We as a culture have long held the belief that “we shouldn’t speak ill of the dead”, but that often doesn’t help the living to process their past traumas. Semi-deifying an abuser after their death only adds to the mental and emotional burdens of the living victims. Instead, we need to be able to speak honestly and factually about the past. This is very cleansing and allows those old shadows to be released.
Tag: abuse
Why do narcissistic people keep targeting us? Answers and tips below!
I came across the videos Brandon makes to help people understand the narcissists who keep floating into their lives. I highly encourage people to follow his videos…… Read more “Why do narcissistic people keep targeting us? Answers and tips below!”
Overcoming having been othered, and why you may not be as “different” or as rejected as you might believe!
I had to chew on this post by Dr. Stein, Alienation, Music, and Finding a Soulmate, for a little bit, probably because I spent many years feeling…… Read more “Overcoming having been othered, and why you may not be as “different” or as rejected as you might believe!”
Pushing beyond the stigma of “Self-healing” or “Self-help”
Kathy – K E Garland – has been quite frank in her book, In Search of a Salve, Memoir of a Sex Addict about her own self-healing…… Read more “Pushing beyond the stigma of “Self-healing” or “Self-help””
How DOES anger affect our health?
It may seem crazy or wacko to think that anger or our other emotions can affect our health, after all we’re really good at compartmentalizing our feelings,…… Read more “How DOES anger affect our health?”
Book review: It Ends with Us by Colleen Hoover
I was sure I was going to read a sexy romance when I read the blurb to “It Ends with Us” by Colleen Hoover. Little did I…… Read more “Book review: It Ends with Us by Colleen Hoover”
Will your kids end up going no contact with you?
After many years, I ended up going no-contact with my mother, but I’m emotionally supportive to my brother who has accepted the duties of visiting her occasionally…… Read more “Will your kids end up going no contact with you?”
Generational curses: are they breakable?
@PeacefulMindPeacefulLife “It’s up to us to break generational curses.When they say, “It runs in the family,” you tell them, “This is where it runs out.”@PeacefulMindPeacefulLife Generational curses…… Read more “Generational curses: are they breakable?”
Letters unsent
Do you ever write letters to people to get stuff off your chest, but don’t end up sending them? Unknown author Years ago I heard this was…… Read more “Letters unsent”
What are the benefits of staying a victim, vs. becoming a protagonist in our own lives, and how do we do that?
You wouldn’t think there would be any benefits to being a victim or perpetuating a victim mentality would you? Quote by Mariann Williamson It would seem too…… Read more “What are the benefits of staying a victim, vs. becoming a protagonist in our own lives, and how do we do that?”
Telling it like it is… is it brutal honesty or just being an a******? (Or is it about instigating drama and then stepping back to watch the show?)
I usually cringe when someone says something offensive, then shrugs it off saying they’re just saying it like it is. I don’t count myself as a prude…… Read more “Telling it like it is… is it brutal honesty or just being an a******? (Or is it about instigating drama and then stepping back to watch the show?)”
Our inner head space… doing the inner shadow work
Inspired by Jack Canfora’s post: “We Know What We Are, But Know Not What We May Be” where he brings up existential questions about life, our perceptions…… Read more “Our inner head space… doing the inner shadow work”
Does developing self-love and self-worth somehow create an invisible shield for defense from lies and bullying?
quote by Abdullah Shoaib “Does developing self-love and self-worth somehow create an invisible shield for defense from lies and bullying?” was an idea I have been mulling…… Read more “Does developing self-love and self-worth somehow create an invisible shield for defense from lies and bullying?”
Teaching our kids about adult predators in an understandable manner
We don’t want to have difficult discussions with our kids which expose them to the darker side of life and people, but it’s necessary, for their safety…… Read more “Teaching our kids about adult predators in an understandable manner”
Are you an “Echoist”? What it is and how to overcome it.
Quote by Dr. Wayne Dyer; Meme from Facebook Narcissism is the topic du jour. We’re programmed to beware of gaslighting and avoid the red flags of extreme selfishness and a craving for attention. But…… Read more “Are you an “Echoist”? What it is and how to overcome it.”
Tamara Kulish 