Changing how I present myself!

There’s so many possible choices in how we present ourselves to the world: private life vs. business world; professional vs. informal; very informative vs. brief etc, I’ve tried on a few different approaches in my short years as an author and blogger, starting from my first site to this new one.

When I first started blogging I listened to many webinars where experts shared their advice. Some of the advice was very unique or even way out there, while other bits of advice seemed to be repeated with a few of the presenters. I’ve tried on a few different looks and approaches, totally overhauling my site each time.

When I first started. I named my site after the title of the first edition of my first self-published book. I was far too timid to try to claim my name as a .com, and so opted to hide behind the title of the book. It’s taken a few years and publishing a few more books before I could finally take the plunge into starting a .com site with my name!

Presenting my new site!

Finding my voice has been a work in progress… After trying out a few different approaches I’ve decided that being authentic to who I am is far more important than trying to emulate any of the experts out there! Their approach is great for them, but ultimately I need to just be me!

Now that I have a large enough body of work to present, I feel confident to just be me and allow my words and work to speak for themselves, without trying other people’s approaches! The 50 articles I’ve migrated over from my old site were curated from the many more I’ve written and since deleted! See Resource Articles! By going through the process of deleting posts which I felt weren’t projecting the message I want/ were messages I felt were way off topic etc and re-writing many of the articles to add more meat, I saw that the final cut consisted of articles I’m proud to present!

This new site ( has been a labor of love many years in the making – not that designing it was difficult, since WordPress is fairly simple to use!

My About page

I’ve rewritten my About page (see below and on the page). I think it better reflects who I am by giving some background about what I’ve gone through and how I came to writing about what I learned from my experiences.

I think the most difficult page to write was the on about me! I’ve tried a 3rd person approach, and an approach I thought was very professional, yet the more I looked at it, the more I realized that it sounded distant and cold. I’ve decided to scrap that format entirely and just take a more personal approach.

I welcome your comments and feedback!
Peace! Tamara

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Tamara Kulish SeatingWelcome! Like many of you, I’ve been through many difficult life experiences which in the first two thirds of my led me to becoming overwhelmed, depressed for periods and even to the point where I no longer felt I should be walking the earth anymore! What happened?

I was emotionally and physically abused by my mother, a deeply damaged person herself. This led me to feeling very comfortable around hurt or damaged people, hence my first marriage to an alcoholic and drug addict (cocaine and hash), where my lack or life coping skills led me to become depressed and an exercise anorexic in my efforts to exert some kind of control over my life. That marriage ended when he left me for another woman, as a severely co-dependent person who was finding her self-worth through other people, I then struggled to see myself as a woman worthwhile of other’s affections!

Another result of growing up with a hyper-critical mother: I yearned for and searched for acceptance and approval, both from people and most importantly I felt, Divine approval. This led me into not one, but two (successive) strict evangelical churches. Unfortunately, I didn’t receive what I was looking for. My health problems, as well as those of my daughter were seen by both congregations as being Divine retribution and “correction” by God for my supposed undisclosed sins. The ensuing way we were both treated led me directly to the point of feeling so worthless in the eyes of the very people I needed support from and in front of God, that I felt my only recourse was to remove myself from the face of the earth! I had it all planned out, until…

Enter my to-be second husband into my life. Yes what I learned from him about Native American spirituality showed a different and loving side of God I hadn’t heard talked about in the churches and which ultimately saved my life, but his own Narcissistic personality ultimately destroyed our marriage during a time that my youngest granddaughter had been re-diagnosed and did battle with her second round of cancer (stage 4).

My books, articles, inspiring art and photos are all the fruits of struggling to learn to heal from all those life events. I used positive quotes extensively in my healing process to learn to change and overcome the deep roots of my depressions and life struggles; read books slowly to be able to internalize new information and to learn to integrate the lessons into my soul and spent many hours meditating upon and praying about the new circumstances I was then going through, trying to keep putting into practice the lessons I had learned.

My inner transformation was a long and arduous process, as I wanted to make changes within me on a deeply heart-felt level. The publisher of my first book (an illustrated children’s book, now out of print), suggested I write down some of my philosophical thoughts and put them into a book. This astonished me that anyone would notice the changes I had worked so hard to accomplish within myself, but since he was my publisher, I felt I got a Universal green light! I started writing out my thoughts in very tiny notebooks and gradually progressed from being an artist who wrote into a writer! My books, articles and art are the direct results from having come out the other side of that tunnel and are the lessons I’ve learned as well as the very tools I used on my own healing journey! My goal is to help others on their healing paths in gently supportive ways!

Peace, Tamara

Encouraging Quotes
(link to Quotes Gallery on FAA)

I started adding quotes from the Healing Your Life on a Deep Heart Level book to some of my quirky photos and using those to embellish various blog articles… and I made them available on Fine Art America so everyone can have really awesome finished products!

 Dream job:

Work for Elon Musk as a Futurist with Environmental concerns! My background for this started when I was a child; my father collected Popular Mechanics and Popular Science magazines, and we would sit at the kitchen table for hours discussing different futuristic inventions and extrapolating to the future what we thought we’d see! Those discussions led me to become a problem solver!

See articles on website:

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10 thoughts on “Changing how I present myself!

  1. Many of the most powerful people I’ve met come from extremely difficult circumstances. These overcomers, as I like to call them, have much to share with the world. Not too many take the challenge to move out of the difficult parameters which tried to define them. Even fewer succeed. I count myself, and you too, as a few that have genuinely made it.

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    1. 😎 thank you so much! I’ve worked hard to transform from living the victim mentality (without realizing I was doing it) to learning to do the very hard work of overcoming and changing.

      I can attest that this process is very difficult! I’m here trying to give support and to give tips as much as I can!

      I believe that many more people can do this work too, but they need help and support!

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      1. The change seems to come about most often when we change from a soul bottled up in fear to one that expresses love. The turn around is very empowering.

        You have much to say that will help others. When we stay in this positive mindset the vibes are naturally soaked up.

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      2. Yes! Yes! Yes! I was timid before! I’m learning to step into my role more fully!!

        Thanks so much for your encouragement! You’ve become a great support! I appreciate your wonderful feedback!

        Peace, Tamara

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  2. It is indeed an honor and pleasure to connect with you. I relate to the journey of owning our experiences and becoming our authentic being in our expressions – the amount of courage it takes to keep rising above our own limiting perspectives. The process keeps unfolding amazingly I believe and the journey continues.

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    1. Thank you so much for your kindness and support! I value connecting!

      Life keeps amazing me with the layers of knowledge and the opportunities to put them into practice! Just when I think I’ve got the hang of it I learn of something new I can do to improve!

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