We as a culture have long held the belief that “we shouldn’t speak ill of the dead”, but that often doesn’t help the living to process their past traumas. Semi-deifying an abuser after their death only adds to the mental and emotional burdens of the living victims. Instead, we need to be able to speak honestly and factually about the past. This is very cleansing and allows those old shadows to be released.
Tag: death
Does asking for forgiveness in the final moments of life count?
I shared in “An important lesson I learned after my mother’s last hours” and “My mother’s passing and a deep lesson she learned” some deep lessons that have been…… Read more “Does asking for forgiveness in the final moments of life count?”
My mother’s passing and a deep lesson she learned
“And yet, it’s only when we truly grasp that our time is slipping away that the most beautiful part of us rises to the surface. Perhaps it’s…… Read more “My mother’s passing and a deep lesson she learned”
Life after Nihilism
The COVID-19 pandemic was our collective experience with Nihilism, a realization that we could die and no matter what we did or believed in would make any…… Read more “Life after Nihilism”
A Door or a Hole. Which do you choose?
Hopi Indian Chief White Eagle A friend re-posted the following to her feed, and the wisdom hit me hard! We always have a choice for how we…… Read more “A Door or a Hole. Which do you choose?”
You only live once? False. You live everyday!
You only live once? False. You live everyday! You only die once. Are you living your life where you feel alive? Are you living each day to…… Read more “You only live once? False. You live everyday!”
Know that your deepest gifts grow in the garden of your wounds.
“Know that your deepest gifts grow in the garden of your wounds.” – Traver Bohem Going through the dark night of the soul is gut wrenching and…… Read more “Know that your deepest gifts grow in the garden of your wounds.”
Forget the pain but never the lessons you gained.
“Forget who hurt you yesterday but don’t forget those who love you everyday.Forget the past that makes you cry and focus on the present that makes you…… Read more “Forget the pain but never the lessons you gained.”
Tamara Kulish 