“I don’t think people realize how much strength it takes to pull yourself out of a dark place mentally. So if you’ve done that today, I’m proud of you.” – Unknownunknown
I learned that the biggest thing pulling me down into that dark rabbit hole of depression was my non-existent sense of self worth, and my internalized belief that I deserved all the bad things happening in my life.
When I decided that I wanted to heal and not keep sliding down into that place, I realized I needed to teach myself how to like myself, because if I liked myself and felt I was worthy, then I wouldn’t beat myself up so badly every time I felt I had messed up!
That was a very difficult task because I was somewhat of an expert at tearing myself down!
The first thing I did, and trust me, when you try it too it will feel very strange and unnatural, was to practice not saying nasty things to myself. Instead, I was to speak gently, encouragingly to myself, like I spoke to my daughter when she was a little girl learning something new!
Wow, did that feel really stupid and weird.
I persevered in spite of how I felt, because I had been learning about Neural Pathways and how to create new ones!
I wasn’t pleased that all my thoughts and actions towards myself had created a virtual highway of Neural Pathways where beating myself up was my automatic go-to!
I really wanted to change that!
In order to change my Neural Pathways I knew I need to purposefully think new thoughts enough times to start creating new pathways which would become roads, and hopefully someday I’d even be able to retrain my brain to have extremely strong Neural Pathway highways as my new go-to’s.
This plan takes guts, patience and perseverance to keep at it!
If you’re thinking of trying this out for yourself, please remind yourself that it’s okay to start small!
Baby steps are perfectly okay, and may be much more manageable than trying to do it all at once!
Baby steps get us started and help to build confidence!
You are a worthy individual!
I’m proud of you for trying, and for trying again and again!
It took me many, many tries before I started to get the hang of it!
That’s pretty normal actually! Keep trying!
You are worthwhile to invest your time and effort into!
I’m sharing more post which may be helpful for you:
- 10 Steps to Owning Our Happiness
- Setting “Boundaries with consequences”
- Making a change… “How do I take that first step?”
- Affirmation: Today is a new day! I can do this!
- As we practice being gentle and kind with ourselves, we actually help to speed the process of helping our lives become more positive!
- Always believe that wonderful things can happen!
- A healthy outside starts from the inside!
- Brain Rewiring
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