The heaviest burdens that we carry are the thoughts in our head.
Usually when we’re struggling with depressive thoughts there’s a well-meaning person who advises us to “just not think about it”.
That’s not really helpful advice is it?
Our negative thoughts remain firmly lodged no matter how hard we try to ignore them or to push them out of our heads, right?
So what’s a person to do?
Trying to suppress thoughts actually backfires! Instead, if we drip positivity into our minds we can gradually displace the negative!
Though this may sound like sappy nonsense, I can attest that it works!
I had been physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually abused for many years which left me with no self-worth, deep anxiety and depression. My negative self-talk was overloading my brain many years.
I heard the analogy of a glass of dirty water which can’t be poured out can be made clean by pouring clear water into it.
The glass of dirty water represents our thoughts. We can’t just “pour them out”, it doesn’t work that way.
The best way to “deal” with our negative thoughts is to tell ourselves positive ones.
Try practicing suspending judgement of yourself. Then, instead of speaking harshly to yourself when you feel you’ve messed up, start to speak encouragingly to yourself. “I’ve got this!” “I’m learning and growing.” “I can do this!” “It’s okay. It will all work out!”
I’ve also found that affirmations and inspirational quotes have really helped me to relearn how think positively about myself.
I learned to have new positive thoughts, which hadn’t been taught to me during my years of abuse.
I learned to like and even to love myself. Those were HUGE steps.
I started with gentle, believable affirmations and built myself up from there.
One of my favorites?
“Always believe that something wonderful is about to happen.”
None of this may feel natural in the beginning, especially after a lifetime of negative self talk, so it will take patience and perseverance to keep speaking positive thoughts to yourself.
When I first heard of this concept, I sneered at it. It didn’t seem possible. It seemed too crazy.
Yet, when I hit a down point and was sick and tired of always feeling terrible about myself and my life, I decided to give it a try.
It felt awkward and weird. However, since others had sworn it worked for them, I decided to just keep trying.
What have you got to lose? Nothing to lose and everything to gain!
I’m sharing more post which may be helpful for you:
- 10 Steps to Owning Our Happiness
- Setting “Boundaries with consequences”
- Making a change… “How do I take that first step?”
- Affirmation: Today is a new day! I can do this!
- As we practice being gentle and kind with ourselves, we actually help to speed the process of helping our lives become more positive!
- Always believe that wonderful things can happen!
- A healthy outside starts from the inside!
- Brain Rewiring
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