, to making something change in one’s life is kind useless without a plan or a road-map! It’s easy to get overwhelmed by all that needs to be done, and then to throw up our hands in the air in disgust, and tell our selves it’s no use!
Please don’t do that! We all have issues, and we all have things we’re working on, even the people who seem practically perfect on the outside!
Tamara Kulish 