“Anxiety, the illness of our time, comes primarily from our inability to live in the present moment.” – Thich Nhat Hanh
A lot of the strong ANGER we’re seeing erupting in so many people these days comes from a place of deep inner fears and anxieties.
When this level of fear and anxiety is expressed by some people, it gets vented out of them as ANGER, for giving way to one’s anger gives one a temporary sensation of taking control of the situation.
However, as we all know, strong expressions of anger usually comes out in a very destructive way.
How can we deal with our fears and anxieties so they don’t build up to the point of erupting into a tirade?
Our fears and anxieties come up within us when we envision all types of problems and negativity in our futures.
Probably 95% of what we’re getting ourselves worked up about won’t actually occur, yet we will spend close to 100% of our mental energies worrying, stressing and getting worked up about them
When we convince ourselves that what we’re getting worked up about is going to happen, then for many, the need to find someone to blame for all their mental anguish becomes necessary.
In more extreme situations, people feel pushed to the edge with their fears and anxieties, and will seek to take it out on whomever they feel “deserves” their full wrath.
We’re hearing and watching as story after story is presented in the news, of people whose fears fermented into anger, which in turn blew up into a tragedy.
Underneath each tragedy is someone whose mental health took such a deep hit from the narrative of the onslaught of negativity their fears and anxieties took on their spirits.
When we start to look at our fears and anxieties, and teach ourselves that 95% of what we’ve been envisioning WON’T EVER HAPPEN, we can start to LET THEM GO!
Letting go of our fears and anxieties then takes us out of projecting our minds into the future, and helps to bring us back to the present moment!
In dealing with my own fears and anxieties, I found that reading positive quotes helped to infuse inspiration into my spirit.
Once I started to feel more hopeful, drawing from the strength from the words of others, I was slowly able to start speaking positive , reassuring words to myself.
In the beginning it didn’t feel natural as my brain was fighting against the new direction I was pushing myself into. With time, repetition and mindful persistence I was able to slowly retrain my brain from automatically worrying and becoming anxious, to becoming more optimistic, and later on, joyful!
Trust me, this is quite a process!
You’ll need some good tools to help you through this journey, because simply trying to tell ourselves to do things differently rarely gives the results we crave, them we tend to blame ourselves.
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I relate so much to this! It is such a process to shift the mind away from those automatic paths of imagining all the worst case scenarios. But the peace that shift brings and the time to actually observe the present moment is so worth it. It feels like a whole new life. Thanks for so clearly expressing this process. I do feel it is so important to share this with others.
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😊😊 I’m so happy you have connected with this! Sounds like you’ve got it! Yes, this is such a huge shift! I feel grateful to have made that inner connection… it’s made all the difference in my mind and mental health! 🌸🌸🌸
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As someone with anxiety I absolutely agree. The main reason my anxiety is now under control is because I have spent a lot of time training my brain to stop automatically thinking of the worst case scenario every time something happens. Learning to live in the moment instead of fearing things that are probably never going to happen makes a huge difference!
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I hear you! I’ve struggled with anxiety and depression for most of my life! I worked hard to retrain my brain, and with a lot of practice it no longer immediately runs to the worst case scenario!
I know it’s doable to achieve, it just takes a lot of work to change those Neural Pathways!!
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A LOT of work and I personally am not fully there yet but I work on it as much as possible so my thinking habits can change.
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😎 keep going! It’s a continuous process I’ve found! It takes mindfulness to keep positive thou on tap, like choosing healthy foods and going for walks! These are choices we continue to make daily and weekly! It’s not like we can do any of them for a while and then be set for the rest of our lives! 😉
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Healthy foods and walks help a lot. Meditation is helping me have more control over my thoughts too. Yup it’s definitely something we need to practice daily!
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😊😊 indeed!
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Your post reminds me of a quote that had tickled me long time ago, it actually was very exciting for me to read too – Worry is a great misuse of our imagination – it had made so much sense and totally lightened up my little anxieties. I agree with you it is quite a long process to identify and change the patterns that come from a deep place of fear. It is so worth it too, as otherwise our fears and reactions to it keep eating at our wellbeing in so many ways. It is unbelievable how unaware we are of not being in the present in the moment and projecting from our past to the future, until we start learning.
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So true! I’ve spent some time trying to observe people, and the angriest people also seem to have the most fears.
I believe if we can collectively start to see this, we can start to address the fears!
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